Husband

A husband is a male in a marital relationship. The rights and obligations of a husband regarding his spouse and others, and his status in the community and in law, vary between cultures and have varied over time.

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Husband . Wife . Sexual . Children . Makruh

Is there any evidence that it is Makrouh for the husband to look at the private part of his wife when trying to conceive a child? If so, is that the case even in general sexual acts? What is the reason for it being Makrouh?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 week ago

Every Makrouh is harmful but not Haraam. Allah knows the details of the harm which might be unknown to us.

We have Hadeeths from the Prophet (SAWA) stating that it is Makrouh. It is not only when trying to conceive a child but it is Makrouh in any sexual intercourse.

Wassalam.

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Wife . Husband . Marriage

If you are getting married as the second wife, how do you or your husband decide if you have your time first and how many days you get each time?

The man who has more than one wife must maintain practical justice between his wives. He must organize his time between them to be sure that each of them gets equal rights.

It is his responsibility to achieve that practical justice, not yours as a wife.

If the man is unable to maintain practical justice between more than one wife, he will be then not allowed to have more than one wife (But if you fear that you shall not deal justly with wives, then just one wife. ( Sura Al-Nisaa', verse 3)

Wassalam.

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Husband . Wife . Marriage . Death

When a husband dies is the wife still considered to be in Nikah with him?

Yes, she remains his wife which means that she can wash his body in Ghusl of Mayyit and if she dies, her husband is allowed to wash her body.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Hereafter . Predestination

It is mentioned in Quran that the living creatures are created in pairs. Does that mean marrying my husband was predefined and that I will be reunited with the same person in the hereafter?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 3 weeks ago

The general understanding of this verse is that things are generally created in pairs (for instance, positive and negative, matter and antimatter, light and dark, or male and female), and that one of the signs of Allah is that human beings marry and form a pair in order to become more whole than they would be individually.

However, it is not usually taken to mean that all human beings are specifically created with a soulmate or "pair" whom they marry in this world. Indeed, some people have more than one happy marriage in their lifetimes; others are miserable in their marriages!

Marriage can be destined and can be a matter of free choice; matters of destiny are not usually clear. Some people misuse the idea of destiny and marriage to cover up socially unjust practices (for instance, not allowing their children to marry someone of a certain race, culture, family, or profession) and then saying these restrictions are "destiny". At the same time, it does seem that sometimes some people are destined to be together or destined not to be together.

However if you are happy with your husband, I hope you will be able to be together in the Hereafter!

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Husband . Wife

Is it permissible for the husband to hold his wife’s hand in public?

In principle, it is allowed for husband to hold his wife's hand in public if there is no bad effect from such act on others who see him and his wife, or on the respect of the man or his wife in the eyes of society.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Wife . Marriage

How long can are a husband and wife allowed to away from each other without physical relationship?

Husband must sleep with his wife if he is living in the same place and not in jail etc. Husband is not allowed to leave sleeping with his wife for a period of four months as maximum. Husband is required to treat his wife nicely as he wants her to treat him.

Wife is not allowed to leave sleeping with her husband.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Wife

Is it allowed for a husband to strike his wife? If so, what are the specific conditions which permit a husband to do so?

It is not allowed for a Muslim to hit any one including his wife or children. Some people misunderstand a Quranic verse in this regard which in fact does not mean real hitting but not more than a nominal act to correct. If a person hit his wife and her skin becomes reddish, he must pay her a penalty, beside his sinful act which needs seeking her pardon and forgiveness from Allah (SWT).

Wassalam.

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Husband . Pregnancy . Abortion

I am 8 weeks pregnant and my husband wants me to abort the baby, or else he will leave me, because he feels he is not yet ready to have kids. Both our families have tried but failed to convince him. What should I do?

Allah says in Quran ( And your Lord creates whatever He wills and chooses, no choice have they.) 28:68.

When the zygote is formed, it means that it was created by Allah, so, no one has the right to terminate the pregnancy. Your husband has no right to kill this embryo by abortion. You need to tell him that he should not object on the Wisdom and Mercy of Allah which created this embryo. No one knows what is the future of this child but Allah who created it.

Abortion is type of killing of a human being and it is a major sin and has a penalty called Diyah like the penalty of killing. The only case in which abortion can be allowed is when the life of the mother is in danger because f the pregnancy and there was no way to save the life of the mother but only by abortion.

Wassalam.

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Wife . Husband . Domestic abuse

Does a wife not have a right in Islam to complain about her husband's mistreatment of her?

Yes, she has full right to get good treatment from her husband, and she has full right to complain to the Islamic scholar ( Hakim al-Shariah) if he insists on mistreating of her.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Domestic abuse

My husband is very aggressive and abusive. I believe he hates me but for the sake of our 5 kids he has given me a place to stay. He always gives out Talaq to me and accuses me of adultery and major sins. How should I deal with this situation?

This is a test for you as every human being has a test in his life or tests. We have in the statements of the Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) : The Jihad of the woman is tolerating the bad attitude of her husband.
We can not make judgement before listening to both parties, but there are thousands of cases of bad attitude of husband towards his wife, or the wife towards her husband.

We need to be sure that husband and wife must avoid any act or word which instigates the other. Wife should do her best not to do or say anything which makes her husband unhappy with her. If she fulfills her responsibility in this matter, and still suffers from bad attitude of her husband or his parents or relatives, she will be then getting the degree of Jihad for her tolerance and patience.

Be careful not to fall in any unwanted acts or words as a reaction of bad acts from her husbands or his family.

Remember the great reward of pious ladies like Asiya who suffered a lot from bad husband Firaon.

Patience and seeking support and help from Allah (SWT) is the main gate of relief from such difficult situation.

Repeatin YA GHAFOUR YA WADOUD ,

LA HAWLA WALA QUWWATA ILLA BILLAH

ASTAGHFIRULLAH RABBI WA ATOUBU ELAYH

ALLAHUMMA SALLI AL MUHAMMAD WA AALI MUHAMMAD is also very helpful.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Music . Employment

Can someone be accepted as a husband if he's a good practising Muslim, knowing the Quran by heart, but his work involves creating Islamic music about Allah using musical instruments?

Yes.

However, you should be certain that you are comfortable with this because you and your children will live with it. Not only does a musician have to practice (and sometimes record) at home, but children often inherit musical talent and interests. So it is something you should look into your heart and see if it is the right future for you (or whoever is thinking of getting married).

Also, if you don't respect or agree with your husband's work, it might cause conflict between you two.

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Husband . Money

My husband and I have a joint account where we both regularly contribute similar amounts. He wishes to save and does not want me to withdraw from it. Can I therefore take money from his wallet without his knowledge as a means to access my funds?

Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answered 2 months ago

as salam alaikum

the wallet of your husband is considered as his property, so it is not right to take money from it without is approval.

In the mentioned case, the best thing would be to reach an agreement between you and your husband where you can save and share your money in fair and satisfactory way for both. If it is not possible, starting two separated accounts could be another option.

Islamically, the wife's money belongs to her and she can use in halal way at her discretion; therefore the husband has no right to prevent her from them unless there is a previous agreement that allows him to do that.

With prayers for your success.