As a virgin Muslim girl, you need your father's or your paternal grand father's approval for your marriage. If your father's refusal is based on un Islamic reasons, then you might try convincing him through your relatives of family friends who can talk to him. You should always keep the respect for your parents and never utter a word which can harm their feelings.
In case your father insists on rejecting for un Islamic reasons, you can refer to you Marje' of Taqleed and seek his advice or verdict after explaining your situation.
Our great scholars who are Maraaje’ of Taqleed have studies all the Hadiths regarding marriage including this Hadith mentioned in your question and gave clear verdict that marriage between Mo'mina and Mo’min is allowed with out the condition of being Sayyed or not Sayyed. Great Sayyed Ulama have given their Sayyed daughters for marriage to non Sayyed Mo’mins like Ayatullah Khomeini who gave his daughter to Shaikh Eshraqi, Ayatullah Sayyed Muhsin Al-Hakeem who gave his daughter to Shaikh Hasan Najaf, Ayatullah Gulpaygani who gave his daughter to Shaikh Saadi and many other great Ulama.
In some countries culture such marriage is not accepted, but culture can never change the Sharia of the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS).
Have you expressed your concern about this to them? Have you spoken about not only how it is haram, but also how it will deprive them of barakah and tawfiq in their lives? Try your best to politely explain all of this, and remind them.
If they still insist on having haram elements in their wedding, I would recommend you attend only the essential parts of the wedding, so as not to create conflict and future problems for yourself, as he is your brother. You can then excuse yourself, once there are haram things. If anyone objects, or gets upset, that is for them. You cannot obey or please someone at the cost of disobeying and displeasing Allah ta'ala.
Virgin girl needs the permission of her father or her paternal grand father in her marriage.
Non virgin woman does not need her parents' permission in her marriage. Man also does not need permission in his marriage.
If your parents are not happy with your marriage for religious grounds like the person is non Muslim or non believer or non religious etc, you should avoid such marriage. If their disapproval is based on cultural or ethnic or economic reason which are not valid in Islam, you will not be harmed as far as you follow the teachings of the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS).
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