Divorce

Divorce, also known as dissolution of marriage, is the process of terminating a marriage or marital union. Divorce usually entails the canceling or reorganizing of the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage, thus dissolving the bonds of matrimony between a married couple under the rule of law of the particular country or state. Divorce laws vary considerably around the world, but in most countries divorce requires the sanction of a court or other authority in a legal process, which may involve issues of distribution of property, child custody, alimony (spousal support), child visitation / access, parenting time, child support, and division of debt.

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Husband . Divorce . Marriage . Woman

My husband is seeking out a new relationship with another female. I am not okay with it but he is not stopping. Can I divorce him or do I have to just accept it?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 month ago

Bismihi ta'ala

If your husband pursues extra-marital affairs, either in the halal way (mut'ah or seeking a second wife), then you have the choice of either staying with him, or getting divorced from him.

Of course, such issues must be directly addressed, and his and your family be involved as well.

Your husband might be going through a phase, and needs a wakeup call for him to return back and focus on his marriage. If so, forgive him, and try to strengthen the relationship.

However, if after intervention he still pursues the new relationship, then you decide what you wish to do. To divorce him, or continue to live with him. Just know that you are not obliged to live under such circumstances.

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Father . Divorce . Marriage . Mahram . Stepmother

My father divorced my stepmother and she then married another person. Would she be considered my Mehram?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 months ago

If the marriage between your father and her was consummated, she became your step mother and a Mahram for life even if she is divorced later on from your father.

Wassalam.

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Divorce . Alcohol

My in-laws say that I divorced my wife through voice message while I was in a drunken state and I did not remember doing that the next day. Is the divorce considered valid?

Bismihi ta'ala

If that really was the case, and you are a Shi'i Muslim, then the divorce is invalid and has no effect.

There are numerous conditions for an Islamic divorce to occur, and from what you have said, none of them have been met. Therefore, she is still your wife.

You do need to deal with your alcoholism. As a Muslim, you know of its severity and how spiritually, morally and socially damaging drinking is.

With prayers for your success.

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Wife . Anger . Divorce

I divorced my wife three times in one sitting out of anger and frustration. Does it count as one or are we now fully divorced?

Bismihi ta'ala

In Shi'i jurisprudence, divorce has multiple conditions and requirements.

1. You must specify what type of divorce it is.

2. She must not be in her menstrual cycle, and you cannot divorce her if you have been intimate with her, which means you must way until she finishes her next cycle.

3. The divorce must be conducted in front of at least 2 highly-pious men.

4. The divorce formulate must be recited in correct Arabic, in the correct form.

5. Only 1 divorce can be given, which means a three-fold divorce in one setting is invalid.

If are angry, suppress your anger and do not allow your anger to overwhelm you. Divorce is not to be done out of anger, and it is not an easy thing to do. When you are angry, observe the Islamic etiquette of what to do, and stay calm.

If you have not met these conditions, then you are not divorced.

And Allah knows best.

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Husband . Sin . Divorce . Conversion to Islam

My revert husband does not practice at all. He does say that he is still Muslim but does not behave at all that way. I am afraid that I may now be living in sin. Should I divorce him?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 6 months ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu alaykom,

In regard to your husband, have you noticed that there is any particular reason why he has become non practicing? Is there any way you could possibly influence him or take him to someone that can?

Divorce should be a last resort and as long as he says that he is still Muslim, your marriage would be valid. Also there is no sin upon you for the sins of your spouse. If however you exhaust all avenues and you find that such a marriage is lowering your faith as well, then you need to reevaluate whether this will be best for you in the long term.

At the same time remember, one’s faith can go up and down so try to remain patient as this could be a test. Try to help you husband regain his faith and make constant dua for him.

May Allah grant you success

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Divorce . Husband

I am going through a legal divorce from my husband. He called me and said he would verbally divorce me, which he did, but I have been told without witnesses it is not valid. How do I prove I am divorced for a future marriage?

