Motherhood

Bismillah Al-Rahman Al-Rahim. Al-Hamdulillah Rabb Al-Alameen wa as-salaatu wa as-salaamu 'ala ashraf al-anbiya'i wa al-mursaleen habibi ilahi al-'alameen Abil Qasimil Mustafa Muhammad wa 'ala ahli baytihi at-tayyibeen at-tahireen. Qala Allahu Ta'ala fi kitabihi al-kareem Bismillah Al-Rahman Al-Rahim. Wa wassayna al-insaana bi waalidayhi ihsaanah, hamalatu ummuhu kurhan wa wadhdha'athu kurha wa hamluhu wa fisaluhu thalathuna shahran hattaa idha balagha ashuddahu wa balagha 'arba'eena sana. Qala rabbi awzi'ni an ashkura ni'mataka allati an'amta 'alayya wa 'alaa waliday wa an a'amala salihan tardhah, wa aslihli fi dhurriyyati, inni tubtu ilayka wa inni min al-muslimeen (46:15). Wa salla-Llahu 'ala Muhammad wa 'ala ahli bayti tayyibeen at-tahireen.

Two days ago, we saw that the world celebrated International Women's Day. And it's a very beautiful act to celebrate and show respect to women and society. Because women make up the mothers, the sisters, the wife, the daughter. And also an integral part of society, how society is, society is productive not just because of men, but because of women as well. And it's a very good gesture, a very good act to celebrate and honour women, something that as much as we call for is still not enough.

Amir Al-Mu'minin Ali ibn Abu Talib, in his last moments, in his will, at the last moments of his life, he says 'Useekum bi adh-dha'ifayn.' He says 'I ask you to take care of women, take care of women.' He says, this is what Rasul Allah, sallallahu 'alayhu wa 'alihi asked people to do before he died. He asked people to take care of women in society and not oppress women in society. So this is excellent to have a day to remember and praise and show respect to women.

But we see that, unfortunately, it's become just an act of talk, it's become just talk, we're going to respect women, we're going to honour women. The society gives women equal rights, equal benefits. But we see that there is still disrespect, there's still inequality, economic inequality, social inequality against women, even in the era that we live in and in the country that we live in.

Someone would have thought that maybe this is something that just takes place in uncivilised countries. But you see, even here in the United States, women receive less pay than men for the same job. This is economic injustice, economic oppression. But then you find there is a worse type of oppression and injustice, and that is the social injustice, the way women are regarded, the way women are looked at. Where do you find how are women respected and how are women raised in society and elevated in society, usually because of their looks, because of how much makeup they put on or because of, you know, because of their status, whether they're a celebrity or not.

Just two days ago, there was the life of George Clooney, Amal Clooney. She's a lawyer and a world renowned lawyer. She went to the United Nations and she was speaking against the injustice that ISIS is doing in the Middle East. So she gave a very powerful, very important speech at the United Nations. And then the next day, you see TIME magazine, they're talking about her belly. They're talking about her that her pregnancy is showing. This is the cover of TIME magazine or I don't know if it's the cover or it's you know, the headline is Amal Clooney. Her belly is showing. It shows that she's pregnant.

This is what the society looks at. The looks and what is apparent, disregarding the hard work, the courage, the passion that many women have. And it just focuses on their looks. And here this is why we understand why Islam focuses on hijab and modesty and chastity, not because it seeks to oppress women and keep them hidden. No, if Islam sought to keep women hidden and not reveal themselves and no one hears of them and no one sees of them than the women of Islam, the women of the Ahlul Bayt, you wouldn't have heard anything about them.

But you see that these two months, Jamaadi Al-Awwal and Jamaadi Al-Thani, we are remembering women in Islam. Fatima az-Zahra, alayha assalam. We gathered and we remembered her martyrdom. Next week we remember her birth. And Fatima az-Zahra is no ordinary lady. We spoke last week and the week before about the role of Fatima az-Zahra in striving and seeking to establish justice in society, speaking against injustice, speaking against the tyrants of her time.

This was all done by a lady after the death of Rasul Allah sallallahu 'alayhi wa 'alihi. The role of Sayyida Zaynab, the role of Khadija. And also tonight we gather to commemorate the death of one of the most honourable and revered women in the history of Islam, and that is Umm Al-Banin. Umm Al-Banin, the wife of Amir Al-Mu'minin and the mother of Abbas and the brothers of Abul Fadhlil Abbas alayhimus salaam.

