Children

Biologically, a child (plural: children) is a human being between the stages of birth and puberty, or between the developmental period of infancy and puberty. The legal definition of child generally refers to a minor, otherwise known as a person younger than the age of majority.

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Paradise . Children

If a young child passes away, will he be a young child in paradise? Similarly, if a mentally ill person dies will he be in the same state in the afterlife?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 days ago

Children who die will be enjoying the Mercy of Allah near the gates of Paradise, when angles tell them to enter the Paradise, they will say: We are waiting for our parents. This is in authentic Hadeeth.

Mentally ill persons and all ill persons who die will not be ill in the Paradise.

Wassalam.

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Father . Alcohol . Children

What is the Islamic position when a father, who habitually drinks alcohol, pays for his children's meals and upbringing? Should that be prevented for the children's spiritual well-being or is it more important that they are not separated from their dad?

Every father must pay for his children's expenses, and children are not responsible about the sinful acts of their father. Children's spiritual well-being will not be harmed because of the sins of their father. We have in human history thousands of examples of bad fathers who had very good children and vice versa. Children should not help or encourage their father in committing sinful acts.

Wassalam.

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Home . Children . Akhlaq

How can one control one's behaviour that is always harsh in the house and creates tussle in home in front of the children?

1. Controlling our bad behaviour needs reasonable will power based on the facts of the harm and damage of such behaviour, and the benefits of good behaviour.

2. We need to see how harsh behaviour makes the person unliked even by his own family members, while good behaviour makes the person liked by almost all people who know him.

3. It is good to recite Quranic Du'a for making our chest pleasant and not narrow. ( RABBI ESHRAH LI SADRI WA YASSIR LI AMRI) رب اشرح لي صدري ويسر لي أمري

4. It is mentioned in books of Akhlaq that when a person becomes angry, he should look at a mirror to see himself while being angry. He will see how ugly he looks when he is angry and this can cool him down and make him avoid being angry.

5. It is also mentioned in many Hadeeths to deal with people in the same way which you want them to deal with you. Bad behaviour from you with others can never be accepted by you if it comes from others to you.

6. Repeating Estighfaar and Salawaat and LA HAWLA WALA QOWWATA ILLA BILLAH is very useful to make our Akhlaq better if we recite it with understanding specially during the night and more specifically during Sojood.

7. It is also good to remember the Hadeeth: Deal with people in a way that if you are away from them, they will long to meet you, or if you die, they will weep on you.

8. The Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) said: Best of you are the best to their family, and I am the best to my family.

Wassalam.

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Angel . Children . Mikail

What is the role and function of the angel Michael? Can we name our kids after his name?

Michael is the name of one of the greatest of Allah (SWT). It is mentioned in many books that Michael is responsible of Rizq and rain and plants. In Saheefa Sajjadia which is narrated from Imam Zainul Adibeen Al-Sajjad (AS) in the Du'a for the Angels of Alla : And Angle Michael, who has the great status with You, and the high degree in Your Obedience.

ميكائيل ذو الجاه عندك والمكان الرفيع من طاعتك ».

It is allowed to name our kids after the name of Michael.

The name of this great angle in Quran is Meekaal.ميكال (Sura 2, Verse 98).

Wassalam.

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Father . Income . Children

If someone's father is earning Haram income, what is the ruling for their children? Is eating and other expenses incurred by them from that source of income Haram as well?

If the income of the father is mixed between lawful and unlawful, then it will allowed for his children to take what they need for their lawful needs with the intention of utilizing the lawful part of the income.

If the whole income of the father is Haram (Unlawful), then it becomes forbidden for the grown up (Baligh) children to use such unlawful income.

Wassalam.

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Children . Wudu (Ablution) . Najasa

When working in a nursery with children of all religions, would touching them with wet hands or cleaning their nappies be considered as impurity and break my Wudhu?

Touching impure things or items e.g. urine, stool etc does not break nor invalidate your Wudhu. You just need to wash your hand with water to make it Taahir.

Wassalam.

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Children . Marriage . Child Custody

My friend's husband died a few years ago. She has kids and wants to remarry but her in-laws do not allow her saying that they will take the children if she remarries. Are they allowed to do so?

1. Every Muslim widow is allowed to remarry after the waiting period [iddah wafat] is over. Iddah wafat is 4 months and 10 days during which she has to observe mourning.

2. No one has a right to prevent a widow from remarrying after her Iddah of wafat is over.

3. The rules of custody of children in Islam state that the custody of children after the demise of their father is for the mother and no one can violate her right of custody, unless she remarries someone else. This means that if she remarried, the custody of the children will be for the paternal grandfather.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Children . Divorce . Infertility

If my husband is medically unable to father a child do I have the Islamic right to divorce him?

Just being unable to father a child is not enough reason for you to seek divorce from him, unless you explain the full reasons and refer to the Marje’ Of Taqleed or any of his representatives to assess your case.

