Family

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What should I do if my family won't let me marry a guy for at least a year because we are too young, 17 and 21, even though they have accepted us both to be together?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 week ago

Being together with out any type of marriage whether permanent or temporary is sinful act. You both can recite a temporary marriage agreement if the father of the girl agrees that you be together. This temporary marriage can be recited between you with out publicity if her father does not object, and will save you both from falling in sinful acts. When you both get elder, then you can go for permanent marriage (Nikah) though you are now not too young for marriage as your parents think.

Wassalam.

63687

Zakat . Family . Poor

Is it counted as Zakat if we helped a family member who had financial problems or was poor?

Yes, it is allowed to help any family member from Zakat if he is: 1) Really poor.

2) Abiding to Islamic rules.

3) He should not be a parent or a spouse or a sibling, because it is compulsory to look after the needs of your parents and spouse and siblings from your own money not from Zakat or Khums.

You don't need to inform him if he is entitled to Zakat that it is from Zakat.

It is highly recommended to help the needy relatives as the Hadeeth says: There is no charity when a relative is in need. لا صدقة وذو رحم محتاج.

Wassalam.

62794

Islam . Family . Dog . Pet . Conversion to Islam

I am 13 years old and I converted to Islam when I was 12. What should I do if my family has a dog as a pet?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 4 weeks ago

According to Islam, it is not ideal to have a pet dog, and it is better in terms of Islamic etiquette not to have a dog in the house, but it is not forbidden to have one.

However, if you have a dog in the house, you should be sure to observe Islamic rules of cleanliness for prayer. For instance, before praying salat, wash any area of yourself that the dog might have been licking or if the dog came into contact you while it was wet. When praying salat, avoid praying directly on the floor and instead pray on top of something (like a prayer rug or, if you do not have one, a towel or mat or something similar), and put it away when you are not using it so the dog cannot get to it. Also, be sure your clothes do not have dog hair on them and have not been licked by the dog or touched by a wet dog; if your dog is very affectionate, you may wish to have a separate pair of clothes that you only wear for salat (if this is possible). Also, if your family is very casual about dishes and where the dog goes, be sure the dishes you use have not been, ahem, slobbered on, licked, etc. (Some people are very strict about these things and some people are casual, that is why I am mentioning it)

Yes, this is inconvenient, which is one of the reasons it is better not to have a dog in the house! But you can still practice Islam and all aspects of Islam with or without a dog present.

62847

Woman . Home . Family . Employment

Can a woman work outside of her home for the welfare of the community and humanity such as in the role of a teacher, engineer, doctor, or lawyer? Or does she have to only live for her family and husband?

Muslim woman is not only allowed but also been encouraged to serve the community in every possible field , obviously with observing full Hijab. Pious ladies like Lady Fatimah, Lady Zainab , Lady Khadija hare best examples.

Wassalam.

62635

Family . Christians . Wife . Conversion to Islam

I am married to a Muslim convert whose father is an atheist and the rest of the family are non-practicing Christians who try to influence my wife. To what extent should I keep a relationship with them?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 month ago

Bismihi ta'ala

You have a great responsibility on your shoulders, in not only honouring your revert wife in the best way you can, but also showing the highest standards of Islamic Akhlaq to your in-laws. You represent Islam, and they see Islam through you. Even though they might be atheists, or followers of a religion, for you it is of utmost importance to conduct yourself in the best way possible.

Your wife also has an important duty in trying to maintain the relationship between the two families as civil as possible. Along with her studying about religion and deepening her understanding of Islam, she can also engage in polite and productive discussions with them.

When she does this, there will be no concern from your side that she is being negatively influenced. If she is strong enough in her faith, then even if a discussion becomes heated, it will not effect her.

Yes, it might be frustrating from your side, and all you want to do is just socialise with your in-laws, but they bring up topics that might aggravate you.

The extent of the relationship is that you honour them, as your in-laws, and that you avoid arguments or anything that would tension things between you and them.

You should maintain patience, and think of the bigger responsibility you have. Always do dua for them, and pray for their hidayah.

With prayers for your success.

62392

Cat . Death . Family

My cat died a sudden death and someone suggested this may have averted some calamity for my family. Is this idea supported in the Qur'an or Hadith?

I am sorry to hear about your loss.

It is narrated that the Prophet (S) said: “Keep many domestic animals (al-dawajin) in your houses so that the shayatin (demons) are occupied with them instead of with your children.” (See Tibb al-A'immah)

I think there is some truth to this.