So Islam seeks to empower women, and it does not want society to just focus on the looks because here, this is what we were seeing, even here in the United States, they just focus on the looks. And if you want to see whether a woman is successful, they talk about her on the news and the media. You see that it's just in this in this context, the context of her beauty, her looks, how much makeup she has on, what type of dress she was wearing, and no one sits and talks about their achievements and what they have offered, their scientific achievements, their, you know, social achievements, what they have done.

So you see that there is injustice in parts of the Middle East where they just, you know, tell the woman you have to cover from head to toe and that's it, you have no role. But there's also injustice here. Let us not get ahead of ourselves and think that the West gave so much rights to women. No, we still need to seek and demand more rights of women here and in the Middle East, wherever, in both places. And this is what Islam seeks to achieve.

Now, today, I want to speak about one of the roles that only a female could carry out and no one else could take that task. No one could take that job. And that is the role of motherhood. This is a gift, a blessing that Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala has given only certain individuals in society, and that is the woman. Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala has given them this privilege, the privilege to become a mother, and it's not easy. Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala acknowledges that it's not easy.

The religion of Islam and the narrations that we have acknowledge that it's not an easy task, but it is a very rewarding task. It's so rewarding that Rasul Allah sallallahu alayhi wa alihi says "Paradise is under the feet of the mother." Meaning that if your mother is not satisfied with you, if your mother is not happy with you, then be the person who prays the most, fasts the most the best worshipper. Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala will tell you you have something missing.

You know, when you apply for, when you have an application, a job application or to get into university, there is a checklist of things that you do. Even if one of them is very good but if another is missing, then you still have a missing part in the application. So, satisfying your mothers, satisfying your parents as a whole and specifically your mothers, this is a religious duty that we all have.

Allah says in the Qur'an ' Wa qadha rabbuk anla ta'budu illah iyyah wa bil waalidayni ihsaana' (17:23). Allah has decreed that you do not worship anyone other than Him.' And then immediately Allah doesn't say and that you pray that you fast, that you give charity, that you do this and that. Allah says 'wa bil waalidayn ihsana' and that you show ihsaan towards your parents. Now here some scholars, they have pointed out the use of the word ihsaan.

Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala, in ordering us to deal with members of society we are ordered to deal with them with justice, adala. If someone abuses me, if someone says something to me, I have the right to say the same thing to that person. But with parents, Allah says you have to deal with them with ihsaan, meaning that even if they did something that I don't like. I have to always be the one who does ihsaan. I have to be always the one who goes the extra mile, I have to be the one who shows kindness.

Now, this is as a whole to the parents, and we find there is a specific order with regards to the mothers, specifically to your mothers. A man came to Rasul Allah, he tells him 'Who should I obey?' Rasul Allah tells him 'Your mother' and then he says 'And then who?' He says 'Your mother' and then he tells him 'And then who?' He says 'Your mother'. And then he says 'Your father.'

Rasul Allah sallalahu alayhi wa 'alihi tells the man 'Show respect and honour your mother'. Now, that doesn't mean that you don't show respect to your father, but the mother, there's a special place and a special command where Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala orders Muslims and all to show respect to the mother.

Now, your mother, she's not just your first caretaker, your mother is the first to take care of you. She's your first to love you. She's the first to teach you. She's the first to show compassion towards you. She's the first to love you before even seeing you. She's the first to show compassion and sacrifice for you before even getting to know you. Usually we become friends, we show compassion to people, once we meet them, once we get to know them. But with your mother, she begins to love you and honour you before she even gives birth to you.

And she sacrifices for your sake. Just the era, just the time of pregnancy is just nine months, but that's not it. Allah says in the Qur'an 'Wa hamluhu wa fisaaluhu thalathuna shahra,' (46:15) at least 30 months, two years, so that this little child grows and becomes somewhat independent. You know, studies show that in comparison with other animals, the human being is the longest, takes the longest out of all the mammals to grow and become independent.

You find other animals, you know, as soon as the cat, the mother gives birth, then as soon as the birth takes place then the cub or the, you know, the little animal, they become independent immediately. But with the humans, that's just when everything starts. That's when the sleepless nights starts. That's when the sacrifice starts. That's when so much struggles start. And this is just to have the child grow healthy, nurtured and, you know, be in a healthy shape.

This is not letting alone and putting aside the discipline and the teaching and the admonishments that the mother has towards her children. Your mother goes through pain for your sake before even getting to know you, before even looking at your face. She has sleepless nights because of you. So much pain she goes through just in the process of giving birth, just in the process of pregnancy, and then after that. Of course, the father goes through difficulties, too, but it's nothing compared to what the mother goes through. Nothing compares to what the mother goes through.

