In a religious context, sin is an act of transgression against divine law. In Islamic ethics, Muslims see sin as anything that goes against the commands of Allah (God).
This is a very important question, and relevant to all of us, as we all somehow socially interact with others. In today's society, the boundaries of non-mahram interaction are also weaker than before, which makes it even more challenging for us Muslims.
Please watch this presentation I gave in the holy month on this very topic, with detail explanation. It starts from the 1:38 hour mark:
Any work or act or business which causes or leads or results in sinful act is not permissible. Making both genders mix with out proper Hijab is not allowed in Islam. Usually gyms in western countries don't care for proper Hijab, that it why Muslim should not indulge himself in such business which can lead to sinful acts, otherwise he will be responsible and his income from such sinful business will not be lawful.
It is not advised to share your sins with others because it is a matter between you and Allah, and He is The Forgiver and The Most Merciful. Allah will never degrades you because of your previous sins, while people can take it against you even in the future or when your relation with them changes. Talk about your sins with Him Who can hep you get rid of it and protect you from falling again.
Sharing your mistakes and weak points in work or studying etc ( not sinful acts) can be useful if you share it with a sincere and knowledgeable person who can guide you.
Inshallah you will find someone. As they say, there is somebody for everybody.
Attraction is somewhat different from conventional standards of beauty or handsomeness; sometimes two people like each other even if they don't fit society's definition of what is attractive. And, of course, different people have different ideas of what they find attractive in a mate. So, I am sure you have some features or qualities which are appealing!
And, of course, not everyone is looking primarily at physical appearance; some people value inner qualities such as compassion, helpfulness, reliability, and other things; or they admire other skills such as artistic skill, intellect, sports skill, charitable work, good conversation, or whatever. This is, of course, apart from religiosity.
If you really feel you are not physically appealing, then maybe it is good to focus on demonstrating the other personal qualities you have to offer, and this could make you look good in the other person's eyes. Most people would much prefer to be with someone who genuinely demonstrates they will look after them and be there for them or other demonstrations of good character (such as helping others) rather than someone who just looks good.
If you are male, you could consider that a lot of women don't look primarily at physical appearance especially if they are looking to settle down and have a stable life. If you need to convince the family, certainly most women's families couldn't care less what the man looks like. At the end of the day, physical appearance waxes and wanes, but a person's character remains.
As for career, do your best (and these are difficult times). But also remember that, these days, depending on where you live, there isn't always a social expectation that the man will be the sole provider (even if he is obliged to be by shariah). Also, as women get older, if they are single, they are more likely to have a career and income. So, this might become less important if you look to marry someone in a slightly older age bracket. Inshallah Allah will enrich you upon marriage, as the Qur'an says.
In my observation, the main factors for people getting married and staying married are not handsomeness/beauty and wealth, but, rather, having a good set of family values and a strong sense of commitment, as well as maintaining strong social ties with others. (This is somewhat counter to what people think.)
Put differently, most people who genuinely want to get married, do get married.
Often, when people don't get married, there is sometimes some underlying reason; for instance, they aren't really wanting commitment, they are unable to make up their mind, or there is something else pushing a potential spouse away (apart from financial reasons). So if you know someone who has good insight into human beings, you could ask the if there is anything that you might change in how you are looking for a spouse or how you are interacting with potential spouses or their families.
Of course, there could be nothing for them to say and it could simply be a matter of circumstances or simply not being the right time for you.
Anyway, inshallah, will do duas for your finding a good spouse. Continue to ask Allah especially on laylat al qadr and Allah is shy to reject duas!
You should try your best to get married with a suitable believer as soon as possible. Outer looking is not important nor financial situation as far as faith and morals are nice.
Marriage itself opens gates of income as we read in the Hadeeth: Get married for more income, surely marriage brings blessings in income. تزوّجوا للرزق فإن فيهن بركة.
Keep on repeating Salawaat and Istighfaar and reciting the verse: إنّ هذا لَرِزقُنا ما له مِن نَفاد Sura 38, verse 54.
Repenting from a sin is very important, and that's very good that you have sincerely repented from it, but it does not mean you are able to deny having committed it if confronted about it. Taking a false oath is a major sin, and worse than that is swearing a false oath on the holy Quran.
As for saving your honour, you need to weigh out what the situation is, and what kind of consequences there will be for revealing this sin, or whether there will be detremental damage to you, or harm.
It might be advisable that you somehow change the scenario, or do tawriyah, to avoid severe backlash, if that is what the situation will be.
With prayers for your success.
Thank you for your question. In short, you have to keep trying until the sexual desire starts to subside. When you have committed sins relating to sexual desires the desire becomes more intense and so trying to prevent it takes a lot of willpower. At times, in the beginning, the desire overcomes the willpower even if you know what you are doing is wrong which results in a lot of guilt. That guilt needs to be used to increase your willpower until you can finally break the cycle and then over time the desire will become subdued and controllable. It is also important to seek halal means to fulfil sexual desires so that you have an outlet as sexual desires without an outlet become all the more intense.
Just keep going and don't give up. In the end with a lot of effort, you will succeed and after a time those sins will be a thing of the past.
May you always be successful
When there is a possibility and a certainty, it is better to plan for the certainty.
The certainty is that hell exists. The possibility is that people might leave it.
Better to be careful! :)
1. Enemies of Allah (SWT) will remain in hellfire forever as we read in Quran, Sura 41, Verse 28: That is the recommence of the enemies of Allah; the Fire, therein will be for them the eternal place, a recommence for that they used to deny Our signs.
2. Those sinners who believed in Allah but disobeyed Him and insisted on sins and did not seek forgiveness till death, will be punished for their sins for periods depending on their sins. It is not a matter of minutes of hours but it can be years , decades or even hundreds of years.
3. Can any human being tolerate being inside big fire for a minute? What if it is for years and years which can reach to centuries? Those who think that committing sinful acts are easy, should ask themselves how much can they tolerate hellfire? may Allah (SWT) protect us from it.
4. We beg to Allah, The Most Merciful , The Best Forgiver, to protect us from any sin and forgive our previous sins and save us from the punishment of Hellfire. Allah (SWT) says in Quran about the servants of Allah : They supplicate to Allah: Our Lord, Avert from us the torment of Jahannam (Hell), verily, it's torment is unbearable. Sura 25, Verse 65.
Gheebat (Backbiting) of a believer is a major sin.
Regarding talking bad about non believers, we should not waste our valuable time in talking bad about others except the enemies of Allah who were been cursed by Allah and His Messenger.
You should seek advice from trusted scholars and persons in your area.
Young persons who are unable to marry are been advised to keep fasting as many days as they can. Fasting helps making them more able to control themselves.
Yes. We have authentic Hadeeths that weeping for tragedies of Ahlul Bayt (AS). Imam Muhammad Al-Baqir (AS) said: Any believer who weeps on our sufferings from our enemies till his tears flow on his cheek, Allah will grant him a place in Paradise. Kaamil al-Ziyarat by Ibn Qawlawayh , page 100.