Conversion to Islam
Conversion to Islam is the adoption of the set of beliefs identified with the Islamic faith to the exclusion of others.
If one was to convert Islam there is no obligatory ghusl for them to perform. The only mandatory act is to recite the Shahadatayn.
And Allah knows best.
You can reassure your new Muslim friend that Allah swt is all merciful and all forgiving. Any actions performed during their time as a non Muslim will be forgiven inshallah and when they utter the testimony of faith it will be as if they are newly born with no sins.
May Allah grant you success
In the name of Allah
Their permission is not needed in this case.
However, it behoves a Muslim to be respectful towards the parents. So try to get them on board if possible.
No, this a matter of personal choice.
Muslim female is not allowed to marry non Muslim man under any circumstance. Your marriage with non Muslim man was valid when you were non Muslim. The time you became a Muslim, you must give him the option to become a Muslim, then he can continue with you as a husband. f he refuses to become a Muslim, the marriage bond between you (Muslim) and him (Non Muslim) is finished.
You need then to keep Iddah of Wafaat (four months and ten days), then you are free.
I advise you to respect the law of the land as well and do not do anything which is against the law of your country.
New Muslim is allowed to keep his non Muslim name as far as it does not mean something wrong.
It is not permissible for a Muslim to give his or her child to non Muslim to raise even to your own mother if she is still non Muslim. Raising the child includes many things which must be from Muslim and never allowed from non Muslim, e.g. Halal food, Faith in Allah, practicing religious obligatory acts, etc.
You have the choice to convert in secret, or to convert and tell them.
What is best to do really depends on your situation and on your relationship with your parents. If you have a close relationship, and they would be hurt if you don't tell them, or if they found out by accident, it might be good to tell them sooner rather than later. If you think it would just cause problems for yourself, needlessly hurt them, or endanger you (for instance, put you at risk of being kicked out), then maybe it is better to wait.
If you think you will be living a more independent life soon (for instance, living on campus at a university, or working and living on your own), it might not hurt to wait and tell them when you have more control over your life.
However, eventually you will (probably) have to deal with it. Although it might cause conflict and tension in the beginning, the best-case scenario to hope for is that it could eventually lead to mutual understanding. The real question here is when to go through that, and that is something you have to decide for yourself.
Also, keep in mind that it is difficult to keep secrets, and people often sense what we are hiding or find out accidentally.
You should try your best not to embarrass your parents and try to be more kind to them as you are a Muslim, more than before.
You can wear that bracelet in front of them but not in public as it might give a wrong message to others.
No need to recite the Kalimah of Islam ( I bear witness that there is no God but Allah and Muhammad is His Messenger) in front of witnesses. The person must believe in Islam in his heart and accept Islam as his religion. He will be then a Muslim.
Reciting the Kalimah in front of others is good but not necessary condition to become a Muslim. Even if some one believes in Islam between himself and Allah, with out informing any one else, is a Muslim.
Best of wishes on this next stage of your spiritual journey, and, yes, it is enough to have the intention to follow a marja' and to do your best to do so; you do not need to notify the marja'.
It is nice and humble to focus on service. Some people do feel called to serve communities other than their own, and I have met some people who are not Muslim who dedicated their lives to working for Muslim communities or the Islamic cause. Sometimes it is a lifelong calling, and sometimes it is a temporary calling (for instance, on a specific sociopolitical issue that one feels strongly about, or as a stepping stone to discovering one's identity or beliefs).
That being said, the psychological motivations behind dedicating one's self to service (especially to serving the "other") can be complex. There are psychologically healthy and unhealthy reasons for service. For instance, a genuine desire to help someone in need, versus the desire to feel needed. Wishing to aid those who are marginalized, versus re-living unresolved psychological trauma surrounding feelings of non-belonging. Etc.
For that reason, it doesn't hurt to look deeply at one's motivations for service to be sure it continues to be a healthy arrangement. Also, I could foresee such an arrangement eventually breaking down due to the tension of wanting to serve the Muslim community while at the same time not wanting to be part of the Muslim community, which might strike some Muslims as strange. Not everyone wants an "outsider" to help them; this may be particularly poignant today, given the legacy of European colonialism in the Muslim world, and the way some Western organizations take a paternalistic approach to Muslims and try to "save" Muslims from practices they deem backwards or uncivilized. Basically, while some people want to serve, not everyone wants to be served.
Anyway, from an Islamic perspective, what is important is the view of Allah. That is, what is important is your relationship to the divine. What is important is the view of the divine on your religious beliefs and practices, and overall actions in life, not the overall view of Muslims or the view of Islam as a faith.
Similarly, the core teaching of Islam is serving Allah, not serving Muslims. There are many ways to serve Allah; serving Muslims is religiously meritorious when it is done as a way of serving Allah, but it is not the only way to serve Allah.
From a historical perspective, there are some respected figures in Islamic history who were not Muslim but aided Muslims or the Islamic cause. For instance, the Christian king of Abysynnia who protected the early Muslims from persecution. If you go through the account of Karbala, you will see that a number of people who were Christian also stood up for Imam Husayn. Also in the classical era of Islamic history, Muslims and people of other faiths worked harmoniously together on scientific and other projects and also occasionally shared the same site for houses of worship. (That being said, there was more of an equal playing field in those times; there wasn't the post-colonialist or "clash of civilizations" imbalanced power dynamic.)
Overall, despite the stereotypes of Muslims being intolerant, I think most Muslims are comfortable with religious diversity because the Quran gives a place to other religions and doesn't say that all other religions are false or that all other people are doomed. Also, most Muslim cultures have historically had religious minorities. I think some Muslims also secretly like people who are different because it can get a little boring seeing the same type of people again and again. That being said, if you do work within the Muslim community, I am sure some Muslims will encourage you to convert!
Anyway, I certainly don't mean to be discouraging in any of the above; your situation is unique to your own self and surroundings; these are just some thoughts on the overall dynamics that might arise. I wish you the best in whatever paths you take in life!