One scholar was saying that there comes a time in a person's life where his father carries him and then later on has passed and the mother carries him. But when your father was carrying you, he carried you when you were very light. He didn't even feel you. And when your mother carries you, she carried you when you become heavy and it's difficult, she can't even sleep comfortably because of the way that she's carrying you. And the process of giving birth, it's a difficult process that the pain that a female goes through. No one, no man goes through that pain.

This is why a man came to Rasul Allah, sallallahu alayhi wa 'alihi. Sallu 'ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad. [Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad wa 'aali Muhammad]. He told Rasul Allah, I carried my mother on my back. At that time, they didn't have wheelchairs. So he said, I carried my mother on my back and I took her to Hajj. I took her to perform the Hajj. I took her to Mina, to Muzdalifa, to Arafat, to Mecca to perform the tawaaf. The whole time she was on my back, I was carrying her. So after the Hajj, he came to the Prophet and he tells the Prophet 'Oh Rasul Allah, have I paid back my mother? Have I done enough?'

Now, that's a very difficult task. Some people, we can't even carry ourselves in Hajj. It's difficult. So this man, he says'I carried my mother on my back the whole time.' Rasul Allah tells him, 'You did not you, will not be able to pay back your mother, not even for the pain of one contraction that she went through.' Not for the pain of one contraction that she went through. You're never going to be able to pay back your mother. But all that you have to do is serve her, honour her, show love to her if she is alive and even after she passes away this Silat Al-Raham does not end. Many of us, we think that once our parents pass away, then that's it. We don't have to carry on the burden of caring for our parents and showing love to our parents anymore. No.

Imam As-Sadiq alayhi assalam, in a hadith, he says, there are some of us, some people they are 'aq il-waalidayn. They don't have a relationship with their parents. Once their parents die, they become barr il-waalidayn, they build their relationship with their parents. And there are some who are barr il-waalidayn, they have a relationship with their parents during their life. Once their parents die, they become 'Aq. Once our parents die, we still, you go to the grave, you still do good deeds, pay charity, give sadaqa, pray on their behalf. There's so much that a person could do on behalf of their parents. So no one is ever able to pay back their parents and specifically their mother.

Imam Zayn Al-Abideen, alayhi assalam, he has a treatise on rights Risalat al-Huquq, and I recommend every single one of us to take some time to go and read that. It's very easy to read. The Treatise on Rights by Imam Zayn Al-Abideen, Risalat al-Huquq. He has the rights of Allah, the rights of yourself, the right of your body, the right of the land that you walk on, so many rights.

And also he points out the rights of the mother and the rights of the father. He says 'Fahaqq ummak anta'lam annaha hamalatek. You have to know that she carried you.' She's the one who carried you. 'Haythu la yahmil ahadan ahada.' She carried you in a way; she carried you with the difficulties that no one carries anyone. Who is willing to carry another person for nine months? No one does that. Just your mother does that for you.

'Wa 'at'amatk min thamarati qalbiha ma la yut'im ahadan ahada.' And she fed you in a way, not just not just the milk, she fed you from her heart. She fed you everything that she has in a way that no one gives anyone. No one feeds anyone in that way. And then he says she sacrificed, she sacrificed her skin, her body, her hair, all of that she sacrificed for you. And, you know, this is true.

When a lady becomes pregnant, it takes a toll on her body. And for many women, the most beautiful thing, the most, you know, they really revere and respect their body and their looks and this is natural. But because of you, because carrying you, she was willing to sacrifice her own body for your sake. She was willing to sacrifice her skin, her hair, her body, all of that for your sake. So this is the right of the mother. And this is why the Imam says that you will never be able to repay your mother.

She gave you. You know, he says that she she would make sure that you are sleeping comfortable while she's not sleeping comfortable. She would make sure that you are fed well, even if she is not fed well, that you are dressed well, even if she is not dressed well. This is all the sacrifice of the mother for the sake of her children. So this is why we have to show respect to our mothers. We have to show respect to our parents as a whole and specifically to our mothers, because this is the wasiyah 'Wa wassayna al-insaana bi waalidayhi ihsaana'(46:15). Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala says, We have decreed, We have ordered upon upon the insan the human, to show ihsan towards his parents and then Allah says 'Hamalathu ummuhu qurhan wa wadha 'athu qurha'(46:15). Your mother carried you in difficulties and she gave birth to you in difficulties. 'Wa hamluhu wa fisaluhu thalathuna shahra'(46:15). The pregnancy and the suckling, it takes 30 months at least. 'Hatta idha balagha ashudda wa balagha 'arbaeena sana.' Then once he becomes strong, once he becomes powerful, that's the time that you see life and time has taken its toll on your parents.

