Husband

A husband is a male in a marital relationship. The rights and obligations of a husband regarding his spouse and others, and his status in the community and in law, vary between cultures and have varied over time.

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Husband . Salah (Prayers)

My husband does the prayers but delays his prayers for insignificant things like watching TV. And he does not like me reminding him saying that he would pray even if I don't ask him. What can I do to convince him about doing prayers without delay?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 week ago

As he performs his obligatory Prayers in any case even if you don't remind him, and feels annoyed when you remind him about not to delay it, you should avoid annoying him. You may gently mention to him what the Prophet and Ahlul Bayt (AS) said about the great reward of praying on time, but avoid making him feel insulted.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Mother . Son . Marriage

My husband would like his mother to live with us as she is single and lives alone and he is the eldest son. Can he impose that decision or do I have the right to refuse if I fear that her living with us will cause problems in our marriage?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 3 weeks ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

It isn't wajib for one's parents to live with them. Yes, one can live with the in-laws however in many cases it has caused issues in marriages. It is your right upon your husband to have a comfortable home and your own privacy. Yes, he can perhaps get his mother to move closer if he wants to have a good relationship with her but it wouldn't be recommend for her to move in if this would cause you discomfort. This should be voiced to your husband that it isn't obliged for you to accept this if it may cause issues.

May Allah grant you success

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Husband . Stepfather . Mahram . Daughter

My husband’s father passed away but his mom remarried when my husband was just a toddler. Would his stepfather be Mahram to my future daughters?

Your husband's step father is non Mahram to you and to your future daughters as well, simply because he is not the biological father of your husband.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Slavery . Sexual

My husband wants to do my slavery. He wants me to whip him and torture him. And he is doing this willingly. Is it allowed in Islam for my husband to seek this treatment?

This is unusual for a person to ask to be whipped or tortured. I think he should see a doctor.

You should not whip nor torture your husband at all but help him to be treated properly to be a mentally healthy man.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Divorce . Sunni-Shi'a

Should a woman get divorced from her Sunni husband when she comes to know after her marriage that the Shia sect is the right one to follow?

Divorce is not the way in such cases but to try to explain to him the facts which you discovered about the Real Islam, so that he may realize as well. If he refuses the evidence and insists on that, you can continue with him as far as he does not obstacle or disturb your religious freedom or practice.

I advise you to keep on explaining and giving him useful information which can help him to know what he does not.

Wassalam.

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Husband

Is it permissible for your husband to force you to do something, which you don't want to do, and starts avoiding you completely till you don't agree to do it?

It is not permissible for the husband to ask his wife to do any Haraam act like serving alcohol or coming out with out full Hijab or cutting ties with her family etc. It will be Haraam on the wife to obey her husband in any sinful act he wants her to do.
If the husband asks his wife to do something related to his matrimonial right as a husband on her as his wife, it will be obligatory on her to fulfill his need as far as she is not in her menstruation or post natal period and does not have a health problem which prevents her to do that.

The way to fulfill his needs from his wife should not be unusual which can not be tolerated by her.

Wassalam.

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Magic . Husband

I had asked help from a black magic person to make my husband faithful because he had cheated on me. I now regret it and want to get rid of what I have done to myself and my husband. What should I do?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 4 months ago

If there are physical items involved (talismans, or that sort of thing) in your home, you can destroy them.

However, in general, unlike with Amazon, there are no returns in the department of the unseen - it is easier to do than to undo.

If whatever the person did had some effect, and wasn't just fakery, sometimes you can just wait it out as these things can wear down over time.

If you or he are suffering ill effects (for instance, he is not thinking clearly, it has backfired and caused conflict because he is now hyper-dependent, or you have a haunted house now), you could go to someone who is honest, trustworthy, and capable who does ruqya or who can advise you on how to do it on yourselves to help remove the ill effects.

However, that might be awkward to explain to your husband and cause more problems - most people are enraged if they find out someone attempted to do magic on them.

If it is just regret, but you don't have any reason to think there is anything actually harming either of you, it may be better to leave the situation as it is and to focus on building a positive home life and also looking after both of your material and spiritual well-being (religion, health, etc).

In general, regular recitation of Qur'an, regular salat, and playing Qur'an in the background in the home can help to calm down unwanted bad effects and bolster people against the effects of black magic. Of course, praying to Allah for assistance is good.

Sometimes in life we make decisions we regret.

Also sorry to hear about the cheating.

Infidelity and sorcery are signs that a marriage is not at its healthiest. If there are some other underlying difficulties in the marriage, unrelated to those two issues, maybe you could look into some kind of marriage therapy or counseling.

