Family

111322

I come from a very religious Syed family and I would like to know whether it is acceptable to get married to a non Syed person?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 2 months ago

Yes

111310

Wife . Son . Family . Respect . Conversion to Islam . Hindusim

I am a revert and my wife does not want my son to be near my Hindu family as she has no respect for them. What should I do?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

This is unacceptable. Whatever the family's religion may be, Muslims must honour and respect their families. Your wife has no right to do this.

If she has certain concerns, you should address them. There might be something she has seen, like abuse, or intimidation, or trying to brainwash your son, etc... Try to pinpoint what the dispute is about, and deal with it.

But if it is just because she has no respect for your family, this does not give her the right to deprive her son of visiting or being with his grandparents and family.

With prayers for your success.

110699

Man . Family . Girl . Conversion to Islam . Christianity . Marriage

A Muslim convert man with a Christian family wants to marry a Muslim girl. Is it allowed for her to get married to that man?

Bismihi ta'ala

If all other shar'i requirements are met, yes, she can marry that man.

The marriage proposal must take its normal procedure, primarily around the parents giving their consent and their blessings. This is the most important part.

A second important step is to see the character traits of the person, their moral standards, their family, compatibility, etc.

A third step to take is seeking consultation and advice, trying to find out if this prospect marriage is a good idea, and the obstacles they might face. This is necessary for any case of marriage, Muslim born, or convert.

Both of them should study this from all its angles, for the sake of making the right decision and having a successful marriage.

With prayers for your success.

110785

Brother . Family . Mother . Silat al-Rahm

I have a toxic brother who has disrespected every member of my family multiple times including spitting on our mother. Am I allowed to cut ties with him?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 months ago

Not at all. No matter how bad is your brother or relative, you should never cut ties with him but you should avoid endorsing his wrong acts.

You must keep a link with him through any suitable way of communication and keep advising and guiding him as and when you have a chance.

Wassalam.

105020

Islam . Husband . Family

Is it required in Islam that I stay with my husband's family?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 3 months ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

If you mean by 'stay' to live with your husband's family then no, this isn't required. In fact it is obligatory upon the husband to provide a suitable accommodation for his wife in order for her to feel safe and comfortable.

Living with in-laws can be an option for the newly married couple who have just gotten on their feet, however it has been shown many times that that long term living with in-laws can cause many problems as well as a lack of privacy for the couple. Therefore it is recommended that the couple try to eventually find their own place.

May Allah grant you success

105412

Family . God (Allah)

How can we respond to a non-Muslim who says that the family we get born in is not in our control, and so had Allah wished him to be a Muslim he would have placed him in a Muslim household?

Zoheir Ali Esmail, Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD... Answered 3 months ago

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. While it is true that there are some things out of our control, the choice to believe is within our control. Being born in a Muslim family or not is not the sole determining factor in the attainment of belief. If that was the case the early Arabs who were mainly born into polytheistic households would not have converted to Islam. Similarly, there would be no hypocrites or apostates from Muslim families, if the family you are born in is the sole determinant. Rather, God has given each individual the intellect and intuition to find the correct path, no matter what situation they start with. And everyone is rewarded according to their effort.

May you always be successful

105498

Narrations . Wealth . Saving . Family . Children . Death

We see through different narrations that encourage us to give away our wealth during our lifetime rather than saving it up. How much wealth should we save for our family and children for when we die?

We Beed to look after selves as well as our family and children. We need good deeds for our future as much as we can. We also should for our family and children Whatever they need to have a respectable livelihood till they are able to earn for themselves. Obviously, we believe that Allah (SWT) will never leave them as He never left us.

Wassalam.

105759

Family . Clothing . Death . Sadaqa (Charity)

Should the clothes of the deceased be given to charity or can they be kept and used by the family?

It can be kep and used by the family or friends or given to charity if the inheritors want to give it to charity. It is owned by the inheritors and they can donate or gift or use it.

Wassalam.

105742

Girl . Family . Marriage

As a girl who wants to get married I am not getting any proposals presumably because I am not good looking. I keep getting hurt as my family keeps passing sarcastic remarks about my inability to find a suitor. What should I do?

Bismihi ta'ala

In regards to marriage and having a befitting suitor proposing to you, this is something that will hopefully happen in the right time and by the right person. All you need to do is keep with your dua, positivity, patience and good principles and standards.

We have so many ahadith that condemn people who go after looks in marriage, or wealth. You do not want a shallow person who's understanding of life is just outer appearance of people. If you have high akhlaq and you are a person of values and you are religious, then they are missing out, not you.

As for your family members, I am sure they are not serious with these comments, and you should not take things to heart. Do not let sarcasm or negative comments affect you or get under your skin. Brush them off, and smile or laugh back. The less you react to their comments, the less they will say these kind of things that could hurt you.

Try speaking to somebody you trust, who could also have a serious conversation with your family about these comments.

In shaa Allah my fellow colleagues will also have some advice for you as well.

With prayers for your success.

103532

Husband . Family

Can I stop speaking to my husband's side of the family, his mum and sisters, if I feel they do not have good intentions towards me?

No. Islam does not allow stopping speaking with any Muslim whom you know more than three days, leave alone your husband's relatives. Stopping speaking to them can hurt the feelings of your husband and this is a Haraam (sinful act).

Wassalam.

100539

Family . Marriage

If a family of a girl, after her strong and firm opposition to being married against her will, makes her accept the marriage under their influence, will that marriage be considered valid?

Bismihi ta'ala

It is indeed very sad and also scary that in this day and age we still have such things happening.

Her family cannot in anyway for her to accept to get married with someone she does not want to marry. In my opinion this abusive, cruel and evil.

From a shar'i perspective, the marriage is batil and has no validity.

And Allah knows best.

100549

Family . Conversion to Islam . Salah (Prayers)

I am a revert and I do not want my family members to know that I am praying. Will my prayers still be valid if I recite everything in Salat quietly including the Bismilla?

Bismihi ta'ala

Numerous reverts I have interacted with did face similar issues, where they feared backlash, and had to conceal their Islam. They would pray in secret, and so on.

In answering your question, in your circumstances, your prayer will indeed be valid.

What I would like to recommend is that you correspond with other fellow reverts from your same background, and find feasable ways in how you are able to overcome some of the struggles and difficulties you might be facing.

May the Almighty give you strength, and bless you for your accomplishments.