In Islam, self-pleasure is forbidden and there are many mental, emotional, moral and physical harms to such practices.
The husband has a shar'i and moral obligation of physical intimacy with his wife. If he does not do so, he is committing a sin and it will be grounds for divorce.
It is necessary for the husband to realise that physical intimacy is important for both sides, and will strengthen the bond between them. When he neglects the sexual needs of his wife, not only will she not feel valued, her heart will start drifting away from him.
It is not just a matter of sexual pleasure between the husband and wife, but also to avoid any damaging effects or practices. Besides the fact that it is haram, her masturbating is no solution at all.
If husband does not change his ways, they should seek intervention and visit a marriage counsellor.
With prayers for your success.
Thank you for your question. The cycle of porn and masturbation is a very difficult one to break, but at the same time it is a cycle that breaks masculinity. As such the first step is to really get to grips with why both porn and masturbation are bad for you and why they are such destructive habits that if not changed may rob you of a happy sex life in the future. The momentary guilt is not usually enough to break the cycle as the excitement after that guilt has passed will push you to repeat. As for porn the first step is to cut all access to porn and to put yourself in positions where you cannot really look at it, such as leaving your room door open, or facing your laptop such that family members walking by could see what is on the screen. And any other tactic that you can use to cut it out. For relapses you need consequences and to carry out those consequences. Such as a 10k run straight after. Some take a freezing cold shower every time they are about to consciously masterbate. These methods are hard but effective in really changing your psychology such that masturbation and porn are no longer attractive and you will think twice before doing them. But the key in kicking these habits is your determination. Do it for yourself and know that at the end what waits for you is your success in both worlds, your becoming in control of your destiny, your self respect and the respect of all those who know what its like to give up a destructive habit.
May Allah make you successful
According to the narrations, masturbation is a sin and is compared to doing zina with oneself.
We have an example of when Imam Ali (as) had to discipline someone for doing so:
“Once a person was caught masturbating and was brought to Imam 'Ali. The Imam punished him by beating his hands until they turned red; then he made an arrangement for his marriage on government's expenses.
(Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 267; vol. 18, pp. 574-5)”
Some non Muslim doctors and teachers may try to encourage such acts and say they are ‘healthy’ but such advice which contradicts the divine teachings is worthless.
Masturbation is usually associated with haram acts such as pornography and can turn into an unhealthy addiction which affects one both physically and psychologically.
A Muslim should try their upmost to have self control and dignity. Therefore, seeking marriage whether permanent or temporary is necessary to protect one’s private parts.
A husband or wife may mutually stimulate each other’s private parts; for example, the wife masturbating the husband and vice-versa. If they are away from each other then they cannot use their own hands for such an action until being together.
May Allah swt grant you success
Thank you for your question. Masturbation is a very difficult habit to kick and it is only with a lot of effort, difficulty and time that a person will be able to fully rid themselves of it. As such do not despair in a number of ways failing. You just have to keep trying those ways and different ways and keep praying to succeed. There are many others in a similar position to you and yet others who have been successful. So it is possible to stop. The best solution is marriage, however, marriage may not be a solution entirely. It will primarily be an act of will power in the end, so don't leave it until marriage.
May you be successful and don't give up
Masturbation is a major sin and its punishment has been mentioned in many Hadeeths, that the sinner will come in the Day of Judgement with his hand which he used in masturbation, swollen like a mountain and will bedridden in front of all human beings.
Zina ( fornication) is another major sin, which is different from masturbation.
Masturbation using your hands or any part of your body is a sinful act, but if your wife uses her hands or any part of her body to masturbate you, it will be allowed for you and her. This can be done by wife to her husband as well as by husband to his wife when they are together.
The action itself is sinful even if ejaculation isn’t reached however it is ejaculation which would break the fast.
May Allah grant you success
Thank you for your question. Masturbating is a sin related to animalistic desires and so its punishment in the hereafter would be linked to that, as all sins have consequences and punishments that are suitable for them. Masturbation is a sin punishable in this world as well, and it is narrated that Imam Ali (as) punished a man for it by hitting his hand until it became red, and then got him married, paying for the marriage out of the treasury.
As for stopping, masturbation is a habit and like any other habit, stopping is a process, which requires determination and persistence. As a starting point a person should get rid of all aids, such as photos, movies, being on the wrong social media groups etc.
It is helpful if they can get married, or if not that they take up fasting on a regular basis. There are communities of people who are giving up frapping (another word for masturbation) so seeking support from such groups may be helpful for some. The most important thing is not to get discouraged if you slip, but to make sure that slips are as irregular as possible and to know that masturbation has a number of negative consequences, especially for a person's sex life later on. With determination many people have found their way out of frapping with a positive result on their lives and spirituality.
May you always be successful.
Yes, Ghusl will be obligatory, although masturbation is a sinful act.
Masturbation is haram, and the aforementioned situation would not exempt a man from conducting such an act.
He can either request assistance from his wife, if he is married, and if not, to find alternative halal methods, which he certainly will be able to find.
With prayers for your success.
Thank you for your question. Frapping is unfortunately a common practice among males due to the highly sexualised world that we live in. It is a habit that needs to be dealt with in a number of ways so what follows is not an exhaustive list but some suggestions on what to do.
1) It is very important to be clear about the harms of frapping both for your current mental state and for your future life with a partner. That is aside from the effects on your spirituality and faith as well as the punishment it induces in the next world. It is impotant to think about these so that you have a clear motivation to stop.
2) Ridding your environment of all aids and prerequisites that cause frapping. Turn on the parental locks on all your devices and make a consequences on yourself for breaking this rule in any way.
3) Realizing that breaking any habit is a process but that this specific habit should never be consciously repeated. Make this a rule for yourself. If you break it don't get so down that you stop the journey.
5) Some people have recommended having a cold shower when making the ghusl after ejaculation, so as to build up an additional barrier to the act itself.
6) Although there are no specific duas i know of continual prayer is something that is absolutely necessary to reach any important goal in life.
May you always be successful
The root of these sinful acts is weakness in front of the sinful desires. This weakness can be tackled by:
1. Remembering the fact the Allah is seeing us always. Will we ignore His presence and commit the sinful act in front of Allah?
2. Remembering the harm and damage caused to your heart, mind and body by these sinful acts. How can a sensible person harm himself deliberately for the sake of few moments of sinful lust?
3. Remembering the fate of those who committed such sinful acts and how they gained nothing, but the loss and damage to themselves.
4. Remembering the great reward of pious people who keep themselves away from the sinful desires for the sake of Allah. The reward in Paradise is much greater than any lust.
5. Remembering the painful results and sever misery of those who committed sinful acts. Can you tolerate such dangerous results? Is this sinful desire worth putting you in such fatal results?
6. Repeating Estighfaar and Salawaat is very useful in cleaning the inner and enlightening the mind and heart.
7. Seeking the help from Allah with the Waseela of His most beloved servants, Muhammad and his Holy Progeny Ahlul Bayt (AS).