Of course, maybe your cat just died and there was no other reason for it. The lifespan of animals is also in the hands of Allah, and this life is transitory for all of us.

At least you got to enjoy some time together, and one thing I have always admired about animals is that they handle death with grace and acceptance.

With salaams and du'as

60845

Sunni . Family . Death . Ghusl . Shi'a

I am the only Shiah male in my Sunni family. In the event of my death, will their act of Ghusl and Kafan for me be considered correct and sufficient?

Yes, the Ghusl and Kafan of any Muslim is considered as sufficient.

Wassalam.

59283

Family . Surname

Is it okay if I omit my family name from my name but still consider myself from that family tree?

No, it is not allowed to do so. The Hadeeth says: Allah curses any one who enters in a family who is not his, and any one who leaves his family. لعن الله الداخل في النسب ولعن الله الخارج من النسب.

Your family name is not just a personal consideration in your heart but it is a matter which should be known to people who know you or deal with you.

Every one was created by Allah within a family which is like the tree and we are its branches. It is a matter of destiny and decision of Allah. The person who tries to cut the branch away from the tree, will be cursed as Allah cursed in Quran those who cut ties with their relatives. Sura Muhammad, Verses 22 and 23.

Omitting your family name is not an act which Allah The Almighty wants from you. On the contrary, we need to do every thing possible to strengthen the relations with our family members who are been created by Allah as branches of our family tree.

Wassalam.

59212

Father . Death . Family . Anger

Is it forbidden to pray for your own father's death in a situation where he is an alcoholic who is angry all the time and physically assaults his immediate family?

It is very wrong to pray for your own father's death even if he is a very bad person. The supplication against parents can have very bad effect on you.

You must treat him nicely and pray for his Hidayah ( guidance). and forgiveness.

Wassalam.

57238

Sunni . Family . Taqiyya (Dissimulation) . Salah (Prayers)

While performing Salaah with Sunni family members can I fold my arms in Qiyam, as per Taqiyyah?

If Taqqyah is really required in your circumstances, then yes. It
means that if you don’t fold your arms during prayer with your Sunni
family members, it can cause you real risk and harm.

So Taqayyah will be applicable to avoid such expected harm. It is good
to inform your Sunni family members that folding arms is not in the
Salaah of the many Sunnis who are followers of the Maaliki sect. So
many millions of Maaliki Sunnis do not fold their arms during Salaah.
This is the practice of the Maaliki Sunnis. But if you want to search
the evidence of folding hands during Salaah ,you will never find an
authentic Hadith that te Holy Prophet (SAWA) folded hands during
Salaah. Folding hands during Salaah was ordered by Umar ibn Khattab
during his government time. None of the leading Sunni scholars could
claim that folding hands during Salaah is obligatory.

Leading Sunni scholar Sheikh Sayyed Sabiq in his book Fiqh al Sunnah
stated that there is not a single authentic Hadith suggesting that the
Holy Prophet (SAWA) folded his hands during even one Salaah

Wassalaam.

57559

Family . Mother . Ring . Burial . Cremation

I am the only Muslim in my family and my deceased mother was cremated according to her wishes. Her ashes will be buried, but is it permissible for some of her ashes to be used in making memorial jewellery, such as a ring, to be kept by the family?

Cremating any human body is absolutely forbidden in Islam, and the will to be cremated is invalid , because human being is honoured in Quran ( We have honoured the children of Adam, and We have carried them on land and sea, and granted them from good things, and preferred them above many of our creatures a marked preferment.( Sura 17, Verse 70).

It is also not allowed to use the ashes in making memorial jewelleries or any thing else. It must be buried only.

Wassalam.

56818

Family . Silat al-Rahm

If you cut off contact with a close family member, such as a sibling, do none of your good deeds count anymore?

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 5 months ago

It depends upon the reason. It is obligatory for a Muslim to defend their honour. They are not allowed to accept being humiliated. Ayatollah Dastghayb Shirazi mentions situations where it is wajib or permissible to do qat' al-rahm: 'to cut off ties': that is: if you are forced to commit haram by your family and if your family drives you out due to your religion. If you are being seriously emotionally or physically harmed by a family member, then it is technically not permissible for you to tolerate that. Please see this link below for more information: https://www.al-islam.org/greater-sins-volume-1-ayatullah-sayyid-abdul-husayn-dastghaib-shirazi/seventh-greater-sin-qata-ar#what-least-amount-silet-ar-rahm-wajib