That's the time that you see that they can't move very easily. That's the time that you see that they can't go from point A to point B very easily. They want to get water. It's difficult for them. They want to go to the doctor. It's difficult for them. 'Hatta idha balagha ashudda wa balagha 'arbaeena sana. Qaala rabbi awzi'ni.' This is the mu'min, the believer. 'Qala rabbi awzi'ni an ashkura ni'mataka allati an'amta 'alayya wa 'alaa waliday wa an a'amala salihan tardhah, wa aslihli fi dhurriyyati, inni tubtu ilayka wa inni min al-muslimeen (46:15).

That's the time that he realises that this is the time that I have to take care of my parents. In another verse, Allah says 'Wakhfidh lahuma janaaha dhulli minal rahmah.' (17:24) bring down the wings of humility for your parents, out of mercy. It's okay to sometimes bring yourself down. You don't have to always raise your head and be very proud. With your parents, it's ok because they have a right over you. They took care of you. If it wasn't for your parents, you wouldn't be here. Show that love, show that respect to your parents and honour them. These are the teachings of Islam.

These are the teachings of Islam. If someone wants to get to know Islam, tell them this is the teachings of Islam. This is what Islam calls for. Many of us, we have a completely different idea of what Islam is, praying, fasting. Yes, we have to do all of that. We have to do all of that. But if I am praying, I'm fasting. I go to Hajj, I do all of my duties and I neglect the closest people to me. Then there is a problem with my prayer. There's a problem with my actions.

You know, one day a man, he came to the Prophet and he told him 'I want to go out and perform jihad.' The Muslims, they were all going out to perform jihad. But then the man he tells Rasul Allah, 'But I have my parents at home and I want to go and perform jihad, but I'm the only caretaker for my parents.' Rasul Allah sallalahu 'alayhi wa 'alihi, he tells him 'Stay and take care of your parents. You don't need to go and perform jihad. Your jihad is taking care of your parents.' And then he says, ' Walladhi nafsi biyadih, I swear by Allah who my soul is in His Hands, walladhi nafsi biyadih la unsuhuma bika yawman wa layla khayrun laka min jihadi sana.' He says 'I swear by Allah, your parents, having uns, your parents being satisfied with you for one day and one night, this is better than jihad in the way of Allah for one full year. One full year, you go out and you perform jihad. If you are able to make your parents happy for one day and one night, this is better and more rewarding for you than jihad for one year, 'la unsuh huma bik.

Sometimes some parents, they don't need much. They just want to see their sons, their daughters sitting with them, spending time with them. Sitting, talking with them, socialising with them, having dinner with them, having lunch with them, they don't require much sometimes. This is what brings happiness to them, seeing that my whole life, I raised this child, I raised my son, my daughter. Now they're sitting with me. This is something that they appreciate.

So this is something that the religion of Islam calls for and one of the most important principles of the religion of Islam. Now, some people, they come and they ask, what if my parents are nonbelievers? What if my parents are non-Muslims? This is something, this was something that used to happen very frequently during the life of the Prophet. Why? Because many were converting to Islam. They would convert to the religion of Islam and their parents were still idol worshippers. Their parents had not converted to the religion of Islam. So they would come to the Prophet, they would come to the Imams, and they would ask them, what about my parents? What am I supposed to do with my parents? The verses, the verses that order, love and compassion, they came down in that context. When your parents are not Muslim, you have to show that much compassion. Now, imagine if your parents are Muslim, how much compassion and love you have to show them.

One of the companions of Imam Al-Sadiq, alayhi assalam, by the name of Zakariah ibn Ibrahim. This man, he was a Christian and he saw Imam Al-Sadiq alayhi assalam, and he converted to the religion of Islam. So he came to Hajj, to perform the Hajj. He saw the Imam in Mina and usually before the place of Hajj was a place where people from all over the Muslim world, they would come and they would see their Imam. And we have a narration that says that the Imam attends the Hajj, meaning that even the Imam of our time, he attends the Hajj, he sees the hujjaj and maybe he sees us. He definitely sees us. Maybe we see him, but we don't know that we have seen him. So the Imam attends the Hajj and even during the times of the Imams, one of the other Imams.

