Children

Biologically, a child (plural: children) is a human being between the stages of birth and puberty, or between the developmental period of infancy and puberty. The legal definition of child generally refers to a minor, otherwise known as a person younger than the age of majority.

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Husband . Wife . Sexual . Children . Makruh

Is there any evidence that it is Makrouh for the husband to look at the private part of his wife when trying to conceive a child? If so, is that the case even in general sexual acts? What is the reason for it being Makrouh?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 week ago

Every Makrouh is harmful but not Haraam. Allah knows the details of the harm which might be unknown to us.

We have Hadeeths from the Prophet (SAWA) stating that it is Makrouh. It is not only when trying to conceive a child but it is Makrouh in any sexual intercourse.

Wassalam.

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Sexual . Children

Are there any rules to intercourse such as any preferred time or any situation in which it should be avoided? Is it true that any child conceived in the latter may be physically or spiritually defective?

We have many Hadeeths guiding couples about this issue.
1. It is always recommended to be with Wudhu before going for intercourse with your spouse. In general, Wudhu is always recommended in any case.

2. Recommended times for intercourse include the night of Thursday ( Laylatul Jumu'ah) and first night of the Month of Ramadhan.

3. It is Makrouh ( disliked) to go for that during eclipse and on the last night of every lunar month, and first night of every lunar month except the month of Ramadhan.

4. It is recommended for spouses to prepare themselves for that whenever the other spouse wants it.
5. It becomes obligatory for the wife to fulfill the need of her husband when he needs her for intimate relationship as far as she has no valid reason e.g. religious like menstruation or health reason to refuse.

6. It is Makrouh, but not Haraam, for the husband to look at the private part of his wife. We have in our narrations that it can harm the eye sight of the child who can be conceived from that intercourse.

7. It is recommended to say Bismillah and pray to Allah to grant you blessed child.

8. It is Makrouh for each of them to use same piece of tissue or napkin which was used by the other spouse to wipe the private parts. The narrations mentioned that using same tissue or napkin can create bad feelings or dislike ness between them.

9. It is recommended for both spouses and mainly the husband to spend enough time in foreplay with his wife before the intercourse.

10. It is recommended for both of them to try to please the other as much as possible, and not look for his or her own enjoyment ignoring the other.

11. It is mentioned in the Hadeeths that spouses should avoid letting their voice during sexual relation reach to any one else specially the children. Narrations mentioned that child hearing the voice of his parents while sex can be in the future a sinner of fornication.

12. It is recommended to avoid facing the direction of Qibla during sex.

13. It is recommended to perform Ghusl of Janabah after sexual intercourse before sleeping or eating or drinking. If Ghusl is not possible,then Tayammum can be performed till Ghusl is possible.

14. It Makrouh to speak more than required while sexual intercourse. The narrations mentioned that it can result in a dumb child.

These are few points in this subject.

Wassalam.

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Marriage . Christianity . Children

If a Muslim man marries a Christian woman in the church according to the Christian faith, then produces a child with that woman, is the child considered legitimate?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answer updated 1 month ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

A Muslim man should conduct an Islamic marriage contract with a woman. Scholars differ as to whether someone can marry a Christian woman permanently. All allow temporary marriage and some scholars say that both temporary and permanent are allowed.

If however a Muslim man was ignorant and he for example read a marriage contract such as a civil one instead of Islamic (while he thought that this counts as marriage) then some scholars would say that the marriage wouldn’t be fornication.

This therefore could make the child one of shubha where they aren’t deemed as illegitimate.

If he found out his mistake though, then he must do an Islamic marriage as soon as possible.

Rgearding a Christian marriage contract, this should be asked from one's Marja and it should be stated whether the person was ignorant or not.

May Allah grant you success

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Parents . Children . Prophet Ya'qub . Prophet Yusuf

We often hear that parents must treat their children equally. If it is so, then why had Prophet Yaqub's (as) sons felt that he preferred Yusuf (as) over them?

Prophet Yaqoub (AS) was treating all his children equally but some of them felt jealous of Yousuf who appointed by Allah (SWT) as a Prophet. The fault was from those sons and never from Yaqoub who did not discriminate at all but was always just and kind to all of them.

The bad feelings and jealousy of these sons lead them to commit the crime which they committed against their own brother Yousuf.

Wassalam.

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Sunni . Girl . Children . Marriage . Sunni-Shi'a

It is permissible not to have kids while being married to a Sunni girl so that the issue of the child being Shia or Sunni can be avoided?

Bismaillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

It isn’t obligatory to have kids but it is highly recommend and encouraged in Islam. Usually the father has a strong influence on his children. so he should make sure that they are raised according to the teachings of the prophet Mohammed and his purified progeny (peace be upon them all).

The husband MUST ensure that his children will be raised to not praise the enemies of Ahlul bayt (as) which many Muslims unknowingly do. He should raise children who will disassociate from the oppressors of the imams (as).

It is good for him to also try and guide his wife in a way isn’t forcing her. If you both decide not to have children for the time being then that is entirely your choice.

May Allah grant you success

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Sayyid . Children

I am a non-Syed and my wife is a Syeda. We are wondering if the child we are expecting would be considered a Syed or non-Syed with respect to Islamic rulings in matters such as Khums? Would it make a difference if the child was a boy or a girl?

The child belongs to his father in the matter of Sayyed or non Sayyed. Most of our great Ulama say that children of non Sayyed from Sayyeda mother are considered as non Sayyed just like their father.

Wassalam.

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Children . Western Society

Is it compulsory for children to learn the mother tongue of their parents, such as Urdu or Persian, if they are born and being brought up in the West?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 2 months ago

It is not compulsory for children to learn the mother tongue of their parents.

However, given that much of the Islamic heritage is expressed in languages such as Urdu, Persian, and Arabic, from a religious perspective, I think it is tremendously helpful for them to have at least some understanding of one or more of the "heritage languages" of the Islamic world. It will help them cement their Islamic identity and feel connected to cultures and practices that are expressed in these languages, as well as have access to teachings, majalis, lectures, etc, that are not available in other languages.

Also of course it's good for them to be able to communicate with their relatives.

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Mother . Breastfeeding . Children . Sexual

Is it allowed for a mother to breastfeed her child while in the state of Janabah?

Masuma Jaffer, Dr Masuma Jaffer is a qualified dentist, with a Masters in Islamic Studies and has also attended Hawza in Qum. She obtained a PGCE - teaching qualification – and has taught Hawza studies at the... Answered 3 months ago

Salaam

Yes she can feed her child in the state of Janabah. It is recommended to do wudhu before feeding.

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Children . God (Allah)

Why doesn't Allah save the children who are abused?

Allah (SWT) saved and saves billions of human beings from harm with out forcing them, but He has given us free will and ability and help to do good or the freedom to do bad if we opt for it . Many prophets and infallible Imams were killed by enemies of Allah who opted to be criminals and insisted on that. Allah (SWT) does not force people to avoid bad as He has examined them and gave them free will after showing them the right path.

The crimes are the responsibility of the criminals and we can never expect Allah (SWT) to stop the criminals, otherwise the whole system of life will be disturbed as life is based on free will to do good or bad and there no meaning of good or bad if we expect Allah (SWT) to force people.

Wassalam.

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Anxiety . Children . Qur'anic Verse . Du'a (Supplication)

Are there any Duas or Quranic verses one can recite for developmental delay and anxiety for special needs children?

Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answer updated 4 months ago

as salam alaikum

daily recitation of Qur'an is good for the spiritual and mental development of the child insh'Allah. The supplication of Imam al-Sajjad, peace be upon him, for his children that can be found in the al-Sahifah al-Sajjadiyyah (dua number 25) has some good words for the protection of children from difficulties.

The company with good-hearted people that avoid too much formalities but are able to give real love is also very important in the mentioned case. Be aware of people who do vain talks and spiteful comments but look for people and families who are sincerely committed to the Din of Islam and purity of heart.

With prayers for your success.

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Marriage . Islam . Children

Is child marriage allowed in Islam?

There is no valid marriage in Islam unless both man and woman are Baaligh (Mature). Even if the father under certain circumstances wants to save the future of his child in a form of marriage, such marriage is not valid unless the child grows up and become mature then willingly decides to go for this marriage.

Wassalam.

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Children . Caliphate . Imam Ali

Did Imam Ali (as) name his children after the first three caliphs? If so, does that indicate that he held them in high esteem?

Zoheir Ali Esmail, Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD... Answered 4 months ago

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. Naming children according to sectarian lines was not a factor in the early ages of Islam and therefore, it is not an indication of holding a certain person with the same name in high esteem. For example, certain companions of the Imams (as) were named Yazid and Mu'awiya, but this in no way indicated that they condoned the actions of the Caliphs with the same names, or held them in high esteem.

May you always be successful.