(If you prefer not to read the whole appendix, you can scroll down to "E. Manner of Performing Ghusl" and "1. Ghusl Tartibi", which is the most common kind)
Yes she can feed her child in the state of Janabah. It is recommended to do wudhu before feeding.
No. The Mahr is the right of the woman which can be money or teaching or any other benefit. Sexual acts between husband and wife can not be a Mahr.
In such situations, the only way that remains is doing temporary marriage.
Resisting this desire is not easy at all.
That's why in Islam there are two types of marriage.
Although the permanent is the best, the temporary is prescribed for those who can't afford and are not able to do it permanently
First of all we need to be sure that she is really a woman. This assurance does not come from her recent appearance which looks like a woman but must come
through medical confirmed results that the DNA belongs to a female
human being. When a person is a female by genetic structure but
because of abnormality she looked like a male and then she went
through a surgery to remove the abnormal organs and develop the female
organs, in this case she is a female and marriage between a Muslim man
and a Muslim woman is possible. But if she does not have female DNA
and the operation was just for removing the male organs and creating or implanting
female organs instead, she is in fact not a female, so there is no
question of marriage between a Muslim man and such a person.
Same situation applies on a woman who undergoes a surgery to look like a man wth out a DNA confirmation about the real gender.
1. It is not allowed for a Muslim man to have more than one wife if he is unable to implement practical justice between them. Allah says in Quran : ( But if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with them, then only one wife) ( Sura 4, Verse 3).
2. The Muslim man must keep the respect of every one of his wives and never hurt feelings of any of them.
3. The acts of threesomes is not allowed in Islam at all. Any of his wives is not allowed to see other wife during intimate situation.
Threesomes are not allowed. (Sorry!) They can live in the same house but there should be some separation particularly during intimate times.
Ghusl of Janabah is obligatory not only because of sexual intercourse
but also if a person ejaculates whether deliberately by masturbating
or unintentionally by wet dream or night discharge. This is for males
If you are sure that your Ghusl of Janabah was invalid e.g. you did not make the water reach to every part of your body, ultimately the Ghusl is invalid ven if you did not know that it was invalid.
In such case you need to re-do all the obligatory worship like Salaah, fasting etc which you performed without a valid Ghusl.
The reward for your previous deeds will
never be wasted by Allah SWT, but you must re-do it as it has been
done without valid Ghusl. You can perform the Qadha gradually or with your daily prayers.
as salam alaikum
in Islam a man is not allowed to approach his female counterpart as long as she is not physically, legally and mentally mature for that. Hypothetically the same goes for a woman in regard to men.
With prayers for your success.
Insofar as it is possible, it is good to try to adjust your environment to avoid triggers (for instance, avoiding online or television material with indecent content, looking away from certain advertisements or behaviour outside). I know that this can be difficult in some places which have become quite explicit! It is related from the Prophet (S) - and I am sure you have heard this - that if you lower your gaze, you will see wonders.
As for thoughts, to some degree we have control over our thoughts, you can try to change what you are thinking about and focus on something else if you find your thoughts wandering.
If you are a male and really struggling with this, fasting has been recommended too and may be helpful (as long as you do not do it to excess).
Anyway this is part of being a normal human being, all you can do is your best and be compassionate with yourself while trying to navigate the straight path.
We can look at this issue from multiple angles. Firstly, we know as Muslims that it is haram for us to look at the private parts of other people. We also know that anything that is sexually arousing, outside a marital relationship is also haram.
As far as the shar'i side is concerned, we confidently know the many detrimental dangers there are if we defy the commands of God. We know these harmful sins will affect our soul and our mind, and pollute us spiritually and morally.
On a relationship side, it would be very problematic if a husband, or a wife, would need external sexual arousal from fake unrealistic sources to make their time together enjoyable. It's not a good sign at all.
This shows a deep issue in how the husband sees the wife, or how the wife sees the husband.
True enjoyment can be fulfilled just by the husband and wife, and they are so sexually captivated by each other, they need abolutely nothing else, or nobody else.
It is only when one is unsatisfied with what they have, they turn to other means. It is for this reason, that along with what our religion and our moral standards teach us, it would also be very damaging for the husband - wife relationship itself.
With prayers for your success.