So Imam Al-Sadiq 'alayhi assalam, he's in the Hajj, this man, Zakariah Ibn Ibrahim, he comes to the Imam and he tells him, my mother is Christian. My mother is in Kufa, she's in Iraq and she's a Christian, she's not a Muslim, but I have converted to the religion of Islam. What am I supposed to do with my mother? The Imam tells him 'Now that you have become a Muslim, now you have to show more respect to your mother. Now you have to show more love to your mother. You have to honour your mother, respect her, take care of her, provide for her needs, anything that she needs'.

So this man, Zakariah Ibn Ibrahim, he goes back after the Hajj, he goes back and he sees his mother. He begins to take care of his mother, he begins to wash the feet of his mother. He begins to feed his mother. She became frail. She became sick. He started feeding his own mother, taking care of him. She noticed. She tells him 'Oh my dear son, I see that you treat me different. You used to treat me in one way and now you're treating me much differently.' He tells her 'Yes, this is because I have joined the religion of Islam. And my master, Ja'far Al-Sadiq, he is the one who told me to perform this.' She tells him who is Ja'far Al-Sadiq? Is he a Prophet? He tells her 'No, he's not a Prophet. He's one of the descendants of a Prophet.' She tells him 'This is the akhlaq of Islam? Then I bear witness that there is no God other than Allah. And Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah.' She became a Muslim and then she passed away.

So this man, he goes and he tells the Imam that 'My mother became a Muslim.' The Imam tell him 'See, this is because of the akhlaq, that the religion of Islam preaches, this is what the religion of Islam calls for.' If you want blessings in your life, if you want anything good to happen in your life. There are multiple doors, but one of the most important doors is through the parents, keeping the parents happy, keeping the parents satisfied, and especially the mother, especially the mother.

In a hadith by Rasul Allah sallallahu 'alayhi wa 'alihi. Sallu 'ala Muhammad wa aali Muhammad. [Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad wa 'aali Muhammad], he says 'Man sarrahu an yumadd fi umrih wa yazdaadu fi rizqih fal yamsi baarran li waaliday wa sulan li rahima.' He who wishes to have a prolonged life, 'Man sarrahu an yumaddu fi umrih wa yaz daadu fi rizqih' and his sustenance to become more. What does this person have to do? 'Fal yamsi baarran li waaliday,' let this person be baarr. Baarr means that this person is connected. This person respects, honours, takes care of his or her parents.

'Wa sulan li rahima.' Also not just the parents, not just the, your family, your brothers, your sisters, your cousins, your grandparents. This is what the religion of Islam called for. You come and you build a relationship with them. Keep that relationship strong. Keep that bond very strong. There are so many blessings that come with this. One day, Prophet Musa alayhi assalam, he asked Allah, 'Ilaahi, who is my neighbour in paradise?' Who is the neighbour of Prophet Musa in Paradise. So Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala tells him 'Your neighbour is fulaan, this person in this village, you could go and find this person.'

So Prophet Musa alayhi assalam, he goes in search of his neighbour in paradise. Who is going to be the neighbour of Prophet Musa, one of the Ulul 'Azam Prophets? A Prophet that saved all of the Israelites, he saved them from Fir'aun. He's the one who helped them. And, you know, Prophet Musa didn't do something very easy. So whoever is in the task of Prophet Musa must be someone at a very esteemed high level.

Prophet Musa, he goes, he asks where is this person? He finds where this person is, he sees that his neighbour in paradise is a butcher, someone who is a butcher. So he's surprised, then he goes, he wants to see what does this person do that's so special in his life. Is he praying his whole life? Does he give charity? What is this person doing that's so unique and special? He looks at this person, he sees that this person hasn't done something, you know, very unique, very different from what other people in society are doing.

Then he tells this person, he doesn't tell him he's Musa. He doesn't tell him he's a Prophet of Allah. He acts as a stranger, he tells him 'I want to stay the night with you. I came from a different village, from a different town, I want to spend the night with you.' That man tells him 'Yes, ahlan wa sahlan, come and stay with me.' Prophet Musa wants to stay that night just so he could see what does this person do that is so unique, that is so strange, that makes him become the neighbour of prophet Musa.

He sees that this person who goes and he sleeps, nothing unique so far. He was expecting that this person gets up and prays the midnight prayers, salaah. Then in the morning, he sees that this man, this butcher, before leaving his home, he goes into a room in the house. He spends a short while in the house and then he comes back. So Prophet Musa tells him 'What did you do? Who's in that room?