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Husband . Marriage . Sin

How do I accept my husband's second marriage? Is it a sin to be unhappy with it?

It is normal for there to be complex emotions in these situations. Even in narrations, it says that a woman's jealousy over her husband is due to her love for him. This is apart from other concerns, such as about the financial effect.

There is nothing wrong with acknowledging the reality of your emotions. In any situation, is healthier to work through things such as anger or resentment because negative emotions can eat at us, and we are the ones who will suffer. However, this takes time and there isn't an instant fix.

Bringing another person into the picture (either in terms of a second wife, or illicitly) also changes the relationship between two spouses, and it takes time for the relationship to adjust and to find a new normal. Also, sometimes it changes our own sense of identity and the way we relate to the world, since marriage is heavily tied to identity, and so sometimes it takes time to develop a different sense of self if there is a change in marital life.

There is a certain wisdom in accepting that we cannot control other people's decisions, and to accept that people in our lives will do things that we wish they didn't. Allah only takes us to account for our own actions and choices.

Ethically, it is good to treat correctly the other woman in the same way one would treat correctly any other person, especially if she is a sister in faith.

In societies which are not structured to support polygyny, such as many urban areas today, and where it is a burden for a man to be equally responsible to two separate households, second marriages often don't last anyway, especially if the second wife is getting the lesser end of the deal (for instance, supporting herself and her children financially while the first wife is a housewife). (This is especially the case when the first marriage has been established for a long time and is not ending, and there isn't a strong reason pushing the man to take an additional wife.)

When the Prophet (S) and Imam Ali (A) had multiple wives, they didn't have to commute 4 hours in bad traffic after a 10 hour work shift and pay insurance and mortgages or exorbitant rent for both families, etc. The culture also was set up in a way that acknowledged polygamy, whereas some modern cultures are not even favorable to having one wife and child-raising, let alone multiple wives. Of course, this varies tremendously from place to place.

Sometimes second/third/fourth marriages do last, and I don't want to give you a false hope, but just putting this out there. Time shows the end result of all things.

Husband . Marriage . Sin

How do I accept my husband's second marriage? Is it a sin to be unhappy with it?

Culture of today which is mainly from the western media makes people thing wrong about some acts which were been approved and even practiced by the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS). If the western values calls your husband's second marriage with the condition of practical justice, a betrayal to you, then how do you look at a great lady like Ummul Banin (SA) who accepted many marriage of her husband Ameerul Mo'mineen (AS)?

Being unhappy with your husband's second marriage should not lead you to sinful acts like hurting him or accusing him or his second wife or her family or creating problems in the life of your husband even by changing your mode with him. You as a sincere believer in Allah, should accepts whatever Allah Has approved, and never show unhappiness with an act approved by Allah.

Your patience and acceptance to Allah's religion will give you a higher degree and great reward and will definitely make your life more successful.

Wassalam.

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Woman . Heaven . Husband . Paradise . Marriage

If a virgin woman in heaven can choose a husband of her own choice, can she ask Allah to marry a person who is in a higher level of paradise?

Allah (SWT) The Most Merciful Will grant the believers in Paradise what ever they wish, as we read in Quran (Sura 43, Verse 71) and also in Sura 50, Verse 35.

That does not mean that all the believers in Paradise are in the same degree or rank. Degrees and ranks in Paradise are according to good deeds.

A pious virgin in Paradise will be granted what she wishes according to her degree. Allah's Mercy is over all and it will be more than our imaginations.

Wassalam.

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Woman . Husband . Obedience

Should a woman always obey her husband in everything even if it requires her getting harmed physically or emotionally?

Muslim woman has to obey her husband in good things only and not in bad things. Bad things mean unlawful acts and harmful acts. There is no obedience for any creature in disobeying The Creator, Allah.

Wassalam.

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Discipline . Husband . Children . Sin

I discipline my kids strictly to avoid Haram things but my husband agrees to their demands ignoring that we both will be sinful for this permission. What should I do?

You should always fulfill your responsibility to protect your kids from harmful things, and nothing more harmful and damaging than sinful acts. If your husband allows your kids sinful acts, that does mean that you have no responsibility to protect them. You must talk to him in a suitable way to prove to him that both of you are responsible to protect your kids. You also need to explain to your kids the as much they can understand the concept of good and bad. Your husband will not permit your kids to eat a sweet which contaminated with microbes because it is harmful for their health, so, how can he permit sinful acts which are more harmful?

Do whatever you can (with wisdom) to protect yourself and your family from Hellfire, as Allah said: O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is men and stones. Sura 66, