A husband is a male in a marital relationship. The rights and obligations of a husband regarding his spouse and others, and his status in the community and in law, vary between cultures and have varied over time.
If this is the case that you are in, then such a relationship is not a healthy thing at all. You must try to find means of making him cease such conduct, if you have not yet tried, and then intervention, if that does not work.
In my opinion, a wife does not deserve to be treated in such a way, and a husband being flirtatious with other women is certainly not the traits of a Muslim.
Please watch this short clip on how a wife should deal with her promiscuous husband:
With prayers for your success
It is not allowed for any one to use sexual device for personal use.
It is allowed for husband and wife to use such devices for other spouse only.
If the sexual device is totally controlled remotely by the other spouse, then it will be allowed.
If your husband pursues extra-marital affairs, either in the halal way (mut'ah or seeking a second wife), then you have the choice of either staying with him, or getting divorced from him.
Of course, such issues must be directly addressed, and his and your family be involved as well.
Your husband might be going through a phase, and needs a wakeup call for him to return back and focus on his marriage. If so, forgive him, and try to strengthen the relationship.
However, if after intervention he still pursues the new relationship, then you decide what you wish to do. To divorce him, or continue to live with him. Just know that you are not obliged to live under such circumstances.
Also, this short clip could be of benefit as well:
If the woman of the Mut'ah marriage with your husband is from People of Book (Christian or Jewish), then such marriage needs your permission.
If she is a Muslim woman, then her rights are not like your rights. Mut'ah marriage wife has no right of livelihood expenses, nor the right of spending nights with her like your right as a permanent wife. She also has no right in inheritance from your husband.
1. When you know that Allah does not allow any marriage between a Muslim female and a non Muslim man and you write that "you feel that you went against Allah", you must repent and seek forgiveness and come back to Allah and never insist on doing wrong.
2. If you can convince the man and explain to him how to become a Muslim, then you need to recite a marriage agreement (Nikah) between you and him after becoming a Muslim in his heart.
3. If he refuses to become a Muslim, then there is no way that you can remain with him.
4. You must save yourself and your future from sinful acts.
In Islam, a man should groom himself and look nice for his wife.
It is related from Imam Rida (A): "The women of Bani Israel deviated from the path of chastity because their men were not bothered about cleanliness and looking nice." The Imam then added: "What you expect of your wife, she expects the same from you."
It is also related that Allah is beautiful and loves beauty, and loves to see the signs of His blessings on His servants.
The Prophet (S) used to give attention to looking appropriate and presentable. Here are some narrations on some of his grooming habits, including combing and oiling his hair and beard: https://www.al-islam.org/sunan-nabi-sayyid-muhammad-husayn-tabatabai/cha...
Of course, different people have different levels of motivation and interest in these things, and different understandings of what it means to be tidy.
So yes, you can ask, and yes he should make some efforts. Even if it were not emphasized in Islam, it is still good to try to accomodate one's spouse's requests as long as they are ethical and doable. However, it is difficult to force someone to change.
Perhaps you can encourage him, if you have not already, by giving him some nice beard oil. There are also some websites dedicated to beards and men who are proud of their beards. After all, a beard is a symbol of a manly man (for men who can grow them, of course) and so it is nice if he takes pride in it.
Also since the beard is symbolic of Islam, it is nice to look after one's beard because it is part of the public image of Islam.
Husband should give his wife all her rights as a wife and wife should also give her husband all his right as a husband. When you talk to your husband asking your rights, try you best to avoid any word which can hurt him or make feel disrespected by you. Select good words to convey what you want to tell him. If you see him starting to look annoyed,bayou should stop and postpone the matter. When you restart your talk, avoid those topics or words which can annoy him.
He should avoid harming or disrespecting you and you should avoid that as well.
Remember that your patience is a type of Jihad as the Hadeeth says: The Jihad of the wife is in being a good and tolerant wife.
Wife is not allowed to refuse fulfilling her husband's sexual needs if she is not in her menstruation or post-natal or any other medical reason. Refusing intimacy with her husband is a sinful act.
Husband should try to nicely convince his wife including removing any reason which might have caused her to refuse intimacy. He should be very clean and wear perfume which she like and try to talk to her nicely to make her ready to respond to him.
After doing all that, if she continues to refuse intimacy with her husband, she might need counselling from trusted persons from her female relatives e.g. her mother, her sister etc.
She can be advised to seek guidance from trusted religious scholars or consultants.
Avoid using pressure on your wife because it might give wrong results. Intimacy in its best form is a result of a human delicate feeling, but if she is not ready for it in its best form, she should never deny giving her husband whatever she can to save him from thinking to go elsewhere to fulfill his natural needs. That is why Islam made it compulsory on the wife to offer what she can to meet the needs of her husband.
It is not allowed to take part in a trip or gathering where men and women are together with out full Hijab.
I am sorry to hear about this situation. This is certainly despicable behavior from him and a breach of trust.
It is difficult to have a marriage without trust. However, it is your decision whether or not you wish to stay in the marriage.
None of us here can give you good advice on whether or not to stay in the marriage without knowing your situation (both personally and also in terms of practical matters). It is best if you can discuss this with people who you know in person whom you trust, such as family or people whose advice you respect.
Wishing you the best either way, and sorry you have to go through this.
If the husband has allocated this money exclusively to his family, and for the wife to spend it on their household, then no, she cannot spend it on other things. If the husband gives his wife money, without specifying, then she can do with it what she wishes.
However, it would always be best for her to consult with her husband, and for the husband to honour his wife's family by financially assisting them within his capacity.
And Allah knows best.