He tells him 'My mother is in the room. And my mother is sick. My mother is paralyzed, so I have to wash her, I have to change her clothes. I have to feed her, I have to take care of her. And I have to feed her, I have to chew the food and then place it in her mouth. So that she could eat because she doesn't have teeth.' So Prophet Musa tells him 'What does your mother say to you?'

He says 'With every bite that I place in her mouth, she tells me 'Oh Allah make him the neighbour of Musa.' With every bite I place in my mother's mouth, she does a du'a. She says 'Oh Allah, make this person be the neighbour of Prophet Musa.' Prophet Musa tells him 'I am Musa and I have come to give you the good news that you will be my neighbour in paradise.' Just because his mother does du'a for him.

This is the blessings, the du'a of the mother, what the du'a of the mother could do, it goes very far. And of course, it could also be a source of misery in a person's life. How? If their mother is not satisfied with them. If a person, if a person's mother is not satisfied with that person, that could be a source of misery and doom for that person's life.

There was a man during the time of the of the Prophet, Rasul Allah sallallahu 'alayhi wa 'alihi. This man, they came and they told the Prophet 'This young man is dying.' He's in sakarat il-mawt, those last moments before death, but he's suffering, he's not able to die.' You know, some people, they have a very long journey where it's very difficult and others, they die immediately. So they told the Prophet 'Oh Rasul Allah, come to this person and see what you can do to help this person, to relieve this person's suffering.'

Rasul Allah, he came, he asked about this person. Did he pray? Did he fast? Did he fulfil his obligations? They tell him 'Yes, he was always in the Masjid. He prayed. He did everything'. Then the Prophet 'What's missing from this person's life? If he did everything, then why is this person still suffering in this way during his last moments? So Rasul Allah said 'Does this person have a mother? Where is his mother?'

So his mother, she came. Rasul Allah tells her 'Are you pleased with your son? Are you satisfied with your son here?' The mother with all honesty, she said, 'No Oh Rasul Allah, he hurt me. I took care of him. I sacrificed so much for him. I did all that I could do for him just so I could see him grow up, become healthy, become successful. But then he turned against me. He would abuse me. He would hurt me. He would constantly neglect me and abuse me. And to be honest, I'm not happy with him. Rasul Allah says 'This is it. The reason why this person is suffering is because you are not satisfied with him. So if you are pleased with him, his suffering will end.' The Prophet says, the mother, she says 'I can't Oh Rasul Allah, it's too difficult, it's too difficult.'

So Rasul Allah, he orders the muslims to bring fire, to bring fire and gather wood. And then he tells them to light the fire. They light the fire in front of the mother and then Rasul Allah, he tells the, take him and throw him in the fire. Right away, the mother she says, 'Oh Rasul Allah! You want you want to burn my son?' The Prophet tells her 'Because you are not satisfied with him, he is going to burn in a fire that is much more severe than this fire that you see in your eyes, that you see in front of you.'

Then the mother, she says, 'I am pleased with him Oh Rasul Allah.' And this is the heart of the mother. She says, 'Oh Rasul Allah, I'm pleased with him. Please, I don't want to see him suffering. Then Rasul Allah sallallahu 'alahi wa 'alihi, he taught him a du'a, he taught him a du'a. And that man, he tells Rasul Allah to repeat that du'a after Rasul Allah sallallahu 'alahi wa 'alihi .

And the du'a says 'Ya man yaqbal ul-yaseer wa ya'fu an il-katheer iqbal minni il-yaseer wa'fu unni il-katheer.' Oh he 'Ya mayyaq balul yaseer.' Allah, He accepts the very little that we do. 'Ya man yaqbal ul-yaseer wa ya'fu an il-katheer,' and He forgives the many sins that we have. 'Iqbal minn il-yaseer,' accept the little that I have done and disregard the many evil and sins that I have committed in our lives, in my life.

So here from the story, we learned that huquq al-waalidayn, it stops a person from performing the Shahada at the end of their life. You won't be able to say the Shahada when you are dying. Once Rasul Allah taught the man to say this, that man began to speak. He says 'I feel that something very dark and ugly was lifted away from me. It was choking me. It was lifted. And now I see a very bright luminant spirit or a light coming to me'. And then he said the Shahada and then the man passed away. But because his mother was not satisfied with him, he was not able to perform the Shahada. So we have many stories.

There are many stories in the Qur'an, from the Ahlul Bayt, from the Prophet about showing respect and honouring the parents and especially the mother. Because the mother, she's not just the caretaker. She's not just someone who raised you. She's your first teacher. She's the first to love you. She's the first to respect you. She's the first to see the beauty in you.

You know, when a baby is first born, usually babies, they're not very good looking as soon as they're born. But the only one that sees the beauty is the mother. The only one that looks at that child and does not see anything wrong with that child is the mother. So, this is the task of the mother, and this is why it's a very respectable, very honoured position in the religion of Islam. Although today we see in our societies, motherhood is placed aside. Go, women are taught, go and become successful, become this and that. Go and pursue all of your dreams and then keep motherhood for later on once you're older.

No. Motherhood, it's a it's a very sacred task that Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala has given only to a certain group, certain group of the creation, and that is the females. And motherhood is not an easy task. Fatima az-Zahra alayha assalaam, wasn't she a mother? Khadija, wasn't she a mother? Sayyida Zainab, wasn't she a mother? Many respectable women in society that are honoured and respected and praised, being a mother did not stop them. It did not stop them from reaching their highest potential.

In fact, sometimes by becoming a parent, by getting married, you are going to be able to reach your potential in life much faster and much quicker because you're going to be more determined. You're going to set a goal in life and you're going to work harder for that goal. Many people who don't have a goal in life, you see that they're pursuing something. But then it's very difficult to reach it. But then when you are on the path of marriage, the path of motherhood, the path of parenting, you're going to dedicate your time and any time that you have for your to reach your goal and to reach your ambitions and potential in life.

So it does not stop you from becoming who you want to be. And in fact, sometimes it could help you become a better person. It could help you see what your goal in life is. Sometimes our goals in life, we don't know exactly what we want. We are pursuing something. Then later on, once we're older, we realise we were after the wrong thing. When you have a family, your goal in life, you're going to be able to see your goals in life much easier. You're going to see what this life is, what the beauty of this life is.

And the task of motherhood, that is one of the sacred tasks, sacred positions, that Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala has given only to the woman. And motherhood and parenting for some, parenting for them, it's just, you know, give your kids clothes, feed them, give them food and that's it. That's parenting. That's not just parenting. Parenting is much more than that.

Parenting is a sacred task that Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala has given certain people that he chose. And with motherhood comes also responsibilities. With parenting comes responsibilities. Some parents we just seek to empower and make sure that our kids, our children are healthy in this life. And we neglect the afterlife. But a real parent, a parent who who sees the future of their children, they don't just care for their children's future in this life, they care for their children's future in this life and the afterlife, because that is the real life.

And Allah says in the Qur'an 'Ya ayyu alladhina aamanu qu unfusakum wa ahleekum naaran waquduhan naasu wa al-hijaara.' (66:6) Protect yourselves and protect your family for the afterlife. Now someone suffers a few days in this life difficulties in this life, that's it. This life ends for all of us, every single one of us. We're going to have to leave. But the afterlife, that is the essence, that is what we should care for, that is what we should strive for, for ourselves and for our children.

And this is why we remember Umm Al-Banin. Umm Al-Banin, the wife of Amir Al-Mu'minin. What made her so special? Amir Al-Mu'minin, he had other wives as well. There were many women. Umm Al-Banin, she's not from Bani Hashim. She's from a different tribe of the Arabs, Bani Kilaab. Now, what made Umm Al-Banin so special? Today you go to Baqi', if you in Madina and you stand in Baqi', you see that there are so many companions, many of the wives of the Prophet. No one. There's no, there's not many people standing over their graves.

But you always find a crowd over the grave of Umm Al-Banin. Until today Umm Al-Banin, she's in the hearts of the lovers of the Ahlul Bayt, why? Because she showed love to the Ahlul Bayt and she taught her children, she raised and nurtured her children with the love of the Ahlul Bayt alayhimu assalaam. And because of that task, Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala has placed her love in the hearts of the mu'mineen. All of the mu'minin, they find an attachment to Umm Al-Banin.

Why? She was the wife of Amir Al-Mu'minin, but she had her sons. The joy for her eyes, the beauty in her life, she had four sons, but she sacrificed all of them in the way of the Sons of Fatima, in the way of the Ahlul Bayt alayhimu assalaam. Her whole life was a life of sacrifice for the sake of the Ahlul Bayt. Even when Amir Al-Mu'minin married her, when he first married her, he saw that she was very beautiful.

He asks her. Her name was Fatima Bint Huzaam Al Kilaabiyyah. He tells her 'Oh Fatima, what do you require of me? What can I give you? It's your wedding night. What can I give you?' She tells him 'Don't call me Fatima anymore, because every time you call me Fatima, this breaks the heart of Hasan and Husayn and Zainab and Umm Kulthum. So Amir Al-Mu'minin, he named her Umm Al-Banin, the mother of the sons.

