Family

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My cat died a sudden death and someone suggested this may have averted some calamity for my family. Is this idea supported in the Qur'an or Hadith?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 2 days ago

I am sorry to hear about your loss.

It is narrated that the Prophet (S) said: “Keep many domestic animals (al-dawajin) in your houses so that the shayatin (demons) are occupied with them instead of with your children.” (See Tibb al-A'immah)

I think there is some truth to this.

Of course, maybe your cat just died and there was no other reason for it. The lifespan of animals is also in the hands of Allah, and this life is transitory for all of us.

At least you got to enjoy some time together, and one thing I have always admired about animals is that they handle death with grace and acceptance.

With salaams and du'as

60845

Sunni . Family . Death . Ghusl . Shi'a

I am the only Shiah male in my Sunni family. In the event of my death, will their act of Ghusl and Kafan for me be considered correct and sufficient?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 month ago

Yes, the Ghusl and Kafan of any Muslim is considered as sufficient.

Wassalam.

59283

Family . Surname

Is it okay if I omit my family name from my name but still consider myself from that family tree?

No, it is not allowed to do so. The Hadeeth says: Allah curses any one who enters in a family who is not his, and any one who leaves his family. لعن الله الداخل في النسب ولعن الله الخارج من النسب.

Your family name is not just a personal consideration in your heart but it is a matter which should be known to people who know you or deal with you.

Every one was created by Allah within a family which is like the tree and we are its branches. It is a matter of destiny and decision of Allah. The person who tries to cut the branch away from the tree, will be cursed as Allah cursed in Quran those who cut ties with their relatives. Sura Muhammad, Verses 22 and 23.

Omitting your family name is not an act which Allah The Almighty wants from you. On the contrary, we need to do every thing possible to strengthen the relations with our family members who are been created by Allah as branches of our family tree.

Wassalam.

59212

Father . Death . Family . Anger

Is it forbidden to pray for your own father's death in a situation where he is an alcoholic who is angry all the time and physically assaults his immediate family?

It is very wrong to pray for your own father's death even if he is a very bad person. The supplication against parents can have very bad effect on you.

You must treat him nicely and pray for his Hidayah ( guidance). and forgiveness.

Wassalam.

57238

Sunni . Family . Taqiyya (Dissimulation) . Salah (Prayers)

While performing Salaah with Sunni family members can I fold my arms in Qiyam, as per Taqiyyah?

If Taqqyah is really required in your circumstances, then yes. It
means that if you don’t fold your arms during prayer with your Sunni
family members, it can cause you real risk and harm.

So Taqayyah will be applicable to avoid such expected harm. It is good
to inform your Sunni family members that folding arms is not in the
Salaah of the many Sunnis who are followers of the Maaliki sect. So
many millions of Maaliki Sunnis do not fold their arms during Salaah.
This is the practice of the Maaliki Sunnis. But if you want to search
the evidence of folding hands during Salaah ,you will never find an
authentic Hadith that te Holy Prophet (SAWA) folded hands during
Salaah. Folding hands during Salaah was ordered by Umar ibn Khattab
during his government time. None of the leading Sunni scholars could
claim that folding hands during Salaah is obligatory.

Leading Sunni scholar Sheikh Sayyed Sabiq in his book Fiqh al Sunnah
stated that there is not a single authentic Hadith suggesting that the
Holy Prophet (SAWA) folded his hands during even one Salaah

Wassalaam.

57559

Family . Mother . Ring . Burial . Cremation

I am the only Muslim in my family and my deceased mother was cremated according to her wishes. Her ashes will be buried, but is it permissible for some of her ashes to be used in making memorial jewellery, such as a ring, to be kept by the family?

Cremating any human body is absolutely forbidden in Islam, and the will to be cremated is invalid , because human being is honoured in Quran ( We have honoured the children of Adam, and We have carried them on land and sea, and granted them from good things, and preferred them above many of our creatures a marked preferment.( Sura 17, Verse 70).

It is also not allowed to use the ashes in making memorial jewelleries or any thing else. It must be buried only.

Wassalam.

56818

Family . Silat al-Rahm

If you cut off contact with a close family member, such as a sibling, do none of your good deeds count anymore?

