Wife

A wife is a female partner in a continuing marital relationship.
The term continues to be applied to a woman who has separated from her partner, and ceases to be applied to such a woman only when her marriage has come to an end, following a legally recognized divorce or the death of her spouse. On the death of her partner, a wife is referred to as a widow, but not after she is divorced from her partner.

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Husband . Wife . Akhlaq

My husband flirts and talks to women. It has been seven years now and I am tired of his behaviour. What should a Muslim wife do in such a situation?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answer updated 2 days ago

Bismihi ta'ala

If this is the case that you are in, then such a relationship is not a healthy thing at all. You must try to find means of making him cease such conduct, if you have not yet tried, and then intervention, if that does not work.

In my opinion, a wife does not deserve to be treated in such a way, and a husband being flirtatious with other women is certainly not the traits of a Muslim.

Please watch this short clip on how a wife should deal with her promiscuous husband:

With prayers for your success

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Vasectomy . Sexual . Wife

Is male vasectomy allowed if it helps improve sexual relations with the wife?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 week ago

Vasectomy usually stops permanently the ability of having children, hence it is not permissible at all. Wassalam.

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Wife . Pregnancy . Mut'a (Temporary marriage) . Sexual

Does the Sharia allow you to perform Mutah in a situation when your wife isn't able to have intimacy with you due to a high risk pregnancy and the period of such lack of intimacy exceeds 9 months?

Mut'ah marriage is a way to save people from falling into sinful acts but such type of marriage has conditions which must be fulfilled. If you need to save yourself from falling into sinful act through going for Mut'ah marriage, you need to get your Muslim wife's permission if you want to do the Mut'ah with a woman from People of Book (Ahlul Kitab) like Christians or Jews.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Wife . Sexual

If a husband and wife are physically away from each other, is it allowed for the two of them to have virtual sex via utilizing a sexual device placed over their private parts that is controlled by the other spouse remotely?

It is not allowed for any one to use sexual device for personal use.
It is allowed for husband and wife to use such devices for other spouse only.

If the sexual device is totally controlled remotely by the other spouse, then it will be allowed.

Wassalam.

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Wife . Islam

What rights does a wife have in Islam?

Rights of a wife on her husband are like the rights of her husband on her as far as respect and nice treatment are concerned. Allah (SWT) says in Quran (And they (women) have rights over their husband like the rights of their husbands over them, with kindness. (Sura Al-Baqarah, Verse 228).

Wife has the right of her full livelihood expenses from her husband, even if she was rich or more wealthy than her husband.
Wife has the right of respect and nice treatment from her husband,b just like his right on her in respecting him and treating him nicely.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Wife . Students . Children . Childbirth

If a husband and wife are both students and do not want to have any children right in the moment, because they don’t have enough time to take care of the child, can the wife take birth control measures?

It is permissible to have birth control measures as far as the effect of it is temporary. Birth control measures becomes not allowed when it's effect is permanent. Birth control should not kill a zygote which has been already formed. Preventing the formation of the zygote is allowed, but if the zygote has been formed by the unity of the male sperm with the female egg, then it will be not permissible to kill it or abort it.

Wassalam.

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Wife . Ghusl . Sexual

If I want to have intercourse with my wife twice in the same night is it required to perform Ghusl before the second intercourse?

It is not obligatory to perform Ghusl before the second one.

Wassalam.

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Wife . Husband . Beard

Is it permissible in Islam for the wife to ask her husband to comb and oil his beard so that he looks clean and tidy? What is the husband's responsibility in regards to his wife's request?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 2 months ago

In Islam, a man should groom himself and look nice for his wife.

It is related from Imam Rida (A): "The women of Bani Israel deviated from the path of chastity because their men were not bothered about cleanliness and looking nice." The Imam then added: "What you expect of your wife, she expects the same from you."

It is also related that Allah is beautiful and loves beauty, and loves to see the signs of His blessings on His servants.

The Prophet (S) used to give attention to looking appropriate and presentable. Here are some narrations on some of his grooming habits, including combing and oiling his hair and beard: https://www.al-islam.org/sunan-nabi-sayyid-muhammad-husayn-tabatabai/cha...

Of course, different people have different levels of motivation and interest in these things, and different understandings of what it means to be tidy.

So yes, you can ask, and yes he should make some efforts. Even if it were not emphasized in Islam, it is still good to try to accomodate one's spouse's requests as long as they are ethical and doable. However, it is difficult to force someone to change.

Perhaps you can encourage him, if you have not already, by giving him some nice beard oil. There are also some websites dedicated to beards and men who are proud of their beards. After all, a beard is a symbol of a manly man (for men who can grow them, of course) and so it is nice if he takes pride in it.

Also since the beard is symbolic of Islam, it is nice to look after one's beard because it is part of the public image of Islam.

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Wife . Marriage . Girl . Mut'a (Temporary marriage)

Does my wife need to know if I want to do a Mutah marriage with another girl?

It not allowed to do Mut'ah marriage with a female from People of Book (Ahlul Kitab) with out the permission of your Muslim wife.

Wassalam..

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Wife . Money . Materialism

Is my wife allowed to demand money or new materialistic things that I cannot afford while she knows it?

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answer updated 3 months ago

Bismillah, Salaam alaykum, If someone is making material demands of you, knowing that you can’t afford it, then this can be a psychological way of devaluing you as a person, especially if this is done in front of your children. If it is done in front of your children, then this can be a form of parental alienation. I can suggest you go on youtube and look up ‘traits of the female narcissist’. There is a channel called Narcisssistic Abuse Healing and the title is 12 Typical Behaviors Of A Female Narcissist.

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Woman . Wife

How do I know if a woman could be a suitable wife for me because we are not given much time with each other and it is a decision that affects the rest of our lives?

Zoheir Ali Esmail, Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD... Answered 4 months ago

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. The truth is that you can never fully know. Marriage means sharing a life path and many times that path has many unforeseen twists and turns. You won't be the same person 10 years from now and neither will your spouse. In all honesty we just make an educated guess, a leap of faith, we stack our chips and put the rest in Allah's hands. The reasons behind why marriage is like this is a mixture of modern attitudes and culture. Finding love is a process of growing together rather than finding a finished product. Everyone has faults and makes mistakes. There are certain qualities to look for but its only after going past the surface that you will get a picture of who you have really chosen. Some things will be as expected others will be disappointing but some things will be a pleasant surprise. Some problems will be your own doing and some successes will be unintentional. In the majority of cases marriage will work out will a good attitude, commitment, kindness, respect, giving each other space, showing love, and common goals.

May you always be successful

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Wife . Husband . Sexual

If a wife refuses intimacy with her husband for several months what should he do?

Wife is not allowed to refuse fulfilling her husband's sexual needs if she is not in her menstruation or post-natal or any other medical reason. Refusing intimacy with her husband is a sinful act.

Husband should try to nicely convince his wife including removing any reason which might have caused her to refuse intimacy. He should be very clean and wear perfume which she like and try to talk to her nicely to make her ready to respond to him.

After doing all that, if she continues to refuse intimacy with her husband, she might need counselling from trusted persons from her female relatives e.g. her mother, her sister etc.

She can be advised to seek guidance from trusted religious scholars or consultants.

Avoid using pressure on your wife because it might give wrong results. Intimacy in its best form is a result of a human delicate feeling, but if she is not ready for it in its best form, she should never deny giving her husband whatever she can to save him from thinking to go elsewhere to fulfill his natural needs. That is why Islam made it compulsory on the wife to offer what she can to meet the needs of her husband.

Wassalam .