Mut'a (Temporary marriage)
Nikah mut'ah is a private and verbal temporary marriage contract that is practiced in Twelver Shia Islam in which the duration of the marriage and the mahr must be specified and agreed upon in advance. It is a private contract made in a verbal or written format.
Mut'ah marriage is a type of marriage in Islam. It has been mentioned in Quran (Sura 4, Verse 24). Your confusion might be because of misinformation. You can read about this Islamic marriage on many websites including www.al-Islam.org.
The Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) taught the Muslim this type of marriage to save themselves from sinful sexual acts. It was practiced by Muslims during the time of the Prophet (SAWA) and government of Abu Bakr and part of the time of Umar, who banned it admitting that it was allowed by the Prophet himself. Hundreds of Hadeeths mentioned Mut'ah marriage in Shia and Sunni books including Bukhari and Muslim books of Hadeeth.
Mut'ah marriage is similar to permanent marriage in many conditions with few differences. Mut'ah marriage has a Mahr like permanent marriage and can never be allowed with an existing married woman just like permanent marriage.
Mut'ah marriage has a fixed agreed time and it does end by the end of the agreed time. No inheritance between them in Mut'ah marriage nor financial liability of livelihood unless agreed in the agreement of the marriage.
The children from Mut'ah marriage have all the rights of children from permanent marriage.
Waiting period after Mut'ah marriage is two menstrual periods.
Not at all. It is impossible for a married woman to even think about any sexual matter with any one apart from her husband.
Mut'ah is a type of marriage. As it is impossible for a married woman to marry another man while she is already married, it is impossible for her to do Mut'ah while is she is married.
You might need to consult a lady doctor for a medical advice to control your very high sex drive. It is always good to discuss such matters with your husband.
Loyalty and honouring one's word is the most valuable and most important of qualities a person can have. If your commitment to your word is weak, or you have no consideration to honouring your promise, what else is there?
Both the female, and the male as well have a commitment to stay loyal and honour their agreement. Betraying this, and violating the promise or contract given is not only a major sin, but could also weaken the very relationship in the case they wish to pursue for marriage. It will always be hovering over them that they betrayed the amanah given to them.
Yes, they can do what they are comfortable with, but stay within the permitter of the agreement.
If what you mean by "physical contact", as in no sexual intercourse, then they can have physical intimacy, but no penetration. This is a common condition fathers place, so this is left for consummation of marriage on wedding night.
If what you mean by "physical contact" is no physical contact whatsoever, then I think this was an unfair condition, and they should speak to her father and explain that this is unrealistic. Or, they can decide if marriage is the best option for them, and hasten that. If, of course, they find each other to be compatible and happy with marriage.
In any case, violating an agreement, especially if it is a condition in the contract is haram and sinful.
Best thing to do is negotiate for a change.
With prayers for your success.
According to Sayyed Sistani it is not permissible to marry someone famous for prostitution on the basis of obligatory precaution UNLESS she repents.
Shia Muslims believe in and follow the truth only. The narration you referred to is a fabricated one as leading Sunni Shaikhs including Umar ibn al-Khttab never believed that Mut'ah marriage was prohibited anytime during the life of the Prophet (SAWA). That is why Umar has clearly said about Mut'ah: It was allowed during the time of the Messenger of Allah and I am prohibiting it. ( Musnad Aahmad Ibn Hanbal and Sunan al-Bayhaqi and Saheeh Muslim and many other Sunni sources).
If your non Shia father refuses to allow your marriage with a good Believing person, for no valid reason, and you need the marriage to save yourself from falling in sin, you can refer to your Marja' of Taqleed to seek his guidance.
It is disliked for a virgin girl to do Mut'ah marriage.
The fiqhi ruling for this is the same for any wali amr, and she would need the consent of her father, whether he is Muslim or not. This is in the case that she has not been married before and is not completely independent in everything she does (balighah/rashidah).
And Allah knows best.
If she wanted you to recite on her behalf and both of you agree the period (Muddah) of marriage and the (Mahr), you say: ZAWWAJTU MOWAKKILATI (her name) LINAFSI 'ALAL MAHR AL-MA'LOOM LIL MUDDATIL MA'LOOMAH. Then say immediately: QABILTU ATTAZWEEJA LINAFSI 'ALAL MAHRIL MA'LOOM LIL MUDDATIL MA'LOOMAH.
If your Arabic is not proper, you should seek help from a person who can pronounce a Arabic properly.
