Wife

A wife is a female partner in a continuing marital relationship.
The term continues to be applied to a woman who has separated from her partner, and ceases to be applied to such a woman only when her marriage has come to an end, following a legally recognized divorce or the death of her spouse. On the death of her partner, a wife is referred to as a widow, but not after she is divorced from her partner.

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Wife

My wife has a male friend and I don't like her talking with him. Is there a way I can convince her to end their friendship without hurting her feelings?

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 1 hour ago

According to most maraja' it is makruh for a woman to talk to a man unless it is necessary. Often, a woman can't see a situation how a man sees it. The woman may believe that the non-mahram she is talking to sees her as a genderless colleague, but most men, when talking honestly, say that men are usually conscious that they are talking to a woman. The male friend obviously enjoys talking to your wife, otherwise he would not do it. He does not realise that have a close, or familiar friendship with another man's wife is highly disrespectful to that man and in a sense invades the sanctity of the home. Islam encourages men to have ghirah; to have a sense of protecting their family and guarding their family's honour. In some countries this understanding has largely been lost, so that men have become silent and pacified. These cultural issues are very delicate and difficult to explain. I don't know if you could put the scenario to her of your supposedly having a 'female friend' that you talk to regularly, and ask how she would feel about that. Most women feel strongly about their husbands having other women around them. How would she feel if you had a female friend that chatted freely with you, but was not her friend? While this is not an Islamic argument - more an argument to appeal to a Westernised mind - it may be an argument that can appeal. In addition, this narration is in Sunni sources: "The Prophet (s) said: "Their (husbands') rights over you (wives) is that you do not allow anyone whom they dislike onto your bedding and you do not allow anyone whom they dislike into your house." [At-Tirmithi]". I haven't managed to find an exact equivalent in the Shi'i texts, but it may be worth searching for it.

Wife

My wife has a male friend and I don't like her talking with him. Is there a way I can convince her to end their friendship without hurting her feelings?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 day ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Although it is very important to be considerate towards your wife's feelings and value her, in such a situation she should respect your request and take it the positive way. She might get upset, but if you communicate things in the right way and share your concerns, for sure she will honour your view.

As Muslims, we do not believe in "free-mixing" between genders, and therefore we do not have such a thing as a "friend" of the opposite gender.

Bearing in mind that you have legitimate concerns that make you feel uncomfortable with her talking to this male individual, and not that you are paranoid or being difficult.

With prayers for your success.

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Husband . Wife

If a husband does not like to acknowledge his second wife in public being concerned about his reputation and how people will react to it, how should the second wife deal with this situation?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 2 days ago

I am sorry to hear about this challenging situation.

The ideal and example of the Prophet (S) is that marriage is public and, unless someone is living in a cave, there are a lot of questions and awkward situations that will come up if a woman is married secretly.

It is wrong to put someone under that kind of stress and pressure, and it is not healthy for the man or the woman.

Apart from the social challenges, marriage is one of the most important things in a person's life, and it is psychologically unhealthy to have to hide that from the world. Part of having a family is the social aspect of family, not just the private relationship between a husband and wife.

However, unfortunately, life isn't ideal. I am assuming the woman agreed to this situation when getting into it. Maybe - like most things in life - they didn't understand what it would be like long term, or they thought (or were told) things might change.

The only real options are: (a) try to convince the man to change his mind, (b) try to see if it is possible to make any life changes (such as moving to a different country) which would make secrecy unnecessary, (c) find coping mechanisms to deal with the situation personally and socially, and be patient, (d) leave the marriage, or (e) pray that Allah provides another option.

Life is a test, and in the end, what is important is how we navigate the tests in front of us, whether we are able to do it with faith and good ethics or not. I hope and pray the situation gets easier for all concerned!

Husband . Wife

If a husband does not like to acknowledge his second wife in public being concerned about his reputation and how people will react to it, how should the second wife deal with this situation?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 weeks ago

There is no condition in marriage according to Ahlul Bayt (A) to declare the marriage in public. Witness on marriage is recommended and not obligatory If there was a condition agreed by both of them to announce the mae in public, then fulfilling the condition will be obligatory, but if there was no such condition and the husband feels danger on his reputation, then wife should consider listening to her husband and avoiding harming him.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Wife

What are the Islamic legal implications for a husband who does not provide maintenance for his wife?

Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answered 1 month ago

as salam alaikum

if the wife observes her husband's conjugal rights and he is financially able to provide for her, she should try to convince him with good advice and persuade him to rectify his conduct. If he is not willing to do that, she can involve other people that she thinks may have influence on him (like relatives and friends). If this also doesn't work she may refer to an Islamic Judge who should decide the best reconciliatory course to the matter. Then, if he sees that there is no better option available, he may divorce them at wife's request.

With prayers for your success.

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Wife . Mut'a (Temporary marriage)

Is it true that Mut'a can be done secretly so that there is no pain and problem to one's wife and family? Is it true that Mut'a can be done irrespective of whether one's wife is healthy or ill and whether she is with him or away?

Mut'ah (temporary marriage) is a type of marriage in Islam, mentioned in Quran (Sura An Nisaa', verse 24).

Marriage contract (whether permanent or temporary) does not require witness, though it is recommended.

Mut'ah aims to save people from falling in sexual sinful acts.

Mut'ah should not be misused and should never be cause of hurting the feelings of your wife or children.
Mut'ah marriage can be only done with Muslim woman or a woman from Ahl al-Kitab, but in this case of Ahl Kitab, it needs the permission of your Muslim wife. This is according to the Fatwa of many leading scholars.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Wife . Money

If a husband spends on his wife and one day he does not have money, can he take money from his wife without her permission considering it his own?

No, it is not permissible for the husband to take from his wife's money with out her permission. Wife's money is her money only and there is no right for her husband to think that it is his money.

All the livelihood expenses of the wife is on her husband even f she is a rich woman, and whatever he spends on her is her right on him and not loan on her.

Wassalam.

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Wife . Husband . House . Sawm (Fasting)

Does a wife need her husband's permission for going out of the house or keeping a voluntary fast? If so, does she need to ask permission each and every time or is it sufficient that the husband doesn't object after having given permission once?

Wife needs her husband's permission to go out if her going out contradicts with his rights as a husband and needs from her.

If the husband permitted her to go out and she thinks that the situation is same, then no need for repeated permission every time, as far as she knows that he will not object. This is called ITHN AL_FAHWA اذن الفحوى (Understood permission).

Recommended fast also needs husband permission if it contradicts with his rights as husband on his wife. If husband needs his wife for intimacy relationship during the day, she can not refuse him because of recommended fast.

Wassalam.

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Man . Wife . Chastity . Akhlaq

What is the appropriate Islamic reaction for a man when someone insults him and his wife by casting doubt on her chastity?

as salam alaikum

different situations call for different answers and reactions. However in general terms the aim should be make truth prevails, defend his and his family's honor and dignity, and to fulfill the duty of "amr bil-ma'ruf wa nahy 'anil-munkar".

With prayers for your success.

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Wife . Phone . Anger . Divorce

If somebody gives Talaq to his wife over the phone 3 times in anger, does it count? What are the implications if he has twice pronounced Talaq earlier as well?

Talaaq has many conditions to be valid. Among the conditions are that
the husband should not be in the state of anger. So the Talaaq which
you mentioned in the state of anger is invalid.

There is another condition in every Talaaq which is that of two pious witnesses hearing
the declaration of Talaaq. Without this condition, no Talaaq is valid.
So the person who was speaking to his wife on phone and told her the
word of ‘Talaaq’, between him and her the Talaaq is invalid because no
two pious men witnessed it.

This person and his wife are still married.

Wassalaam.

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Wife . Husband . Alcohol

Can a wife throw away her husband's intoxicants that are there in their home, if he bought them with his own money?

It is obligatory on every Muslim to stop or prevent evil acts as much as he can with out causing harm which is more than that evil act e.g. danger on life or safety.

If we can destroy or throw away alcohol or intoxicants with out causing more harm, it will be obligatory on us to do so.

Obviously, throwing such evil items will not solve the problem totally if the husband is not willing to leave it, so, it is very good to try your best to convince him to leave evil acts, but if he did not listen, then you do your best to decrease his chances to utilize such evil items at least at home. By such act you will be helping him.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Wife . God (Allah) . Forgiveness

If a husband does not accept a wife's sincere apologies will Allah forgive the wife if she repents?

Seyed Ali Musawi, Seyed Ali Musawi studied religion and history at the University of California, San Diego and subsequently he studied for more than 8 years at the Islamic Seminary in Qum, Iran, focusing on Islamic... Answered 3 months ago

Allah is the most forgiving and he has promised to forgive us any of our sins, even the worst of sins, if we sincerely ask him. Know that once you have sincerely asked Allah, and you have repented, then your sin is definitely forgiven!

Human beings are another matter and it may take some time for them to forgive one another. Inshallah, in time, your husband will also come around...