Marriage

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognised union between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between those spouses, as well as between them and any resulting biological or adopted children and affinity (in-laws and other family through marriage). The definition of marriage varies around the world not only between cultures and between religions, but also throughout the history of any given culture and religion, evolving to both expand and constrict in who and what is encompassed, but typically it is principally an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually sexual, are acknowledged or sanctioned. In some cultures, marriage is recommended or considered to be compulsory before pursuing any sexual activity.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 days ago

Bismihi ta'ala

In an Islamic marriage contract, it is necessary to stipulate a nuptial gift, or what we call sidāq or mahr, and it can be anything that has a value, like teaching to recite Quran, or a copy of a Quran, etc. 

There are many benefits of having such a mahr and not demanding high mahr. There is a statement from the holy Prophet (s.a.w.) that says the best of the women of my ummah is she with the less mahr.

Mahr is not a sign of love, or a security bond, but only a gesture and token of truthfullness, and anything spiritual will of course carry many benefits in this dunya and in akhirah.

With prayers for your success.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 6 days ago

You must be sure that you and your children will always follow Ahlul Bayt (AS). Don't take any risk in this crucial matter. I advise you to invite him to read few books written by Sunni scholars who became followers of Ahlul Bayt (AS) after researching Sunni and Shia books e.g The I was guided by Dr Samawi Tijani and The Miising Link etc.

After reading such books and being able to ask questions to Shia scholars, he should be able to decide his following Ahlul Bayt (AS).

Wassakam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 weeks ago

It is Not true. No marriage took place between Umar and daughter of Imam Ali (AS). Fabricated narrations in this regard have been refuted by authentic evidence. Allama Nassir Husain son of Allama Haamid Husain has written a full book ( إفحام الأعداء والخصوم) in which he has mentioned authentic evidence that the whole story of the claimed marriage was fabricated by the enemies of Ahlul Bayt then mentioned by Ibn Sa'd in his book al-Tabaqaat. Ibn Sa'd was pro Umayyad rulers.

'Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 weeks ago

Muslim man is not allowed to permanently marry a Non Muslim woman from people of Book. Temporary marriage is permissible under some conditions.

Nikah is the recitation of the marriage agreement whether permanent or temporary which is must.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answer updated 1 month ago

The marriages of the Prophets are never for sexual desires but for purpose of serving the message of Allah (SWT) including avoiding expected bigger harm on the message and testing the degree of the faith of the people especially after the Prophet's life. Prophet Noah and Prophet Lut got married with wives who were away from obeying Allah and obeying them as Allah has mentioned them in Quran as the example of non believers (Sura 66, verse 10) despite being wives of prophets. This confirms that the degree of a person is not by relation but by sincere faith and obedience to Allah and His messenger. The marriage of the Prophet (SAWA) with Aisha was because of the demand of Abu Bakr , her father, likewise the marriage with Hafsa was by a demand from her father Umar. The Prophet (SAWA) wanted to avoid the harm which can happen to the newly established Muslim society in Madinah.

The very important aim of distinguishing between real believer and superficial one, was achieved when Aisha stood and fought against Imam Ali (AS) the real successor of the Prophet (SAWA) and she was followed by those Muslims who were not concrete in their faith. Wife of Prophet Musa (AS) did similar when she led an army to fight against the successor of Musa. History repeats itself.

'Such persons attract those who carry the name and claim but don't really follow the teachings of the Prophet. Allah says in Quran: Allah will never leave the believers in the state in which you are now until He distinguishes the wicked from the good. (Sura 3, verse 179).

Wassalam.

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 1 month ago

I am sorry to hear about your challenge. If both of you are dedicated to the marriage, inshallah you will find a way to make it work and maybe you will both eventually find greater ease through working together to build your life financially and otherwise. 

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 month ago

If the person has good faith and religious piousness with good manners then don't refuse his marriage proposal. Sustenance is in the hands of Allah (SWT) and He grants sustenance to all His creatures. The marriage itself is a way to get more sustence as the Hadeeth says: Get married for getting more sustenance, verily the wife will bring blessed sustenance تزوّجوا للرزق فإنّ فيهنّ بركة.

Wassalam.

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 1 month ago

Being sayed or non-sayed is wholly irrelevant here.

The criteria for marriage, from a shari'ah perspective, is that he is a Muslim, and the baseline criteria for being a Muslim is professing the shahadatayn (belief in Allah and the Prophet Muhammad).  

If he is deeply committed to his spiritual leader, it may be good to make sure you are comfortable with the spiritual leader's ideas, since, in my experience, when there is a conflict between a spiritual leader and a spouse, the spiritual leader usually wins. 

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 month ago

Bismihi ta'ala

As long as they are Muslim, yes you can marry them. It would be valid and legitimate. 

 However, we must always bear in mind that with spouse selection, there are numerous factors that would contribute to a sustainable and successful marriage.

One is compatibility, not just in life choices, but also in ideological mindset. If this person follows a fringe group, or does not adopt mainstream Islamic practices, and you do, then it would affect your relationship in the short and long term. 

This is why you should think wisely about your decision, and try to consult with your local scholar.

With prayers for your success.

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Zoheir Ali Esmail, Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD... Answer updated 1 month ago

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. Allah always puts the believer in the most beneficial position for them. So usually when we face difficulties we take solace in the knowledge that Allah doesn't decree anything bad for His servants and certainly doesn't prevent them from getting closer to Him. Rather, if there is an element of repaying some sins and that is in a certain trial then that is the best way for those misdeeds to be repaid and that is a means of getting closer to Him. But since we do not know for sure it is better to put our hope in Allah for the best outcome as there are many other reasons for why marriage may be delayed in the Wisdom of God, which may not seem obvious to us in the moment. Usually when we want something and we consider someone has the power to give it to us and they don't that they are preventing us for no reason or because they are unhappy with us. But maybe in their prevention there is a wisdom, such as preventing us from mistakes, testing to see what we are made of, or perhaps even just in order to make us value marriage when we do get married.

May you always be successful and may Allah grant you a beautiful happy marriage soon!

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 1 month ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

A muslim woman can only marry a muslim man. A muslim man can marry a non-muslim woman provided she is from the people of the book. Some ulema only allow Mutah marriage with a non-muslim woman and not permanent marriage. 

May Allah grant you success 

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 1 month ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

Such marriage is allowed but could become haram by secondary ruling if it leads to misguidance. For example, if a Shia woman would marry a Sunni man and she isn't strong in her faith, then it is possible she may deviate and such a marriage could be problematic. One must also make sure the one they marry is not hostile towards the Shia.

Furthermore one must think about the future of their kids, I have witnessed that in most cases when a shia woman has married a non-shia man, the kids end up becoming confused or lean more towards the father's beliefs. 

Please bear in mind just because something is allowed, in no way does this indicate that it is recommend. Therefore I advise anyone to marry a shia believer or someone who they can influence to follow the path of Ahlul bayt (peace be upon them).

May Allah swt grant you sucess