Marriage

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognised union between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between those spouses, as well as between them and any resulting biological or adopted children and affinity (in-laws and other family through marriage). The definition of marriage varies around the world not only between cultures and between religions, but also throughout the history of any given culture and religion, evolving to both expand and constrict in who and what is encompassed, but typically it is principally an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually sexual, are acknowledged or sanctioned. In some cultures, marriage is recommended or considered to be compulsory before pursuing any sexual activity.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 5 days ago

Asking Allah (SWT) to allow you to meet that person and perhaps get married to him if it is good for you, has a very clear and straight forward way which is supplication to Allah (SWT). Supplication (Du'a) is the always-open gate which was created by Allah for His creatures to ask Him as He said ( Seek from Me, I will respond to you) (Sura 40, Verse 60).

Seek from Allah (SWT) always, especially after your daily prayers ( Salah) and after Night Prayers ( Salat al-Layl) and during Sojood to grant you what He knows the best for you.

Recite this verse as many times as you can (إنَّ هذا لَرِزقُنا ما لَهُ مِن نَفاد )Sura 38, verse 54).

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 5 days ago

You need to be sure about your future and never take risk on your faith.

If he claims to be a Shia, why does he pray on the way of others? How can you trust him claiming being a Shia when he is not practicing Shia Islam in the most important worship which is the daily prayers?

You should not hurry in accepting his proposal until you have enough evidence that his claim of being a Shia Muslim is authentic. 
Marriage between Muslims is allowed provided that there is no risk on your religious practice in the future.

Wassalam.

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 week ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Irrespective of what maddhab he may be, it is extremely important to recognise and affirm good qualities for your potential spouse, especially in being honest and truthful.

It is permissible for a Shi'i to marry a Sunni, as long as he/she is able to preserve their Shi'i identity and practice their Shi'i ways without pressure or backlash. 

If he is interested in the Shi'i madhhab, then that will be his choice, but he needs to make it clear to you as to why he is saying he is Shi'i, but, might be doing certain things the Sunni way.

Is it because he is in fear of his life, and therefore he needs to do taqiyah? Is it due to lack of understanding, and what slight differences there are between the Shi'i method of praying and the 4 Sunni methods? 

Or, is it him trying to please you and make your hear what you wish to hear only, which means he is not be honest to you? 

This is a conversation that needs to happen.   

With prayers for your success.  

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 5 days ago

It is permissible to talk to a person for real intention marriage, not to waste time, as far as the talk does not involve emotional words or hints and remains within the limits of getting necessary information about the person's religious and moral  practice.

Any emotional or intimate word must be avoided until Aqd (marriage agreement either temporary or permanent ) is recited between you both.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answer updated 3 weeks ago

1. There is no evidence that your marriage was blocked by black magic and you should never surrender to this claim. Those who think that they are under the effect if black magic, get harmed even if there is nothing done against them, but they themselves harm themselves by thinking that they been under back magic.Even if there is any possibility of bad thing done against you, you can easily remove it away just by reciting Ayatul Kursi, Sura Falaq and Sura Naas after Prayers.

2. Reply on Allah's Mercy and trust that He will never let you alone. Seek His help always and supplicate and seek His support.

3. Recite this verse as many times as you can especially after every Prayer: إنَّ هذا لَرِقُنا ما لَهُ مِن نَفاد INNA HAATHA LARIZQUNA MAALAHO MIN NAFAAD (Sura 38, verse 54). This verse has great benefits in many matters including marriage.

4. Recite this Quranic Du'a : ربِّ لا تَذَرني فَرداً وَأنتَ خَيرُ الوارثين RABBI LA THATHARNI FARDAN  WA ANTA KHAIRUL WARITHEEN. (Sura al-Anbiyaa', verse 89).

5. Repeat Salawaat (ALLAHUMMA SALLI'ALA MUHAMMAD WA AALI MUHAMMAD) and Istighfaar (ASTAGHFIRULLAH RABBI WA ATOOBU ELAYH) and (La Hawla wala Qowwata illa Billah).

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 weeks ago

Yes, such marriage is valid despite the sinful act committed before it ( if any).

Marriage is invalid and not allowed for life if the woman was married when she committed she committed adultery with that man.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 weeks ago

No, it is not a valid reason in Islam to refuse a marriage proposal from a suitable person who is good believer with nice morals, just because of his living too far. 
Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 month ago

First of all, she needs to understand the basics of the faith of Islam; No God but Allah and Muhammad is His messenger. When she believes in Islam, permanent marriage between you and her will be allowed. No need for any witness from her family to attend. Marriage ceremony can be recited by any person who knows how to recite it in Arabic.

'Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 month ago

Not at all. It is impossible for a married woman to even think about any sexual matter with any one apart from her husband.

Mut'ah is a type of marriage. As it is impossible for a married woman to marry another man while she is already married, it is impossible for her to do Mut'ah while is she is married.

You might need to consult a lady doctor for a medical advice to control your very high sex drive. It is always good to discuss such matters with your husband.

Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 month ago

Bismihi ta'ala

The most important thing a person must do in life is be very cautious about the circle of friends he/she has, and who they associate with. 

We need to be extremely picky and sensitive towards this. 

You need to advice your brother about the direction he is going, and how all this will affect his spirit and religious faith. Try to show him the bad effects of these people he is associating with, and how damaging something like an illegitimate relationship will be, and also alcohol. 

If your advice does not have any effect, try to ask someone he respects to intervene, inform your parents to calmly advice him, and just try your best to dissuade him. Seek advice from people around you as well, who know him.

Dua is also very important. Hopefully, he will come to his conscience and realise the wrong direction he is heading. Just never give up.

With prayers for your success. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 month ago

Bismihi ta'ala

The fundamental issue here that must always be observed is "family involvement".

Make sure that parents of both sides are aware, fully involved, and give consent.

The only and best way of honour the opposite is by honouring his/her parents and family members. 

If parents give consent, and they are happy with this suitor, then yes, you should meet with each other. Meeting in public could be a good idea, as long as you both know that it will not bring about any problems from small-minded people who might want to gossip and accuse. 

Hopefully, by having a meeting, you will both be able to decide about marriage, and get married. 

With prayers for your success. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 month ago

Bismihi ta'ala

The statement "emotionally unstable" is very broad, and so it could be difficult to say whether it needs to be disclosed prior to a marriage proposal or not. 

If she has a chronic illness that would affect her spousal relationship, and impede in what people would see to be a healthy marriage, then it is best for her to be upfront about everything so she is not left with a broken heart or an early divorce. 

In general, it is always better to be direct and clear about one's mental state of being, and to mention what would be for or against them. 

Everyone is entitled to get married, even if they have certain challenges they are facing, and of course she can get married if she is emotionally unstable, but honesty is always going to work to everyone's advantage. 

Hopefully, with therapy and support of her family and loved ones she can overcome these emotional difficulties, and maybe marriage will secure her mental stability, in shaa Allah.

With prayers for your success.