Seyed Ali Shobayri

Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the Islamic College of London. He also studied at the Hawza Ilmiyya of England and continues Hawza and Islamic studies with private teachers.

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 3 days ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

Enjoining the good and forbidding the evil has conditions. If you see that you have already tried with such a person and there is no benefit in continuing to do so, then you can leave them.

May Allah grant you success 

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answer updated 3 days ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

It is not allowed for one to completely cut ties with those who it is wajib to keep ties with. Yes, one may not have a good relationship with a certain family member and may not want to see them face to face, however there are a number of actions to still keep minimum contact which would not be considered cutting them off entirely. This could be through the phone, email or messaging apps which society would consider still keeping a relationship. 

With parents one should try as much as possible to keep a good relationship and the son ignoring his mother would be doing qat al rahm. 

May Allah swt grant you success

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 3 days ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

You can assume the item is pure until you are certain it became najis and this is a general principle. 

May Allah grant you success

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 1 week ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

If you mean by 'stay' to live with your husband's family then no, this isn't required. In fact it is obligatory upon the husband to provide a suitable accommodation for his wife in order for her to feel safe and comfortable. 

Living with in-laws can be an option for the newly  married couple who have just gotten on their feet, however it has been shown many times that  that long term living with in-laws can cause many problems as well as a lack of privacy for the couple. Therefore it is recommended that the couple try to eventually find their own place. 

May Allah grant you success  

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 1 week ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

It is better to conceal your sins and repent. You may however mention the sin in a form of a question or give an example without indicating that you yourself did the sin. 
 

May Allah grant you success  

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Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

Alhamdulilah you have read about the incident of Ghadir and May Allah swt guide you to accept the divine authority of Imam Ali (as). 

Firstly after becoming Shia, you will need to refer to the jurists who specialise in ahkaam or the Islamic laws. You will find some of the experts  who say it is allowed to pray behind a Sunni imam provided that you recite the surahs yourself; others will say you can only do so out of taqiya (when one fears for their life & must conceal their faith). 

Then you’ll find scholars who will say that one cannot pray behind a Sunni imam at all due to justice being one of the conditions as well as it being crucial that one prays correctly. Unfortunately our brothers who refer to themselves as Sunnis, perform both their salah and wudu in the incorrect way. 

So when you choose a marja then you may check their ruling. 

About the Sahaba, one can only respect the Sahaba who were PROVEN in history to be loyal to both the prophet Mohammad & his Ahlul Bayt (peace be upon them all). In other cases we may assume the best of those Sahaba who have nothing bad reported about them in history. 

It has been proven from the Quran and hadiths of both sects, that there existed many hypocrites among the Sahaba. In the authentic sources of the sect who refers to itself as ahlus sunnah, you’ll find the prophet Mohamamd (sawa) clearly saying that among his companions were hypocrites therefore, how can one respect all Sahaba? 

 For example, can one love Muawiyah who encouraged people to curse & insult Imam Ali?! Of course not! Therefore one would have to disassociate from such people despite them being 'companions'. 

Can one love Umar who threatened to burn down the house of Fatima Al-Zahra (as) and imam Ali (as)?

As for those companions who are proven praise worthy, then you may show your love towards them. 

If you research the above matters you will find various sources which mention the points I have summarised.

May Allah grant you success

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 1 week ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

No it isn't necessary for you to say any specific words or have a particular intention for purifying something; you may just do the action. Yes other acts such as wudu, ghusl, salah and fasting etc would require an intention. 
 

May Allah grant you success 

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Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

Merely touching one's private parts doesn't break Wudu for Shia Muslims; it would however break one's wudu for those who refer to themselves as Ahlus Sunnah. Yes, if one masturbated causing ejaculation this would break the wudu and one would require ghusl al janabah. 

May Allah grant you success 

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 4 months ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

A muslim woman can only marry a muslim man. A muslim man can marry a non-muslim woman provided she is from the people of the book. Some ulema only allow Mutah marriage with a non-muslim woman and not permanent marriage. 

May Allah grant you success 

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 4 months ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

Unlike Wudu which must have muwalat (successive continuity) ghusl may be done in parts; therefore, you may wash only your head for example, and then come back later to wash other parts of your body. So if you didn't wash a part, you may go back and do it as part of the same ghusl.

May Allah grant you success

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 4 months ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

Such marriage is allowed but could become haram by secondary ruling if it leads to misguidance. For example, if a Shia woman would marry a Sunni man and she isn't strong in her faith, then it is possible she may deviate and such a marriage could be problematic. One must also make sure the one they marry is not hostile towards the Shia.

Furthermore one must think about the future of their kids, I have witnessed that in most cases when a shia woman has married a non-shia man, the kids end up becoming confused or lean more towards the father's beliefs. 

Please bear in mind just because something is allowed, in no way does this indicate that it is recommend. Therefore I advise anyone to marry a shia believer or someone who they can influence to follow the path of Ahlul bayt (peace be upon them).

May Allah swt grant you sucess 

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Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

Trust is an important factor between spouses and without it, the relationship can become very damaged. Have you tried asking him why he doesn't trust you? If you haven't done anything for him to act this way then he could be overly paranoid based on his own insecurities.  Also he cannot unjustly control you such as preventing you from having believing female friends.

Try to be open with him and mention the damage this is doing. If you have already tried this or it doesn't work, try to get a trusted believer who can mediate or a trusted alim who is experienced in martial disputes to speak to you both or arrange a session. 

May Allah grant you success