1. Going for Hajj with Sunni Muslims does not harm your Hajj as far as you perform the Hajj in the proper way according to the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS). You need to read a book of Hajj steps according to Ahlul Bayt (AS) or to contact Shi'a scholars how can guide you.
2. Going for Hajj on behalf of a Sunni deceased person is allowed if you have already performed you own obligatory Hajj, or if Hajj is not yet obligatory on you because you can't afford it.
Hajj is prescribed for both men and women in Islam and is obligatory one time on anyone who is able to perform it.
If she is not able to perform hajj (because she cannot afford it, because it would cause hardship, because she is physically unable to, because she cannot get a visa, or for other reasons), then it is not obligatory right now.
Sometimes we are not able to do things in life because of our circumstances, and this is part of life. We are not responsible for the things we cannot do.
As the Qur'an says, Allah does not intend to burden us!
If she is not able to go, it is good for her to pray for Allah to grant her the opportunity to go in the future and to have the intention to go if it becomes possible. How often are prayers to go to hajj answered!
If her circumstances change so that she becomes able to do it, then it becomes obligatory.
However the intent behind Islamic law is that everyone who can perform hajj does so regardless of whether they are a homemaker or not.
Delaying the full payment of Khums is a sinful act whether Hajj is intended or not.
Hajj is invalid if any amount used in its obligatory acts are from saved money out of which Khums is not paid fully.
Yes, this is in the book Kamil al-Ziyarat:
The narration is as follows: I said to Imam Sadiq (A), “May I be sacrificed on you, I cannot afford to go to Hajj every year.” The Imam (A) replied: If you ever wanted to go to the Hajj but could not afford it, go to the Ziyarat of Imam Husain (A), for indeed it will be recorded as a Hajj for you. And if you ever wanted to go for Umrah but could not afford it, go to the Ziyarat of Imam Husain (A), for indeed it will be recorded as an Umrah for you.
As for why? Allah knows best.
However, some thoughts. First, it is not neglecting hajj, only discussing the situation where it is impossible.
Second, it is also said that worshipping at Masjid al-Kufa has a similar reward to hajj, and Masjid al-Kufa is associated with Imam Ali (A) so this general idea is not only said about Karbala (although it is more emphasized for Karbala).
Third, if someone from afar cannot perform hajj, then probably they also cannot go to Medina and visit the Prophet (S), so it is not worth mentioning here.
Fourth, there are many narrations that indicate there is something spiritually unique about Karbala and where Imam Husain (A) was laid to rest, and visiting Imam Husain (A) is emphasized above visiting the resting places of the other Imams. So, it is good to trust in that and assume there is in fact a hidden merit to visiting Karbala which is not found in other places. There are many aspects of the spiritual world that we don't see with our physical eyes and in our everyday reality. Of course, it is also very good to visit Imam Ali (A)!
The best way to answer this question for one's self is to go to all these places (hajj, Najaf, Karbala) and develop a personal view. If you have not, may Allah bless you with the opportunity!
Such preplanned sins are unforgiven. Allah (SWT) says in Quran: Verily, your Lord for those who committed sins, in ignorance and then repent and do good deeds, verily, your Lord thereafter is Oft-forgiving, Merciful. ( Sura 16, Verse 119.
There is a difference between Hajj and Umrah . Hajj is obligatory once in life while Umrah is recommended.
If Hajj has become obligatory on you (i.e. you are able financially and physically to perform Hajj) then it is obligatory on you to perform Hajj same year with out any delay even if your husband is not willing to perform it now. You will not be allowed to postpone performing Hajj because of your husband or any other reason as Hajj is Obligatory on you. You can join any trusted group of Hajj and go with them.
If our husband does not allow you to go for Umrah, you should obey him because Umrah is not obligatory but Mustahab (Recommended).
We should not conflate the reward of the Ziyaras or Hajj. Performing one does not mean we should not perform the other. Hajj has its specific times and the Ziyara of Imam Hussayn has a specific time. If you can afford to perform both, that would be great. Keep in mind, those who perform Hajj will also have the opportunity to visit RasulAllah, FatimaZahra, and the Imams in Baqee'.
You do not need to cover your face for Hijab if the silver stud is not considered by common people in your society as an ornament.
You don't need to remove it during Ehraam unless it is understood as an ornament.
Hajj is obligatory immediately when we are able to perform it. Knowledge about basic rules of Hajj and Prayers is must which is simple and can be obtained in short time. Less knowledge about general teachings of Islam does not mean an excuse to postpone Hajj.
You will get more blessings of Hajj as your intention is more sincere to perform this great worship and submit to and follow the Prophet (SAWA) and his Ahlul Bayt (AS).
The sincere performance of Hajj opens gates for more blessings , wealth and knowledge.
It is required for us , not only before performing Hajj, but always, to give back the rights of others and seek pardon from any one who was wronged by us whether intentionally or unintentionally. When we intend to travel for Hajj, we need to be sure that no liability is on us for any one.
Divorce is the most disliked allowed act in Islam, and it should not happen unless there is no way at all for the couple to continue together. Divorce should not involve any act of injustice or backbiting or insult to the other party or any of his/ her family members. If such act of injustice has taken place, we must apologize and seek pardon from the person who was wronged by us.
Obligatory Hajj is Must on every Muslim who can perform it and no other worship can replace it. Visitation to Karbala is very great but not in stead of obligatory Hajj.
Visitation of Imam Husain (AS) in Karbala is greater in reward than recommended Hajj and Umra.
The Haj is wajib to perform for a person who is able (mustati').
Despite the very regrettable action of the regime in power in the region, our Maraje' have not guided otherwise.
The constant Shi'a presence is vital in this global gathering of Muslims and you should go if as soon as you are able.