Wassalam.

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Wives of Prophet Muhammad . Children . Karbala . Imam Ali

How many wives and children did Imam Ali have and which of them were present in Karbala?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 3 months ago

According to Shaykh al-Mufid (Kitab al-Irshad):

The Commander of the Faithful, peace be on him, had twenty-seven children, male and female:

1. Al-Ḥasan

2. Al-Ḥusayn

3. Zaynab the elder

4. Zaynab the younger, who was given the kunya Umm Kulthūm.

Their mother was Fāṭima, the blessed, mistress of the women of the worlds, daughter of the master of those sent by Allāh and the seal of the prophets, the Prophet Muhammad.

5. Muḥammad, who was given the kunya Abū al-Qāsim. His mother was Khawla, daughter of Ja‘far b. Qays al-Ḥanafī.

6. ‘Umar

7. Ruqayya They were twins.

Their mother was Umm Ḥabīb, daughter of Rabī‘a.

8. Al-‘Abbās

9. Ja‘far

10. ‘Uthmān

11. ‘Abd Allāh

(The last four) were martyrs with their brother al-Ḥusayn on the plain of Karbalā’. Their mother was Umm al-Banīn, daughter of Ḥizām b. Khālid b. Dārim.

12. Muḥammad, the younger, who was given the kunya Abū Bakr.

13. ‘Ubayd Allāh

Both of these were martyrs with their brother al-Ḥusayn on that plain. Their mother was Layla, daughter of Mas‘ūd al-Dārimī.

14. Yaḥyā

His mother was Asmā ̓, daughter of ‘Umays al-Khath‘amī, may Allāh be pleased with her.

15. Umm al-Ḥasan

16. Ramla

The mother of these two was Umm Sa‘īd, daughter of ‘Urwa b. Mas‘ūd al-Thaqafī.

17. Nafīsa

18. Zaynab, the youngest

19. Ruqayya, the younger

20. Umm Hānī ̓

21. Umm al-Kirām

22. Jumāna, who was given the kunya Umm Ja‘far.

23. Umāna

24. Umm Salama

25. Maymūna

26. Khadīja

27. Fāṭima

These, the blessings of Allāh be on them, had different mothers. Among the Shī'a, there are those who mention that Fāṭima, the blessing of Allāh be on her, after the Prophet had a miscarriage with a son, whom the Prophet, may Allāh bless Him and His Family, had (already) named during her pregnancy as Muḥsin.

According to this group there were twenty-eight children of the Commander of the Faithful, the blessing and peace of Allāh be on him. Allāh knows and judges best.

(End quotation from Kitab al-Irshad)

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Children . Philosophy of Religion . Father

Why does a newborn child ought to inherit the religion of his father or parents in general? Shouldn't it be their own choice and calling rather than become a hereditary conditioning?

Zoheir Ali Esmail, Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD... Answered 4 months ago

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. Every person is free to choose the religion they would like to follow, however, it is natural that parents will have an influence in the decision of their children and this is why many children choose the religion that their parents adhere to. At the same time it is important for parents to teach their children to follow what is right and so Islam is against hereditary conditioning. But if the parents are able to effectively communicate the beliefs, ideals and ethics of Islam to their children then that is a great bounty of guidance for the children and the children can then develop those understandings for future generations, choosing to follow Islam with the education that their parents gave them from their own life experience.

May you always be successful.

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Husband . Wife . Children . Divorce

My husband took a second wife without my knowledge for 8 years and had 4 children with her, then decided to divorce her because he only wants me. I am devastated and hurt. What does Islam suggest I do now?

I am sorry to hear about your situation. This must have been quite a shock.

Islam allows for you to stay together and also allows for separation. It is between you and him. Sometimes married couples confront major challenges and emerge stronger, and sometimes they don't.

It is a good time for soul-searching and considering what you want for the rest of your life, as well as any circumstances (such as how well you get along, whether you have dependent children, whether you are financially independent, and so forth).

There are hadith which discourage divorce in favour of staying married, but it is a recommendation not a requirement. Perhaps, in part, because divorce often puts women in a more difficult situation financially and otherwise.

It is unlikely you will have the same relationship as you had before, but it is possible for you both to heal from this breach of trust and come to a "new normal"; however, this takes time and effort. Nothing ever stays the same throughout life; we often have to adjust to new circumstances.

He does have an ethical responsibility to act as a father towards the children and be present in their lives - it's not their fault this happened - but this is a different matter.

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Intention . Children . Qurbani . Aqiqah

Can someone who is making Qurbani for Dhi-l hijja also make the intention for Aqeeqa for their children?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 4 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Priority should be given to the 'Aqiqah, and if they were to do the 'Aqiqah during the occasion of Eid al-Adhha, in shaa Allah they will receive reward for both.

And Allah knows best.