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In the modern era, some Muslims have become very sensitive to the question of shirk by considering any number of physical objects to be shirk. This includes sacred objects, shrines, etc.

(This idea primarily comes from Wahhabism and Salafism, but some other Muslims have taken it on board too.)

Similarly, Wahhabism and Salafism reject most forms of intercession as shirk, whereas many Muslims before that accepted the idea of intercession.

The Qur'an itself does not state that the notion of sacred objects is shirk. Rather, shirk is when you directly worship beings other than Allah.

So, keeping an alam, in and of itself, is not shirk.

Possibly, some views are cultural. Since alams are most common historically in Iran and the Indian Subcontinent, it has been more common for Shia in other regions, where alams were not common, to criticize the practice. (That is, it was seen as being culturally different and hence suspicious - man is an enemy of what he does not know.)

On the flip side, some Muslims in the Subcontinent have felt cautious about the cultural influence of Hinduism, and so for this reason try to avoid physical objects in devotional practices. (We tend to be most cautious about the things we are closest to, which might be seen as a competitor.) Although I think this is less common.

No Marja and no pious scholar will allow any non Mahram female to kiss or touch his hand directly. It is not allowed and the Marja will never allow it.


This is a nice idea. :)

I went on Amazon and searched "Ramadan decorations" and all the things that came up seemed appropriate to me. (Except for the ones for Eid, which should be specifically on/around Eid at the end of the month, but those are nice too.)

Of course I am not advocating Amazon specifically, just saying that it has some ideas. So maybe you could look at it and get ideas.

Also if you search "do it yourself Ramadan decorations" on Google, you will also see some ideas.

I am sure some people have more of an artistic sense than me and will have better ideas, this is just a preliminary suggestion!

Bismihi ta'ala

This is unacceptable. Whatever the family's religion may be, Muslims must honour and respect their families. Your wife has no right to do this. 

If she has certain concerns, you should address them. There might be something she has seen, like abuse, or intimidation, or trying to brainwash your son, etc... Try to pinpoint what the dispute is about, and deal with it. 

But if it is just because she has no respect for your family, this does not give her the right to deprive her son of visiting or being with his grandparents and family. 

With prayers for your success.