And she gave sons. She had four sons. And she raised them. She raised them her whole life, she raised them to sacrifice and show love to the sons of Fatima, to the sons of Rasul Allah sallallahu 'alayhi wa 'alihi. This is why on the day of Ashura, the sons of Umm Al-Banin, Abul Fadhl Abbas and the brothers of Al-Abbas, right away without any hesitation, they went to sacrifice their lives for the sake of their brother Imam Al-Husayn.

Even Shimr ibn dhil-Jawshan, he came with a letter the night of Ashura. He came with a letter from Ubaidullah ibn Ziyad. And this letter, it was not meant so that the battle could be defeated much quicker. This was meant to break the hearts of Imam Al-Husayn, to break the back of Imam Al-Husayn. In the letter, he tells him, Shimr, he calls Al-Abbas and the brothers of Abul Fadhl Abbas and he tells them 'I have given you amaan, I have given you safety.'

Right away, they ripped, the letter right in front of him. They tell him 'Wayhak! Tu'tina al-amaan wa ibn ar-Rasull Allah la amaana lah? You give us safety and sanctuary and the son of Rasul Allah, the family of Rasul Allah, you don't give them sanctuary?' And they rip the letter and they all were killed in the way of Imam Al Husayn. But Umm Al-Banin alayha assalam, she stayed in Madina waiting for the news to come to her, waiting for the news to come to her.

Once the news came to her she cried. She shed so much tears for Imam Al-Husayn before crying for her own children, before crying for her own sons. They say that she used to go to the Baqi', to the cemetery of Baqi', and she would make four graves, four mock graves. And then she would start and she would cry. She would. And then she would have a fourth grave, a fifth grave next to it, next to them. And then she would destroy those four graves and then she would sit and cry over that fifth grave symbolizing the grave of Imam Al-Husayn alayhi assalam.

She would sit in the Baqi' and cry that even Marwan, Marwan ibn Hakam, he was the governor of Madina, he would sit and he would pass by her and he would cry when he sees Umm Al-Banin crying for her sons and crying for Imam Al-Husayn. She would sit and call out ' La taduwanni wayki Umm Al-Banin! Tudhakirini bil yuthil areen. Don't call me on Umm Al-Banin anymore because when you call me Umm Al-Banin, you remind me of my sons.'

'La tad uwanni wayki Umm Al-Banin! Tudhakirini bil yuthil areen, kaanat banun ulli li ya'ud'aa bil wa aliyawm asbahtu walaa min banin layta sha'ri akama akhbaru bi anna Abbasal qatee'a al-yameen. She would cry when she remembers her sons and the sons of Rasul Allah.

'Ana laagha ya fa 'ala dharbi dhaun wa saahihil yarhuni wa yajun qil man ila ghaya bi yalfun wa ana gha'ibi billah admadfun. La hawla wala quwata illa bi-Llah al-aliyyi al-adheem. Inna li-Llahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un.'

Let us raise our hands in du'a. There are many who are sick, they called out the name of the brother who was sick and in need of our du'a and there are many who have asked us for du'a and especially by the name of Umm Al-Banin. You do a nidhr, a vow, you ask Allah by the love and the position of Umm Al-Banin. Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala will answer your du'a.

Na as'aluka Allahumma wa nad'uk bismiKa al-adheem al-a'dham. 'Ala azzal ajal al-ikrami Ya Allah. Ya Allahu Ya Rahmanu Ya Raheem Ya muqallib al-qulub, thabbit qulubana 'alaa deenik. Allahumma ghfirli al-mu'minina wa al-mu'minaat al-ahyaai minhum wa al-amwaat taabi'i allahumma baynana wa baynahum bil khayraat. Innaka mujeebu da'awaat. Innaka ghaafir ul-khati'aat. Innaka 'alaa kulli shay'in qadeer.'

Let us also recite this verse three times for the shifaa of the sick. Bismillah Al-Rahman Al-Rahim "Amman yujeebu 'lmudtarra idaa da'aahu wa yakshifu 's-sooo'" (27:62), "Amman yujeebu 'lmudtarra idaa da'aahu wa yakshifu 's-sooo'", "Amman yujeebu 'lmudtarra idaa da'aahu wa yakshifu 's-sooo'".

Wa al-hamdulillah Rabb Al-Alameen wa sallallahu 'ala Muhammad wa 'ala alihi at-tahireen.