Son

A son is a male offspring; a boy or man in relation to his parents.

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Is it allowed for the mother to completely cut ties and abandon her son and would it be considered Qat’a ar-Rahm? Would it also be Qat’a ar-Rahm for the son if he doesn’t want to talk to her?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answer updated 1 week ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

It is not allowed for one to completely cut ties with those who it is wajib to keep ties with. Yes, one may not have a good relationship with a certain family member and may not want to see them face to face, however there are a number of actions to still keep minimum contact which would not be considered cutting them off entirely. This could be through the phone, email or messaging apps which society would consider still keeping a relationship.

With parents one should try as much as possible to keep a good relationship and the son ignoring his mother would be doing qat al rahm.

May Allah swt grant you success

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Woman . Husband . Son . Daughter . Inheritance

Who should inherit a woman? If she is survived by a husband, son and daughter how would the inheritance be calculated? What would be the situation if the daughter had already passed away?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 months ago

Her husband gets one quarter. The remaining three quarters goes to the son and daughter who were alive when the woman died. Two shares for the son and one share for the daughter.
If the daughter had already passed away before her mother, the son will get the three quarters.

Wassalam.

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Son . Catholic . Girl . Scholars . Marriage . Sunni-Shi'a . Mut'a (Temporary marriage)

My Shia son wishes to marry a Catholic girl which some scholars allow while others only allow temporary marriage. Is reciting the Nikah necessary in this case?

Muslim man is not allowed to permanently marry a Non Muslim woman from people of Book. Temporary marriage is permissible under some conditions.

Nikah is the recitation of the marriage agreement whether permanent or temporary which is must.

Wassalam.

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Mother . Son . Salah (Prayers) . Qadha

My mother didn't pray her Wajib prayers for many years. As her son, and being the only child, do I have to perform her Qada prayers? If so, how should I get started given that I do not know how many prayers she had missed?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 5 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Assuming that your mother has passed, besides whether it is wajib for you or not, it would be the most noble and most loyal thing for you to do. Your mother might have forgotten, or unintentionally neglected, or gone through some difficulties, and did not perform her acts of worship.

You, the loyal son, are able to compensate that and the reward and blessings will not only go to her, but to you as well. In some hadiths it says there are some children who are loyal to their parents while alive, and not loyal when they die. Being not loyal is not doing dua or prayers or good deeds for them.

If you cannot roughly estimate, or have no idea, you have two options:

1. Pray what you can, as long as you are healthy and have time. The bonus is it's extra 'ibadah for you, which is a wonderful thing.

2. You can hire someone to do the 'ibadaat on behalf of your mother. There are many poor mu'mineen/mu'minaat who live off doing 'ibaadaat hire. Pay for whatever you are financially capable of.

With prayers for your success.

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Son . Soul . Suicide

My son who was 18 years old took his life earlier this year. I cannot stop thinking why he did that. Can you please help me to help the soul of my Marhoom son?

Bismihi ta'ala

It is indeed very sad to hear that your late son took his life. May Allah ta'ala grant him ease in the Next life. Most important for you is not to ponder on why and how, but more on what you are able to do to contribute to helping others around you to avoid repetition of such an incident.

You experienced this, so you are able to help those around you and the community to bring about awareness. Take this unfortunate incident and use it for positive use. This will not only keep you occupied from having negative thoughts, or, God forbid, falling into depression, or losing hope in your life as well.

You should try to do righteous deeds and grant its reward to your late son. Do charity work on his behalf, and try to let others remember the good things about him, so they can be insired and learn from all of this.

Another thing that would be important to do is reach out to a qualified counselor who can give you professional tips to deal with such loss and overcome this difficulty.

With prayers for your success.

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Son . Qadha . Parents . Salah (Prayers)

Is the eldest son still responsible for performing the Qadha prayers of his deceased parents if they had not prayed all their lives due to lack of knowledge or negligence? Will they still get rewards for it?

The eldest son is responsible to perform the obligatory Qadha prayers of his father if it was missed due to a valid reason like illness etc. If the parents did not perform their obligatory prayers for no valid reason, the Qadha is not obligatory on the eldest son. Although, it is very good for him or other children to pay for persons who perform Qadha prayers on behalf of deceased persons to perform the obligatory Qadha prayers of the deceased. This will help the deceased a lot.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Daughter . Son

There are religious sayings that suggest that having daughters is a blessing. Are there similar sayings for parents who only have sons?

Yes, there are many narrations in books of Hadeeth mentioning the reward for parents who have daughters and bring them up properly, that they will be in the Paradise.

Narrated from Imam Jafar Al-Sadiq (AS) : Daughters are reward while sons are a bounty, and reward will be for those who have daughters, while bounties will be asked about. (Al-Kaafi 6:6).

The believer is happy with what ever Allah (SWT) grants him, because Allah (SWT) knows the best for us, now and every time. Allah (SWT) grants to a couple only daughters or only sons or both, and does not give some couples any children, all because of His Wisdom and Mercy on us. (Sura 42, Verses 49 and 50).

Accepting and being satisfied with the will of Allah (SWT) is very important for he believers.

Wassalam.

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Inheritance . Son . Daughter

How should inheritance be divided when the deceased left behind just a son and a daughter? How would it get distributed if there were 2 sons and 3 daughters?

1. If the deceased left only one son and one daughter, and no wife, the daughter will inherit one third and the son wll inherit two thirds.

2. If the deceased left two sons and three daughters, and no wife, the wealth left must be divided in to seven equal parts, one part ( 1/7) for every daughter and two parts (2/7) for every son.

Wassalam.

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Father . Son . Slander

If a father is slandering and lying about his son to the rest of his family thereby causing a lot of pain and anguish, what should the son do?

The son must tolerate and be patient and never counter his father or hurt his feelings. Whatever wrong done by any parent must be tolerated.

It is good to talk to your father either directly or indirectly to know the reasons of his attitude towards you. That might help decreasing the misunderstanding.

Wassalam.

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Father . Son . Salah (Prayers) . Sawm (Fasting)

If a deceased father had never performed daily prayers nor kept up his fasts, what is the responsibility of the eldest son?

Elder son is responsible to perform of arrange performing Qadha of Salaah and fasting for his deceased father and mother. Either he performs or arranges for persons who perform on behalf of the deceased.

Wassalam.

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Son . Father . Mother . Salah (Prayers)

Why is it only the eldest son and not the other children who are responsible for the missed prayers of their father or mother after they've died?

The wisdom behind rules of Islam is best known to Allah (SWT), His Prophet (SAWA) and The Infallible Imams (AS). We believe that all the rules from Allah (AS) are based on the absolute wisdom which aims to make our life real human life and guides us to the Right Path. We might be able to know some of the reasons but we can never argue for all the reasons.

Eldest son has the responsibly for the missed prayers and fasts of his parents because they served him before other children and he has the right to acquire special personal items (like rings, watch, personal Quran etc) from his deceased parents.

This rule does not mean that other children can not do that on behalf of their parents. In fact any of them can do whatever he or she wants to fulfill on behalf of their parents, but if it was not fulfilled, then the eldest son remains responsible to complete the remaining if any.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Son . Mother . Wife

If a husband wants to take his son to meet his mother, who has mistreated his wife in the past, does he have that right over their son even if the wife does not approve?

The son must obey and go to see his grandmother. The mother has no right to prevent her son from visiting his grand mother. No obedience to any one including parents in disobeying Allah ( SWT).

Wassalam.