Marriage

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a culturally and often legally recognised union between people called spouses. It establishes rights and obligations between them, as well as between them and their children (if any), and between them and their in-laws. It is nearly a cultural universal, but the definition of marriage varies between cultures and religions, and over time.

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Marriage . Father . Mother . Brother . Mut'a (Temporary marriage) . Grandparents

Is it allowed to keep a Mutah marriage confidential if her father and grandfather are deceased, but her mother and brother are alive? Does she need their consent in this situation?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 8 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

In our Islamic tradition and culture, relationships are not just personal and individual. It is the coming together of two families. It should not be done in secrecy. That is a big red flag. How will he maintain his respect to her, if she's gone behind her family's back and done the most important thing in her life, without telling her family.

As is most cases, the male will definitely use this in a way that he will not show accountability to her family, and many other wrong things.

If she has not been married before, and even if she has been married, involving family is very important.

And Allah knows best

199907

Scholars . Marriage . Polygamy . Western Society

When scholars discuss marriage, such as in lectures, they often refer to a one husband and one wife model, akin to Western monogamous norms. Does this imply that Islamic polygamy has become irrelevant in contemporary discussions?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 9 months ago

Islamic rules can never be irrelevant in any time or place. Islamic rules apply every where and every time according to its conditions and the circumstances. Polygamy has its own conditions for those who need it. Western monogamy is just a claim when their own studies confirm that most of them have illegitimate affairs during marriage while Islam is frank and clear in dealing with matters by organizing a system to protect people from sinful sexual behaviour.

Wassalam.

199592

Marriage

My father insists that I marry a Sunni man, but I wish to marry a Shia man. What options do I have, as I feel helpless in this situation?

Bismihi ta'āla

Your father has no right to insist or force anyone onto you. This is haram for him to do, and it is completely your choice, and he must respect that. It might be difficult for you to express yourself to him, and you might feel pressured, but do not give in, unless you are absolutely convinced on who you wish to marry, whoever he may be.

And Allah knows best.

199151

Makruh . Marriage . Sin

Is remaining unmarried while maintaining chastity, while being Makruh, considered sinful and is a person who chooses this path subject to punishment?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 9 months ago

It is not something that causes punishment in the hereafter, but often people are happier or more stable in life when they get married (even if it has its own challenges!).

If you are young and don't have an obvious reason not to get married, if an opportunity that feels right comes up, it's nice to at least try to explore the possibility of getting married, so you don't look back and feel like you missed out on something. But everyone has their own path in life and sometimes one path is not for everyone.

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Sunni . Marriage . Ahl al-Bayt

Is it allowed to marry a Sunni man who doesn’t have animosity toward Ahlulbayt AS but also has affection for their adversaries?

Many men show something before marriage or soon after marriage but change after few years after marriage. Are you sure that this man will not change after few years? You need to be sure that your faith and religious practice will never be harmed by anyone now and in the future.

Wassalam.

198175

Marriage . Childbirth

If a person has valid concerns about their birth circumstances, such as discrepancies in marriage and birth dates, but is informed otherwise are they still considered legitimate?

Yes, he is legitimate unless and until he gets a concrete evidence proving otherwise.

Wassalam.

198455

Marriage . Sin

Is it true that marriage is not obligatory and individuals who choose not to marry but remain chaste and focus on their careers will not be considered sinful?

Bismihi ta'āla

It is makruh to choose to stay single. There are numerous narrations that censure being single, and explain the many benefits of marriage.

The only time marriage would be obligatory is if one falls into sin, and marriage would solve that problem.

One can combine between marriage and focus on career as well.

And Allah knows best

Marriage . Sin

Is it true that marriage is not obligatory and individuals who choose not to marry but remain chaste and focus on their careers will not be considered sinful?

Yes

Marriage is recommended in the sunnah, and in a good situation, can provide stability, security, support, spiritual blessings, and happiness, and women in particular (even today) tend to enjoy a higher standard of living and more security when married. Of course, sometimes it doesn't work out well. Anyway it is optional, and some important sacred figures like Hazrat Maryam (a) were not married (in the view of Muslims).

This is a Shii view, and some Sunnis debate whether marriage is obligatory or not (although a good number of Sunnis would say it is not).

198062

Sister . Marriage

What can I do as a sister when my siblings are struggling to find suitable partners despite their efforts, especially with my sister approaching her 30s?

Keep on noble efforts to find a suitable person as well as praying to Allah (SWT) to Guide and Help and Bless.
reciting this verse is also very helpful in marriage ( إنَّ هذا لَرِزقُنا ما لَهُ مِن نَفاد)

Sura 38, verse 54.

Wassalam.

198170

Girl . Parents . Sadness . Marriage . Sin

If a chaste girl chooses not to marry, despite being respectful to her parents and financially independent, is she considered to be sinning because it causes her parents sadness?

She is not obliged or bound to marry if she has valid reasons to refrain from marriage, but she must keep her parents' respect and never cause them or any one of them any sort of disrespect or sadness.

Wassalam.

197948

Makruh . Mubah . Marriage . Sexual

I follow Sayyid Sistani and have heard differing views regarding oral sex. Can you clarify whether it is considered Makruh or Mubah within marriage? Also, is it permissible for a wife to perform oral sex while on her menstrual cycle?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 10 months ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

Oral sex is permitted and is not makruh. However, one should not swallow anything which is najis such as semen. Swallowing such liquids would be haram. It is also permitted for a wife to perform oral sex while in the state of hayd.

May Allah grant you success

197311

Time . Slavery . Marriage . Woman . Polygamy . Qur'an

In the context of slavery, did female slaves automatically hold the same status as wives? If that is the case, what is the significance of marriage to slaves mentioned in the Qur'an? Why is marriage necessary if ownership implied a marital relationship?

Slavery rules were never started by Muslims but were already existing in different societies of the time when Islam came. Slavery rules are an outcome of wars. Islamic rules aimed to diminish slavery and finish it off. Slavery rules can not be taken as permanent rules for life but only in war and after war under many conditions.

Slave female from war between Nin Muslims against Muslims is not like a full wife of the owner who has the full rights of justice between her and other wife and inheritance from her husband. When the Muslims marries his owned female (Aman), she will then have all rights if the wife. With out marriage, she is called Sariyyah.

Wassalam.

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