Marriage

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognised union between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between those spouses, as well as between them and any resulting biological or adopted children and affinity (in-laws and other family through marriage). The definition of marriage varies around the world not only between cultures and between religions, but also throughout the history of any given culture and religion, evolving to both expand and constrict in who and what is encompassed, but typically it is principally an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually sexual, are acknowledged or sanctioned. In some cultures, marriage is recommended or considered to be compulsory before pursuing any sexual activity.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 day ago

Bismihi ta'ala

In our Shi'ah fiqh, it is not obligatory nor a condition for there to be any witnesses during a marriage contract.

However, it is advisable and recommended for marriage to be conducted in the presence of others, and for the Nikah to be publicised and announced. 

And Allah knows best.  

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 week ago

The Iddah ( waiting period) for divorced woman is three menstrual periods or three months. If she is pregnant, her Iddah will last till the delivery of the child.

If the woman was divorced before any sexual intercourse took place between her and her husband, then No Iddah on her because marriage was never consummated.

If the woman is old and she has no menstrual period , then there no Iddah of divorce on her.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 week ago

Yes you can marry when ever you need to marry to save yourself from falling in sinful acts. In fact, it is the responsibility of the father to arrange the marriage of his son when he needs marriage. Parents are not allowed to object or delay the marriage if it is for save guarding the son or the daughter from sinful acts.

Man does not need permission from his parents in marriage, but virgin daughter needs permission of her father or paternal grand father in her marriage. Yet, if the father refuses the marriage of his daughter for no valid reason, when she needs marriage to protect herself from sinful acts, she will be then allowed to marry with the suitable believer.

Wassalam.

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Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answer updated 1 week ago

as salam alaikum

we do not have much information about the woman of Fir'awn in authentic sources. We know from some ahadith that she has been one of the most pious lady of all times. 

The Qur'an says about her: "And Allah compares those who believe to the woman of Fir'awn. Behold! She said:- My Lord! Make me an abode in the Garden close to you and save me from Fir'awn...-" (66:11). Here, the expression "save me" seems to indicate a situation wherein Asiyah was forced to be his wife and from which she was looking for deliverance. 

It is not surprisingly that Allah tests His most faithful servants with great hardships as it has been a constant attitude of Him with His awliya'.

With prayers for your success.

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Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answered 1 week ago

as salam alaikum

Islam is a religion with guidelines for all aspects of life. Marriage is also an aspect of life and it is regulated by the Almighty according to His divine standard. The Qur'an states that it is not permissible to marry polytheists: "And marry not an idolatress until she believes: a believing maid is better than an idolatress even though she might highly please you. And do not give believing women in marriage to idolaters until they believe. And a believing slave in better than a free idolater" (2:221). Marriage-life in Islam is not simply a companionship between two people but part of the spiritual journey to Allah where husband and wife help each other for His sake and under His holy guidance: "Help one another in righteousness and taqwa" (5:2). A non-Muslim husband or wife cannot fully understand and observe all faith-related, spiritual and sometimes moral etiquettes that a Muslim person is called to observe. Also, Islamic lifestyle in ordinary circumstances is not a path that can be traveled unilaterally by a husband or a wife alone.  

It is true that in some cases there can be mutual respect and levels of understanding with a non-Muslim spouse but this is not a perpetual common ground to walk in, neither a shared path of faith leading to the same destination.

With prayers for your success.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 weeks ago

Assalam alaikum, 

A few years ago I wrote a short piece on this important topic, which would hopefully be useful for you to read:

https://facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=1224067687609422&id=100000186070548&set=a.116154988400703 

With prayers for your success. 

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answer updated 2 weeks ago

There is a false but famous narration in some books which claims that Ayesha was a child ( between six and nine years) when she got married with the Prophet Muhammad (SAWA). This narration is fabricated even according to many Sunni scholars because of :

1. The narrator is just one single person who is Hisham Ibn O'rwah Ibn al-Zubair who claimed narrating from Ayesha. Ayesha died on year 57 or year 58 after Hijra, while Hisham Ibn O'rwah was born in year 61 after Hijra. How can he claim narrating from her when she dies few years before his his birth?

