Sexual

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Is it permissible to use a remote controlled device to stimulate your spouse when they are physically away from each other?

Seyed Ali Musawi, Seyed Ali Musawi studied religion and history at the University of California, San Diego and subsequently he studied for more than 8 years at the Islamic Seminary in Qum, Iran, focusing on Islamic... Answered 5 days ago

Salaam allaikum,

This is considered forbidden (haram). It is not allowed to use any foreign objects during sexual intercourse.

Spouse . Sexual

Is it permissible to use a remote controlled device to stimulate your spouse when they are physically away from each other?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 week ago

If the device is totally controlled by you only to stimulate your spouse, it will be then permissible as husband and wife are allowed to enjoy themselves between themselves. Device should not be used by any person to sexually stimulate himself or herself alone.

Wassalam.

136327

Sexual . Marriage . Rape

I want to marry a girl who has been raped in the past but due to her trauma she is not sure if she can provide me with my sexual needs. Am I allowed to have consensual sexual intercourse with her before marrying her permanently?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 weeks ago

Bismihi ta'ala

If you wish to marry someone, and you know they have experienced an unfortunate traumatic event, then you must be equipped with dealing with whatever situation or issue that arises.

It would not be fair for you, or for her, that you are deprived of your sexual needs, and also unfair that you have some kind of "trial" with her before committing to marriage.

If your question is a fiqhi question, should you and her meet the requirements of having a legitimate temporary marriage contract, then it would be valid for you to do so, but it would not solve the main issue for the future.

Most important is understanding how to deal and interact with someone who has gone through a trauma and how it could affect the marital relationship, and whether or not both of you are able to handle it.

This young lady you want to marry deserves to be treated right and fair, and not pressured into anything, and her situation must be observed. God forbid, you do not want to aggravate her trauma or make her issues worse.

I would advice seeking guidance in getting professional counselling, for both of you, prior to making any decision, as long as you are genuine in wanting to marry her and will patiently assist her, not further harming her or making her life any more difficult.

With prayers for your success

135146

Husband . Slavery . Sexual

My husband wants to do my slavery. He wants me to whip him and torture him. And he is doing this willingly. Is it allowed in Islam for my husband to seek this treatment?

This is unusual for a person to ask to be whipped or tortured. I think he should see a doctor.

You should not whip nor torture your husband at all but help him to be treated properly to be a mentally healthy man.

Wassalam.

75559

Sexual . Sports

Is playing animated porn games Haram if we are sure they will not lead to fornication or such activities?

Yes it is Haraam to play animated porn games even if you are sure that it will not lead you to fornication or masturbation etc. It is Haraam to play or watch any game which can put satanic picture or image or impression in your mind or heart or memory or unconscious.

Satanic impact can harm in different ways and different times, that is why we must never allow it in our life.

Wassalam.

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Rape . Punishment . Sexual

Does Islam recognise marital rape? If yes, then how is it defined and what punishment is applicable for it?

Hassanain Govani, Hassanain Govani is based in Sweden and has an MA in History of Religion from Uppsala University and an MA in Islamic Studies from the Islamic College of London, and has also studied Arabic in... Answer updated 3 months ago

Salaamun Alaykum

I do not belive the exact phrase "marital rape" occurs in Islamic sources. That, however, does not mean that Islam condones rape within a marital context.

The Quranic command is for husband and wife to live with each other honourably and kindly. A number of ahadith further put emphasis on this. Husbands are ordered to treat their wives with fairness, kindness and patience. They are not to harm them.

As for sexual intercourse, husbands are further ordered to take care of their wives' needs and the husband is not to proceed with the actual coitus until the wife is ready.

Again, we remind ourselves that husbands are not allowed to mistreat and/or harm their wives.

Hence, although the terminology "marital rape" does not occur in the sources (as far as I know), I believe one must conclude that the act as such is not allowed.

In need of your prayers

129307

Sexual

Can you please suggest me a book that will help me control my carnal desires?

Jaami' Al-Sa'aadaat ( The Collector of Felicities) by Shaikh Al-Naraqi is a very good book. You can also read Quranic verses regarding desires and the dangers of following desires and the great reward of controlling desires.

'There are many Hadeeths from the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS) on this topic which can be found in many books of Hadeeth like Tohaf Al-O'qool by ibn Sho'bah Al-Harrani.

Wassalam.

129605

Woman . Ghusl . Sexual

When should a woman perform Ghusl al-Janabah?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 4 months ago

Bismillah,

Both women and men should perform ghusl al-janabah after penetrative sexual intercourse (also inclduing anal intercourse).

Also if a woman has an orgasm or climax without sexual intercourse, then the ghusl al-janabah should be performed. It's worth noting that this type of ghusl would make one in the state of wudu so one could perform Salah after the ghusl without doing wudu again.

if a woman is aroused causing some fluid or discharge, this wouldn't make ghusl al janabah obligatiory unless she reached climax.

May Allah Grant You success

Woman . Ghusl . Sexual

When should a woman perform Ghusl al-Janabah?

Man or woman should perform Ghusl Al-Janabah after any sexual intercourse, and after wet dream in which ejaculation takes place, and after orgasm, and after deliberating ejaculation (masturbation) which is itself a sinful act.

Wassalam.

128346

Man . Poor . Life . Sexual . Marriage

If a man is too poor to get married does he have to go his whole life without having any sexual relations?

Marriage in Islam does not require big amount of money. In fact it is recommended to keep the amount of Mahr (Dowry) affordable and not big amount.

Marriage in Islam can be a permanent marriage for those who can afford it and can be a temporary as well. In any case, Muslim must keep himself away from any sinful act whether he is married or not married. Those who want to get married to protect themselves from falling in sinful acts, will be helped by Allah as we read in many Quranic verses and authentic Hadeeths.

Wassalam.

128508

Sexual . Fiction

Are novels containing any form of romance permissible to read? Is skipping explicit scenes and reading the rest permissible as well?

Reading novels is permissible provided the contents of it is not harmful to you whether emotionally or Psychologically or any other harm. Skipping the harmful parts and reading the rest is permissible with the above condition.

Wassalam.

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Christians . Procreation . Islam . Sexual . Marriage

Many Christians claim that marital intimacy is primarily for procreation, and only secondarily for bonding and pleasure. Is this also the view according to Islam?

Marriage is a human need for settled life with out tension and peaceful life with out sinful acts. Marriage is the only way of procreation with out which human beings would have diminished.
Sexual need is part of the feelings of most people and marriage (permanent or temporary) fulfills this human need.

Marriage is highly recommended in Islam and some cases it can be obligatory on those who can fall in sinful acts if they are not married.

Wassalam.