Biologically, a child (plural: children) is a human being between the stages of birth and puberty, or between the developmental period of infancy and puberty. The legal definition of child generally refers to a minor, otherwise known as a person younger than the age of majority.
Husband is responsible to pay for all livelihood expenses of his wife. This responsibility is part and parcel of the marriage agreement. If he fails to pay for his wife's livelihood expenses, she has the right to ask for all the unpaid expenses which remain as a debt on him. She will also have the right to ask the Marje of Taqleed or his deputy to diverge her if her husband insists on not giving her her livelihood expenses.
'All the expenses of his children is responsibility of their father.
Books of History mention that Hazrat Abul Fazl Al-Abbas (a.s.) had 5 sons. Obaydullah, Al Fazl, Al Hasan, Al Qasim and Muhammad. History also mentioned that he had 2 daughters. Mohammad Ibn Al-Abbas is mentioned as one of the Martyrs in Karbala.
Obaydullah son of Al-Abbas Ibn Ameerul Mo'mineen (a.s.) is been mentioned as the son who left children. All the grandchildren of Al-Abbas (a.s.) were from the sons of Obaydullah. The grand and great grand children of Al-Abbas (a.s.) are many and they include many Scholars and very pious believers and very respected personalities in the history of Muslims. One of the well-known personalities from the great grandchildren of Abul Fazl Al-Abbas (AS) is Al-Hamza al-Sharqi who is buried in Al-Midhatiyyah near Al-Hilla in Iraq and the whole area is called after him as Al-Hamza al-Sharqi.
If a married couple, in their early stages of their marriage do not define how they are going to live their lives, especially with their interaction with each other's families, then there will be many ongoing problems.
Defining your relationship with your family, and your in-laws, is very easy, even if they might be difficult to deal with.
Your primary position is your obedience and loyalty to your parents. This is the Islamic principle, and that's how you live as a Muslim. Even if it means you are uncomfortable, or it isnt really what you want, but if it makes your parents happy, then that's what you should do.
As for your parent-in-laws, they are now like your parents, so you treat them as you would treat your own parents.
This is applicable to the husband and to the wife, equally.
Let's be less sensative, and more accomodating to them as elders, from a different generation, from a different mindset. And all for the greater good, of keeping peace and harmony.
Imam Ja'far al-Sadiq (a.s.) says: Do good and obey your parents so that your children will do good and obey you.
I've also come across a tradition about how cursed a spouse may be if they were to force their spouse to choose between them and their parents.
Of course parents are more important. Not just more important that our spouse, but more important than ourselves.
What if the husband/wife has no consideration, and cannot combine between their family and their parents. This is why it is so important for us to learn Akhlaq.
You should never allow yourself to be in the situation where you have to choose between your spouse or your parents. You should also never put someone else in such a situation.
Balance happens when you respect boundaries, and as I said, you have defined your relationship. You pay utmost attention to your husband/wife, and at the same time to accommodate to the needs of your parents and family members. You also never discriminate, and treat your in-laws the same.
You have your own life now, and you are trying to build that, but you wont be able to create a loving caring atmosphere at home if you break bridges with others. That's why we shouldnt think that way, who is more important you or your parent, or who do you love more, your son or your daughter and so on.
We accomodate to each person around us in the befitting way, based on shar' and akhlaq.
With prayers for your success.
According to Ibn Tawoos in al-Iqbal, the wife of Hazrat Abbas, Lady Lubabah Bint Obaidullah Ibn Abbas, was in Karbala and she witnessed the tragedies and was taken as captive with other ladies and children of Ahlul Bayt (AS) to Kufa then Shaam. She was crying day and night in the tragedies of Karbala and passed away in Madina shortly after returning back. Her children were then looked after by their grandmother Lady Ummul Banin.
Thank you for your question. They will be considered Shia.