2. Hisham Ibn O'rwah is not an authentic narrator according to many Sunni scholars including Al-Soyooti who included his name with the list of Mudalliseen ( those who mix and hide the reality in their narrations) ( Asmaa' al- Mudalliseen). Other leading Sunni scholars like Malik Ibn Anas , Al-Midyani and many others refuse the narrations of Hishan Ibn O'rwah.

3. There are certain historic facts in Sunni books prove that the age of Ayesha was between 20 to 30 or even more when her marriage with the Proohet (SAWA) took place:

3A. Asmaa' Bint Abi Bakr , the elder sister of Ayesha was elder then her at least few years. Some Sunni scholars said few years and said ten years. Asmaa' Bint Abi Bakr was born 27 years before the Bi'thah of the Prophet (SAWA) ( Majma' al-Zawa'id, V. 9, P. 260, Omdatul Qaari Fi Sharh Saheeh al-Bukhari, V. 2, P. 93, al-Majma' al-Kaberi by Al-Tabarani , V. 24, P. 77 and many others. This means that when the Prophet (SAWA) migrated from Makkah to Madinah after 13 years , the age of Asmaa' Bint Abi Bakr was 40 years. As the of Ayesha was few years ( or maximum ten years ) younger than her sister Asmaa', then the age of Ayesha when the Prophet ( SAWA) migrated to Madina was not less than thirty years.

As the marriage took place two years after Hijra, then the age of Ayesha was then more than thirty years.

4. It is also worth mentioning that the well known Sunni Historian Muhammad Ibn Sa'ad in His famous book Al-Tabaqaat al-Kubra (8: 9) narrated from Abdullah Ibn Maleekah that when the Prophet ( SAWA) proposed to Ayesha, Abu Baki ( her father) told him: I have given her for marriage to Jubair Ibn Mut'im, so, let me take her back from him, and he took her back from him by divorce, then gave her to the Prophet ( SAWA) for marriage.
It is also mentioned  in history that Ayesha had a son from her first marriage called Abdullah, that is why she was called by the Prophet by the name of her son Abdullah as Umm Abdillah. ( Sunan Abi Dawood).

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 weeks ago

Muslim man is not allowed to marry an agnostic woman. Marriage is an establishment of shared life between man and woman which must be based on principles of Faith in Allah, The Glorious.

Marriage is not just for fulfilling sexual desires, but to build a shared life based of Faith which is the main condition of harmony.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 month ago

Your responsibility is to continue trying your best to convince him and reminding him about Allah, and the everlasting life (Al-Aakhirah).

Wassalam. 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 month ago

Yes you are allowed to get married to him because he is a Muslim like you and all Muslims are allowed to marry with Muslims as far as the marriage does not cause harm to religion.

Wassalam.

Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answered 1 month ago

as salam alaikum

a Sunni woman can marry a Sunni man with a Shia father.

It is worth to note in this regard that three of the four major Sunni schools - the Maliki, Hanbali and Shaf'i schools - require the consent of the wali/father for marrying the woman; the Hanafi school however does not deem it necessary.

With prayers for your success.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 month ago
  1. Having doubts does not mean that you are a bad person as far as you are sincerely searching for the truth. Millions of people came to the true faith through doubts which led them to search then to the truth. Doubts cause a state of uneasiness in the mind and makes you think more,  and procedure of thinking is good because it usually makes you reach to the truth through strong steps supported by evidence. Allah guides all those who sincerely strive to reach to the Truth ( Sura 29, Verse 69).
  2. As far as you believe in Allah The Almighty, and His Prophets , you are a Muslim even if you have doubts about some Islamic teachings. The doubt does not mean that you deny the message of Allah. Wassalam.