Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, forswears recompense from or punishment of the offender, however legally or morally justified it might be, and with an increased ability to wish the offender well. Forgiveness is different from condoning (failing to see the action as wrong and in need of forgiveness), excusing (not holding the offender as responsible for the action), forgetting (removing awareness of the offense from consciousness), pardoning (granted for an acknowledged offense by a representative of society, such as a judge), and reconciliation (restoration of a relationship).

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 6 days ago

If you have taken something from some one in a wrong way, you must return it back to him.

If you did wrong to some one but you are unable to seek his pardon, you need to pray for him and seek from Allah (SWT) to forgive you and forgive him as well.

Wassalam.

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Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answered 1 month ago

as salam alaikum

Indeed Allah is the Doer of whatever He wills (11:107). At the same time He has taken upon Himself mercy (6:12). If repentance is done sincerely and with remorse, and the promise to God not to sin again is accompanied with true resolution, Allah is the All-Forgiver.

However if some duty has been missed (like prayer or fasting) or if the rights of some people has been violated (like in the case of stealing or backbiting), the person should also make-up for those errors and/or adjust what has been violated.

With prayers for your success.

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Sayed Mohammad Saleh Qazwini, Sayed Mohammad Saleh Qazwini has a BA from the University of Michigan and an MA from Wayne State University. He is a graduate of the Islamic Seminary of Qom, Iran. Answered 2 months ago

Allah has promised to forgive all sins with the exception of associating a partner with Him (shirk). The only condition for a sin to be forgiven is sincerity. If a person is sincere in their repentance, meaning that they do not go back to the same sin, then that is a sign that Allah has forgiven them. Allah knows best. 

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Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answer updated 2 months ago

as salam alaikum

sincerity stems from the heart and it is not something conventional that can be obtained by merely verbal expressions or symbolic acts. The servants should first look at the greatness of Allah, the bounties he has received from Him, and the gravity of his sins. Then he should see where he stands in front of Him and where he is aiming vis-á-vis His will.  So he will feel remorseful for his past errors and he will intend to rectify himself to please Allah.

There is no specific actions to be performed to gain sincerity in asking forgiveness from Allah, rather actions would follow the awareness of the heart and the penitent soul who realized his mistakes and to Who he has disobeyed.

With prayers for your success.

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 5 months ago

A similar question has been answered here, but I'm sure there is no harm if others want to add more answers! https://www.al-islam.org/ask/can-any-spiritual-leader-claim-that-he-has-the-authority-to-forgive-the-sins-of-a-person

It seems as if you may have a specific spiritual leader in mind. Anyway, I don't know who it is, but no, they don't have the authority to forgive even one sin of a person let alone all of their sins. It sounds like they are playing psychological games or perhaps they are genuinely confused. Sometimes people who go heavily into mysticism become a little deluded or psychologically unbalanced and believe things about themself or their spiritual capabilities that are not true, this is not to say it is bad to go into mysticism and 'irfan but just that there are some dangers associated with it that it is good to be on the lookout for with respect to one's self and those one looks to for spiritual guidance. You should not trust wholeheartedly someone who claims to be able to forgive peoples' sins. 

Also as a general rule it is always wise to keep one's eyes open around spiritual guides (as you are doing), there is no harm in taking the good from them and benefitting from whatever good they have to offer, but some people treat their spiritual guides as if they are walking gods and infallibles and no human being, except the prophets and Imams, can live up to that. Unless someone is in a complete state of denial, it often leads to a letdown, abuse, or loss of faith, because they are human beings. Anyway this may be veering off topic, wishing you the best in your spiritual pursuits. 

 

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 5 months ago

It is not my place or anyone's place to say whether Allah will forgive you, but, inshallah, if you ask Allah sincerely for forgiveness and pledge to try to not to lie in the future, you can have hope that Allah would forgive you. Allah is merciful and it does not benefit Allah to punish us! The important thing in life is that we are trying our best and we recognize when we make mistakes. 

It is said that, during the time of the Prophet (S), one of the companions was involved in a number of serious sins such as drinking, unlawful relationships with women, and even stealing. [I am not saying you are, but clearly this man had a lot of problems.] One day, he went to the Prophet (S) and told him he was doing all of these things but he could not stop all of them at once, so which one should he stop? The Prophet (S) told him to stop lying. 

The man was surprised since lying seemed to be the least of his problems, but he accepted the advice and left, swearing solemnly never to tell another lie again.

However, he soon realized why the Prophet (S) had said this. For when he had a chance to steal, or drink, or do something else, he thought, "If I do this, and the Prophet (S) asks me if I did it, I will have to tell him the truth." And then he thought of how embarrassing it would be if he had to tell the Prophet (S) what he was doing. And so it wasn't long before he stopped all of these other sins as well.

I hope your arm gets better soon!
 

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Zoheir Ali Esmail, Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD... Answered 5 months ago

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. Allah is all-Forgiving and all-Merciful so there is no set limit to the amount of times He will forgive a sin, especially if the one who is seeking forgiveness is sincere. One of the signs of the acceptance of forgiveness can be seen in a real change in a person.

May you always be successful.

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Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answer updated 6 months ago

as salam alaikum

the Qur'an says: "Surely Allah does not forgive that a partner be associated with Him but He forgives everything else to whomsoever He wills" (4:48). On the other hand, He says: "Do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed He forgives all sins: (39:53).

To understand this, we need to understand that Allah forgives anyone who believes in Him: "Surely I am Forgiving to him who turns in repentance to Me and believes and do righteous deeds and sticks to the guidance" ( (20:82).

Shirk is not something to be forgiven by Allah in the sense that it is the mushrik to put himself out of Allah's mercy. A wrongdoing committed against yourselves can be forgiven through Allah's mercy, a wrongdoing committed against another person also can be forgiven in a similar way, as long as we are pure enough to turn to Him and be receivers of His mercy. Shirk however cannot be forgiven in such way because by limiting Allah's presence in your heart, you are limiting Allah's mercy on you as well.  It is reported in a hadith qudsi that Allah said:

أنا عند ظن عبدي بي 

"I am as My servant thinks I am"

It is only through faith and by fully relying on Him, that we can uproot shirk and hope in His mercy and Forgiveness.

In conclusion we can say that there is no limit to Allah's mercy as long as the servant does not limit himself and turns away from it.

With prayers for your success.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 6 months ago

Such preplanned sins are unforgiven. Allah (SWT) says in Quran: Verily, your Lord for those who committed sins, in ignorance and then repent and do good deeds, verily, your Lord thereafter is Oft-forgiving, Merciful. ( Sura 16, Verse 119.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 6 months ago

Kaffara is obligatory when the person deliberately committed the sinful act of not fasting during the month of Ramadhan. If his health does not allow him to fast, and he has no money to feed sixty poor persons, then he should feed the number of poor persons which he can, and recite Estighfaar.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answer updated 6 months ago

These are some useful acts for your deceased parents:

1. Fulfilling all their debts whether religious debts of worships which they missed (Prayers, Fast, Khums, Hajj etc) or financial or moral debts to people.

2. Paying Sadaqa or charity on their behalf. Charities with continuous benefits (Sadaqa Jaria) is much better like water will, Masjid, Husainia, orphanage, school, etc).

3. Arranging Majaalis on their behalf.

4. Reciting Quran or paying to people who can recite on their behalf.

5. Reciting Ziyarat Ashura and other Ziyarat on their behalf.

Wassalam.

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If you can not contact the victim to apologize and seek his pardon, you should pray for him and do good deeds on his behalf so that he might feel happy when he receives your gifts and forgive you. 

Wassalam.