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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 weeks ago

He is not allowed to force her to do something more than the usual sexual intercourse which she does not like to do. 
Sexual intercourse is forbidden during menstrual period.

Oral sex is not obligatory on her.

Wassalam.

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 1 month ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

After a man engages in intercourse with his wife, he'll be in a state of spiritual impurity. So in order for him to be in a state of purity again, he just needs to perform the ghusl al Janaba and this will also give make him in the state wudu as well, so no need to do wudu. 
 

If however during the ghusl or after he would do an action which would break wudu, then he would have to repeat the wudu again and not the ghusl. 
 

May Allah grant you success 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 month ago

Not at all. It is impossible for a married woman to even think about any sexual matter with any one apart from her husband.

Mut'ah is a type of marriage. As it is impossible for a married woman to marry another man while she is already married, it is impossible for her to do Mut'ah while is she is married.

You might need to consult a lady doctor for a medical advice to control your very high sex drive. It is always good to discuss such matters with your husband.

Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 month ago

Bismihi ta'ala

In Islam, masturbating is haram. If the woman is married, it is her husband's duty to satisfy his wife's sexual needs. It is very oppressive and selfish if he does not. We have numerous hadiths that mention this as well. 

If, for whatever reason, the husband is not fulfilling his duty and catering to her rights, it does not give her permission to do haram, and she must address this with her husband, or find other solutions.

And Allah knows best. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 month ago

Bismihi ta'ala

No, sweat does not become najis in this case. 

A general principle is when one is in the state of janabah, it is imperitave to hasten in doing their ghusl. 

And Allah knows best.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 month ago

It is not allowed as it can divert your attention to sinful acts. If are married and away from your wife, you will be allowed to visualize about you and her as your wife but not to the extend of reaching ejaculation.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 months ago

Reading such things might harm in the long term as it leaves on you unconscious part of your mind harmful effects. Doctors and specialised  advisors have  already published many scientific books in this subjects. Publishing personal sexual experience might be not approved by scientist as it can based on certain circumstances which are not existing with every one who seeks advice, and might also encourage some persons to intimate it and some might fall in wrong.

I advise you to avoid it.

Wassalam.

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 2 months ago

This is normal. 

Dealing with one's urges when they are inconvenient is also part of the human condition. Unfortunately there is currently no solution to one of the problems of modernity: that biological maturity (puberty) happens before social maturity (at which time one usually marries).

Islamically, the shariah-prescribed options are marriage (regardless of whether it involves traditional social roles or not, what form it takes, etc) or abstinence. 

Marriage: That's between yourself and your family and your personal/social situation. There are other questions here that discuss that which you could look at.

Abstinence: Forewarned is forearmed. Since you know what days will be more challenging, you can explore what sort of interventions help calm your hormones down. Some women find it helpful to exercise more or avoid certain foods around those days (especially chocolate, meat, or animal products - especially given how many hormones are given to animals today). One can also simply try to think about other things.

Fasting doesn't usually seem to have the same effect on women that it seems to on men with respect to calming down one's urgers (in fact many women say it has the opposite effect), but everyone is different.

Ideally, the higher side of the human being should control the animal side, in a way that a horseman controls his steed. In reality, this is often a work in progress for people. But, there is a virtue in trying.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Sex is not everything in a marriage, but it is indeed a primary and very important part of it. Sexual incompetence is grounds for divorce. 

We have numerous narrations and rulings on this topic as well. A man asked Imam al-Sadiq (a.s.) about a woman whose husband was incapable of intimacy, and whether she should leave him. The Imam (a.s.) answered, Yes, if she wants to leave him. [al-Tahdhib, vol. 7, p. 431]. 

That being said, in regards to this specific question that has been asked, if there was such a huge age difference between them, why did she get married to him in the first place? Did she or her family not think of these things when they first got married? Can the problem be solved through medication? 

In any case, the wife does have the right to request a divorce if she chooses to do so. 

And Allah knows best. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

You would need to refer to the fatwa of your Marja' taqleed, however, the overall view is there is no need to perform ghusl janābah prior to engaging in having sex again. The second round or more would not be makruh.  

However, it is mustaḥab to wash the private parts, and also to do wudhu' as well. 

One thing that is highly makruh is sleeping while in the state of janābah, and this is something that must be avoided as much as possible. 

And Allah knows best. 

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 3 months ago

I understand this is a sensitive subject and one that one should treat carefully.

While I can understand why this could come across as inexcusable in this day and age, to my understanding, in the past in that region, there were not very opportunities for earning an income or survival on your own without a family or tribe, and slaves were particularly vulnerable. So a slave-girl would be integrated into the man's household as part of the household (so in essence, part of the structure) in which he was responsible for her, and that was often strengthened through relations. That is, for men of means, the family household was often larger than just a wife and children. Conversely, it seems that at some point in early Islamic history, it became common for some men to essentially take a slave woman as a wife, rather than marry a free woman, perhaps because it was easier financially in some cases, or because he liked her, or because he preferred to marry a foreigner (and slaves tended to be foreign), or some other reason. So it is a complicated situation.

This is apart from the fact that when people live close together, it is natural to develop an inclination towards each other.

When you look at classical literature from the Muslim world, you do see a lot of mentions of situations where a slave-girl and the man appear to have a had a genuinely close and affectionate relationship, and even many of the mothers of the Imams (A) also came to their households that way. 

So in that regard, it could increase social stability, even though no one likes being a slave.

Of course that is not everyone's situation and I am sure there were unfortunate situations of hatred and compulsion too. Still, it doesn't seem to be the same as it was, for instance, in the US, where Black slaves were regularly treated like animals and raped. Similarly today, in some countries, some people also hire live-in housemaids from other countries and sexually harass them like they are objects, which is both impermissible and also quite different from the above model which seems to have had more long-term stability. 

God knows best.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 4 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

If she did ghusl after her sexual climax, and has washed herself, then whatever the case may be after, she considers as pure. 

And Allah knows best.