1. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims
  2. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

24 Questions

What is the punishment for children who raise their hands upon any of their parents and hitting them? What should parents do with such a child?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Mistreating any of the parents is very dangerous and it is a major sin which leads the sinner to hellfire beside causing misery in his life in this world. Parents need to study the reasons of this misbehaviour and try their best to make their children understand what is right and what is wrong. One of the possible reasons can be bad friends or watching bad films etc.

It is really a big challenge for the parents and they need to take advice from specialists beside seeking help from Allah (SWT).

Wassalam.
My mother is verbally abusive to my wife. My wife is a good mother and wife and I love her. But my mother absolutely hates her. What is my duty to both of them?
Rebecca Masterton

It is unacceptable for a mother-in-law to be verbally abusive to her daughter-in-law. Verbal abuse, jealousy and hatred to that extent can be part of a personality disorder. I can recommend researching in detail the characteristics of the malignant, narcissistic woman and mother. In insulting someone you love, she is also abusing you.  Mothers with a narcissistic personality disorder (as opposed to just being self-centred) are competitive in terms of who their child loves most.

How your children see you behave with your mother and wife will affect their own marriages down the line. Can you ask your mother not to verbally abuse your wife? If you feel you can't, that is revealing something about how your mother has trained you to relate to her, i.e. to remain passive and take the abuse; to not have enough self-worth to even politely ask her not to be verbally abusive.

Your duty is to love and protect your wife. You are the head of your household. You also have to protect the well being of your children. If they see their mother being abused their well being will be affected too. 

According to Ayatollah Dastghayb-Shirazi, you are entitled to minimise or even cut ties with family members whose bad behaviour you can't reform, or whose bad behaviour gets worse by your presence, or whose bad behaviour you indirectly condone by co-operating with them. Being good to your parents does not mean condoning behaviour that could destroy your family.

https://www.al-islam.org/greater-sins-volume-1-sayyid-abdul-husayn-dastg...
Is it permissible for a Muslim girl to visit a psychiatrist and undergo therapy? Is it permissible to talk to them about a sexual assault undergone by her, or will that be disallowed as revealing the sin of another person?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Muslim female should go to female psychiatrist and get required therapy from females.

Talking about your previous sins is not good unless it is advised by the doctors as part of the treatment. 
Wassalam.
What does Islam say about abusive parents? The children get mentally affected and traumatized and, sometimes, they yell at them in retaliation. Is that allowed?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Parents are not allowed to do injustice against their children or any of them. Being abusive with people is not an Islamic way to behave. Yet, if the parents or any parent becomes abusive, the children are never allowed to yell at them under any circumstance. Allah says in Quran about treating your parents: And never tell them Uff (any word of annoying) and never raise your voice at them. (17:23).

There is no question of retaliation we deal with our parents, no matter how bad might be. Even Kafir (disbelieving) parents who insist on their children to become disbelievers, must be treated in nice way. Allah says in Quran (If your parents strive to make you a Mushrik (polytheist), don't obey them, and deal with them nicely and kindly)(Sura 31, verse 15).

Wassalam.