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 3 months ago

It depends upon the reason. It is obligatory for a Muslim to defend their honour. They are not allowed to accept being humiliated. Ayatollah Dastghayb Shirazi mentions situations where it is wajib or permissible to do qat' al-rahm: 'to cut off ties': that is: if you are forced to commit haram by your family and if your family drives you out due to your religion. If you are being seriously emotionally or physically harmed by a family member, then it is technically not permissible for you to tolerate that. Please see this link below for more information: https://www.al-islam.org/greater-sins-volume-1-ayatullah-sayyid-abdul-husayn-dastghaib-shirazi/seventh-greater-sin-qata-ar#what-least-amount-silet-ar-rahm-wajib

Family . Silat al-Rahm

If you cut off contact with a close family member, such as a sibling, do none of your good deeds count anymore?

Cutting off contact with any of your relatives is a major sin which leads to very dangerous consequences :

1. To be cursed by Allah, according to Quran (Sura Muhammad, verses 22 and 23).

2. Your life span can be cut off, according to many authentic Hadeeths.

3. Your income will be cut off as well.

Wassalam.

55144

Family . Oppression . Hate

Is it allowed to hate someone from our family because they are mean, oppressive and support oppression by others?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 4 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

As Muslims we must always be forebearing and forgiving, even to those who wrong us. The holy Quran clearly tells us that we must not hold grudges against those who believe. This is in verse 10 of Surah al-Hashr:

And do not put in our hearts any rancour towards those who believe.

Regarding someone being family and kin, we know how Islam emphasises on observing the best of conduct regarding one's family. There will always be disputes and disagreements, but a believer must never harbour any resentment towards another believer.

What we can say is we leave what they did for Allah ta'ala to deal with.

With prayers for your success.

53814

Family . Shi'a . Silat al-Rahm . Takfir

Given the importance of maintaining family ties, can one refuse to attend family functions due to the fact that those relatives declare the Shi'a as Kafir?

We should not cut ties with any relative even if they are bad to us and call us Kafir.

Our behavior should prove to them and other relatives our real identity and whether we are Kafirs or not.

Ahlul Bayt (AS) taught us to mix and treat our relatives and tribes with best manners. People wll then know the real teachings of Ahlul Bayt by seeing the good practice of the Shia.

Wassalam.

53413

Family . Wife . Shi'a . Marriage

If a boy marries a Shi'a girl that his parents are unhappy with, due to her family background, and it’s causing a family rift and clashes, what is the boy’s duty towards his parents and his wife?

He has to be very polite and respect his parents and never make them feel insulted because of his choice of marriage. He has always to be just and kind to his wife and never allow injustice or insult to her. maintaining both sides needs wisdom and will power with seeking help of Allah (SWT).

Wassalam

51804

Wife . Husband . Family . Marriage

What is the correct Islamic course of action to take if a wife wishes to live separate from her in-laws but the husband wants to live with his family?

Bismihi ta'ala

A wife is entitled to having an independent place of her own, with her husband/children. This can be a house on its own, or a section of a house shared by others, but with their independence and privacy.

In a situation where the wife is not comfortable living with her in-laws, she is able to deal with this in a variety of ways, but the one main issue is never to allow problems to escalate.

Parent-in-laws are like parents, and hence they must be respected and revered.

Try to look at things from a different perspective, finding ways of comprehending their side of the situation. By doing this, you will eliminate your possible sensitivity towards things they might say or do to you.

Try to establish boundaries privacy and independence, where they grant you what you are entitled to have.

Try to explain things that you might not be comfortable with, by communicating with those around you, politely and with utmost respect.

Do your side of contributing to the house, whatever it may be, and do it with passion and precision, so that you are not criticised.

Your husband has an important role in all of this, not just to mediate, but to also explain to both sides of his family and you how all can live harmoniously and get used to each other.

There must be some set plan and strategy as to when you will all be living on your own. The plan might be to live with them until you are financially stable to go out on your own, or to purchase a house, or something like that, but there must be some scheduled plan.

If you have tried all of these things, try again and again, all for the sake of avoiding further altercation and to sustain the relationship you have with your husband.

Hopefully, with patience and understanding you will not know accomplished the skill of containing problems, but also reached your goal of living independently and on your own so that you can both build a family together, in shaa Allah.

Wassalam