If she is from People of Book (Ahlul Kitab non Muslims) and you have already a Muslim wife in permanent marriage, you need the permission of your Muslim wife before engaging in temporary marriage with a woman from Ahlul Kitab ( Christian , Jewish, Zaorastrians).
You can not do that unless you get permission from your Muslim wife.
Muslim man is not allowed to permanently marry a Non Muslim woman from people of Book. Temporary marriage is permissible under some conditions.
Nikah is the recitation of the marriage agreement whether permanent or temporary which is must.
This question is similar to many other fiqhi questions, where one would need to refer to his/her Marja' taqleed.
That being said, according to the view of most of our esteemed jurists, Ahlul Kitab are not najis, and as for temporary marriage with a Kitabiyah woman, most Maraji' also deem it as halal.
And Allah knows best.
This verse in Surah Al Nisa is a Quranic evidence about the permissibilty of temporary marriage which is also known as “Nikah Al-Mut’ah” or” Zawaj Al-Mut’ah” or Mut'ah.
All Muslims Scholars from all Muslim sects admit that this verse is very clear in the Quranic evidence on the permissibility of Mut’ah Marriage. Wahahbi grand Mufti Ibn Baaz admitted that this verse is very clear on Mut'ah and added : all the Ulama took from it clearly that Zawaj Al-Mut'ah is permissible.
Some claimed that Mut’ah was then banned. Yes, it was banned by Umar ibn Al-Khattab, not by the Prophet (SAWA)at all. Umar himself said and repeated that : Mut'ah marriage was allowed during the time of the Messenger of Allah, and I am banning it and will punish on it. ( Saheeh Muslim 4:59 and Sunan al-Bayhaqi 7:206 and Ahlam al-Quran by al-Jassass 1:352, and Tafseer al-Qurtobi 2:392).
Mut’ah Marriage was explained to the Muslims by Prophet himself and He (Peace be Upon Him and His Holy Progeny) taught the Muslims the rules of the Mut’ah Marriage. Mut’ah Marriage requires Mahr and requires a time agreed by both of man and woman.
It is very important to note that this verse has been narrated with the explanation of it that “whatever you do Mut’ah with a woman for an agreed period “Ila Ajalin Musammah”. إلى أجل مسمّى This is the recitation of Ibne Abbas as you can read it in Tareekh Al Tabari. Ibne Abbas was clearly saying that the verse of Mut’ah had within it “Ila Ajalin Musamma” means upto an agreed time. Hakim Al-Nisabouri in his famous Book Al Musatadrak Volume-2 Page-305 has narrated the Hadeeth from Ibne Abbas and said that this is an authentic (Saheeh) Hadeeth according to the conditions of Muslim, but it was not narrated neither in Bukhaari nor in Muslim. According to him it is a Saheeh Hadeeth. Al-Dahabi who is one of the well-known Sunni Scholar has also agreed on the same that this narration from Ibne Abbas is authentic and Saheeh. Musannaf by Abdur Razzaq also narrated the recitation of Ibn Abbas on this verse that it has got “Ila Ajalin Musamma” means upto an agreed time period.Tabarani in his AlMo’jam Al-Kabeer, Volume-10 Page-320 narrated from Ibn Abbas saying Mut’ah Marriage was allowed since the beginning of Islam and they used to recite this verse “4:24” Famastam tatum Behi Minhun Ila Ajalin Musamma” means whatever you have Mut’ah Marriage with a female upto an agreed time. Tabari in his famous book of Tafseer Volume-5 Page-18 narrated this recitation of “upto agreed or postponed period “Ila Ajalin Musamma”. Tabari narrated it from Ibne Abbas and also from Obeyye Bin Ka’b and also from Ibn Masood and also from Al-Suddi and also from Mujahid and also from Saeed Ibn Jubair and also from Ali Ibn Abu Talib (A.S.). Ibn Jarir Al Tabbari said: There is a narration from Ali (A.S.)) that : Had Umar ( Ibn al-Khattab ) did not ban the Mut’ah Marriage, No one will commit fornication but only those who are evil .
So the meaning of the verse 4:24 is very clear as it was explained clearly by the Prophet (SAWA) to Ummah and accordingly, the Muslims started practising Mut’ah Marriage during the time of the Prophet and continued all his life and even during the Government of Abu Bakr and part of the Government of Umar, till Umar thought to ban it. Simply, you find in Sunni books The Qira’ah recitation of Ibn Abbas and others that it is very clear “Ila Ajalin Musamma” means the Mut’ah Marriage is a marriage for an agreed time.