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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 month ago

Yes it is permissible if you are sure that no one at all can see you.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 month ago

Yes, it is allowed for husband and wife.

Wassalam.

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answer updated 1 month ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

Being in a state of janabah or hayd doesn't make your hands najis. The only times you would spread najasa is when you touch blood or one of the najis substances with a wet hand or body part and then spread it. 
 

You can touch things with wet hands in either state and nothing would become najis. 
 

Only some ulema state that the sweat of someone who has committed zina is najis. 
 

May Allah grant you success 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 month ago

It is not allowed to swallow any Najis item and if you allow a Najis item in your mouth, you must spit it out and clean you mouth and lips with water.

Wassalam.

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 1 month ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

Firstly a Muslim female shouldn't have male non-mahram friends. So this is already out of the question. Yes, interaction with the opposite gender at the workplace for example is permitted. 

In regard to discussing private sexual matters with her female friends, this should be avoided. Unfortunately some women fall into this and divulge intimate details of their spouses. 
 

If the woman genuinely needs advice related to sexual matters, she can speak or ask in a general sense without making it specific to herself. 
 

May Allah grant you success 

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 1 month ago

If it is a situation you are unhappy with, you could try to change her mind. Sometimes, when women pass their "sexpiration date" [as I heard someone call it once :) ], and there is no biological/medical reason why this is the case, it isn't necessarily due to age. Rather, it is sometimes due to emotional/interpersonal dynamics in the marriage that discourage them from wanting to have a physical relationship. Sometimes it also due to frequent childbirth and not wanting to conceive again (which, I guess, probalby isn't a consideration in an older age). 

Both men and women can vary throughout their lives in terms of how interested they are in having a physical relationship, and sometimes there are hormonal or medical reasons that affect this, including but not limited to health conditions and the side effects of medications, as well as lifestyle factors such as stress and exhaustion. So this may also be a factor. 

[Of course every situation is different, I am just putting these out there as general possibilities]

If she is quite certain that she would like to close this chapter of her life, well, your formal Islamic options are the standard options. Either you could just accept it  (this is usually what society encourages women to do in this situation), or you can take another wife. Or, perhaps she might be amenable to other forms of physical intimacy, if that works for you.

Anyway, life is rarely easily and ideal, and the interaction between the two genders is also rarely ideal and has its own lifelong challenges. Perhaps prayer to find the best solution is a good start. 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 months ago

Intimate acts which do not include sexual intercourse do not mean that the marriage has been consummated. Marriage is consummated when sexual intercourse takes place. If there was no sexual intercourse, there will be no Iddah after divorce. Obviously you will then be entitled of half of the agreed Mahr, while if marriage was consummated, you will be entitled to the full Mahr.

Wassalam.

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

If the marriage has not been consummated, there will be no 'iddah for divorce and the wife will be entitled to half the mahr. 

Consummating means sexual intercourse, and so there would be 'iddah if  (1) there is intercourse, or (2) the husband's seminal fluid (somehow) entered the wife's vagina.

And Allah knows best. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Because the marriage was consummated, you would need to observe 'iddah of divorce. As for informing elders, that would be at your discretion. 

And Allah knows best. 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 months ago

If you doubt whether your previous prayers and fasting were performed with or with out Ghusl of Janabah, then you do not need to re do it, but if you are sure that you did not perform Ghusl of Janabah, then you need to re do it as Qadha.

Wassalam.

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 3 months ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

If you know that the white fluid is semen then you must perform the ghusl al janabah. If you also feel ejaculation after sexual excitement which causes this white liquid to come out then you do ghusl. 
 

May Allah grant you success 

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 3 months ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

Yes this is allowed 

May Allah grant you success