You must avoid hurting the feelings of your mother. She does not want for you but the best,so, you should consider her wish even if it seems to you now against your wish, but be sure that success can never achieved through hurting the feelings of your parents.
Listen to your mother and keep her respect, and be sure that Allah (SWT) will look after you and grant you success from unexpected sources, and protect you from unseen dangers.
It is not permissible for a Muslim to give his or her child to non Muslim to raise even to your own mother if she is still non Muslim. Raising the child includes many things which must be from Muslim and never allowed from non Muslim, e.g. Halal food, Faith in Allah, practicing religious obligatory acts, etc.
In the name of Allah
The answer is Yes.
When You breastfeed someone else's child (with all the conditions that will be mentioned below) That child is basically like a child of Your own. So he/she will be Mahram to:
- You (Breastfeeding mother), your parents, your grandparents and so on, your siblings, your aunts and uncles.
- Your husband (Breastfeeding Father), his parents, his grandparents and so on, his siblings, his aunts and uncles.
- Your Children (current and future), your grandchildren and so on.
But what are the conditions for breastfeeding to result in Mharamiyyat?
1. The child should suck the milk from the breast. So if the milk is poured into the child's mouth, it doesn't count.
2. The child should be under two years of age.
3. The milk should be the result of a Halal relationship.
4. The Child should not throw up the milk. If so, it doesn't count.
5. The quantity or duration of breastfeeding should be either of these:
- Enough so that his/her body would grow due to that milk.
(Grow: muscles/meat are created or bones will be strengthened)
- 15 times in a row. (without any other food or milk from another woman)
- 24 hours straight. (without any other food or milk from another woman)
Yes it is allowed. She is like his cousin, so marriage is permissible between them.
I am sorry to hear you have to go through that. I am sure that is very upsetting.
Well, it is not as if God is going to punish you or send you to hell because your mother is cursing you while she is drunk. However, it isn't healthy to have that kind of negativity directed towards you, so if there is anything you can do to provide a more positive and spiritually/personally uplifting environment around yourself (for instance, listening to Qur'an on headphones), it might help deal with some of the negativity.
Also if possible it might be good to find people who have life experience and who can offer good advice (such as a relative or school/university counselor, if you are at an age where you are going to school/university) to discuss your future with, since it is easy to internalize negative ideas, particularly if our parents are telling them to us, and it might be healthy to be hearing a more positive voice about what you can do and how to aim for it.
Her behaviour when she is not sober has not effect on you nor you are responsible. Try to treat her well as a mother and pray for her guidance.
Yes she can feed her child in the state of Janabah. It is recommended to do wudhu before feeding.
It would not only be permitted to massage your mother's feet, but indeed a blessing and an honour, as you will be bringing comfort and ease to your mother.
As for legs being 'exposed', to the son, there is no problem with that, as long as of course the mother's private parts are covered.
And Allah knows best.
as salam alaikum
It has been reported from the Prophet, peace be upon him and his family, the following words:
"When a son of Adam dies, his deeds ends except for three: sadaqah jariyah, beneficial knowledge and a pious child who prays for him".
This hadith is found in "Sahih Muslim", "Bihar al-Anwar", "Muniyat al-Murid" and other sources.
Therefore one of the best acts a son can do for his deceased parents is to pray and ask forgiveness for them.
With prayers for your success.
The wisdom behind rules of Islam is best known to Allah (SWT), His Prophet (SAWA) and The Infallible Imams (AS). We believe that all the rules from Allah (AS) are based on the absolute wisdom which aims to make our life real human life and guides us to the Right Path. We might be able to know some of the reasons but we can never argue for all the reasons.
Eldest son has the responsibly for the missed prayers and fasts of his parents because they served him before other children and he has the right to acquire special personal items (like rings, watch, personal Quran etc) from his deceased parents.
This rule does not mean that other children can not do that on behalf of their parents. In fact any of them can do whatever he or she wants to fulfill on behalf of their parents, but if it was not fulfilled, then the eldest son remains responsible to complete the remaining if any.
1. Patience in all possible degrees is required to face such situation.
2. Never reply the abusive language or even the aggressive acts of any of your parents in a way which can hurt them or make them feel disrespected.
3. All the injustice done by them can never wave away their great favor on their children.
4. Tolerating injustice from your parents and dealing with them nicely, is a way of elevation and gaining higher degrees in Paradise.
as salam alaikum
your duty is to respect her, try to guide her as much as possible and pray for her. Insh'Allah your perseverance and patience will also improve your relation with Allah and strengthen your faith.
With prayers for your success.