Divorce is the most disliked permissible act أبغض الحلال إلى الله

Yet, if there is no way at all to reconcile and continue but to divorce, divorce has certain conditions without which it is invalid. One of conditions of divorce is two pious men to witness the declaration of divorce. If your husband is really willing to divorce you according to the Islamic rules, he can request a trusted person who knows Arabic to announce divorce on his behalf in the presence of two pious men. You should not be in your menstrual period nor during purity in which you had sexual inter course with your husband.

Wassalam.

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Man . Divorce . Marriage

Is it permissible for me to think of another man while still being married, but contemplating divorce, as long as I do not participate in any inappropriate behavior with him?

When you are still married, you are not allowed to think of another man at all. Even talking on phone or messaging him or any way of contact is not allowed. After you get your Islamic divorce and pass the Idda period after Talaq, then you will be allowed to do that.

Wassalam.

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Wife . Children . Divorce

I understand that Islam forbids any unnecessary contact between a divorced couple. Is it allowed for an ex-wife to be invited to family events in your presence for the sake of the children from the earlier marriage?

Bismihi ta'ala

There is no Islamic ruling that forbids contact between an ex husband and wife. Yes, they become non-mahram to each other, but their parent-in-laws do stay mahram to them. This means that although he is divorced, his mother-in-law still stays mahram. And the same for the ex-wife as well.

It would be the best thing for ex-partners to stay civil and have good conduct towards each other. It does not need to be hostile and a battle. The ex might be uncomfortable in the presence of their ex, that is understandable, but it is not forbidden or haram to have common interaction, like between any other non-mahram, along with observing the correct shar'i boundaries as well.

However, if there are children from that relationship, it would be necessary to have a positive and healthy relationship, or at least neutral and not hostile in any way. If there is a certain event that would bring both together, or a family gathering, or something of that kind, then it is absolutely fine to be there. You have a choice of attending, or excusing yourself. Whether you wish to interact or not, that is completely up to you.

It could be the case that there was violence in the relationship, for example, and therefore the ex-wife would not be comfortable at all in being in the same place as the ex-husband.

In any case, to answer your specific question, yes, it is allowed for her to accept the invitation, bearing in mind everything else I have mentioned.

And Allah knows best.

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Divorce . Husband . Menstruation

Is a Khulah an instant divorce or could my husband reconcile with me before the waiting period is over?

Bismihi ta'ala

This question has already been answered. See:

https://www.al-islam.org/ask/if-i-was-granted-a-khulah-and-my-husband-wa...

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Nature . Divorce

What is the nature and amount of financial support that should be paid to one's divorcée?

The divorcee must get from her husband all her livelihood expenses for the whole period of Iddah. There is no fixed amount as it depends on the cost in the place where they live in.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Divorce . Menstruation . Marriage

If I was granted a Khulah and my husband wanted to reconcile with me before the waiting period is over, can he do that and will we still be married?

Bismihi ta'ala

If the type of divorce was a khul'i divorce, you are able to return during the 'iddah period, but with a new marriage contract. This means you will need to perform a nikah ceremony, along with its requirements.

That is the fiqhi answer, but of course it would be highly recommended for both sides to contemplate on what led to the initial divorce, and how healthy it is to rush back in so quickly. Establishing boundaries, putting conditions and understanding what needs to improve on both sides is extremely necessary in order to eliminate previous problems and happily live together.

And Allah knows best.

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Woman . Divorce . Iddah

If a woman gets a Khulah, what is her waiting period considering the fact that she had a total hysterectomy and cannot have any children?

Bismihi ta'ala

As long as she is under the age of "ya`s" or shar'i menopause, then she must observe 'iddah, which for her is not three menstrual cycles, but rather three full months.

In fiqh, a woman who is in the age of menstruating, but does not menstruate, she is referred to as mustarabah. Of course, it would be a good idea for her to refer to the specific view of her Marja' taqleed.

And Allah knows best.