May you always be successful
Respecting and being nice to the parents should be always, but obeying them stops when it contradicts with the obedience of Allah (SWT). If they ask or order you to do wrong, you should not do wrong at all. There is no obedience for any one in disobeying Allah (SWT).
As far as you are concerned, following the madhhab of Ahlul Bayt (a.s.) is a part of your personality and identity, and your marriage should not obstruct your affiliation to your Shi'i identity. This should be made clear to your fiance.
In regards to your future children, you as their mother must try to nurture them in such a way where they are aware of their religion and abide to the laws of Islam. Which madhhab they choose is completely up to them, when they become mature and of age.
If you instill within them the love of religion and the urge to pursue truth and evidence, and allow them to research and read and decide themselves, you've done your obligation. The rest is for them to decide.
Your main focus must be on accompanying your husband to be in a noble spiritual way, and avoiding anything that would hurt or harm his understanding of Islam, or your understanding of Islam.
Be the parents that you should be, and that would be the best thing you can do.
With prayers for your success.
If you have repented a sincere repentance, then of course the Almighty would have forgiven you. Allah ta'ala has described Himself as the All-compassionate, the All-merciful, and also al-Ghafur, or the All-forgiving.
You should also strive towards obtaining higher levels of spirituality and perform righteous deeds to keep yourself on the right path, and also be a positive role model for the child as well. Try to nurture him/her in a noble way, introducing them to Islamic principles and the teachings of Ahlul Bayt (a.s.).
With prayers for your success.
This is a difficult question, and maybe even sensitive for some, because we know that Islam unequivocally condemns abuse or physical violence towards other innocent people.
We must always remember that many parents have not been given the correct method of upbringing, and many parents do not have the adequate skills to deal with parenting and the many pressures that it entails.
As Muslims, we are taught to always show the utmost level of respect to our parents and our elders. How they reciprocate that and what they do or have done is something else.
Allah ta'ala will judge them for what they have done.
We must stay loyal to our parents, pray for them, visit them, be compassionate to them, and never sever ties with them. We must also ask Allah ta'ala to grant us the patience we need to make sure our love for them stays in our heart, even thought they might have hurt us.
As long as you yourself know that you are not being insolent, or disobeying your parents, or not cutting ties. In regards to your inner feelings, there is nothing much that are able to do, because of the ongoing abuse, but it still does not allow you to disrespect your parents.
Honour your parents, avoid things that would agravate them, or upset them, in what you do or say, try to get them to understand your position, and how its affecting you, maybe by getting intervention from elders, and most importantly always do dua for them.
With prayers for your success.
It is forbidden to give any one a name of a family or a tribe that he does not really belong to. If you have no knowledge at all about his family, you can give him after the name of the place or city or country he belongs to.
The opponents of Shia Muslims put this allegation on Imam Ali (AS) trying to justify their claim that Imam Ali (AS) was friendly with the three Caliphs of Saqeefah. Imam Ali (AS) never gave any of his children any name of his opponents. It is authentic that he gave the name Othman to one of his sons and clearly said: I am giving him the name of my brother Othman Ibn Madh'oon عثمان بن مظعون who was a pious follower of Imam Ali (AS) and passed away during the life of the Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) and he was the first companion who was burried in the Baqee'.
Imam Ali (AS) never gave the name of Abu Bakr nor Omar to any of his children. He gave the name of Amro عمرو which is written in Arabic like عمر but it was not Omar.
Many of our scholars say the these names where not confined to the three rulers of Saqeefah but usual names used by people in general.
The stand of Imam Ali (AS) from the three rulers of Saqeefa is very clear in manybtexts e.g. his sermon known as Al-Shaqshaqiyyah and what is narrated in Saheeh Muslim ( Volume 5, page 153 from Omar Ibn al-Khattab who said that Ali believed that Abu Bakr and Omar are liars, sinners, betrayers, and dishonest.
It is Makrouh(disliked) for parents to eat from the Aqeeqa of their child. Makrouh is not Haraam.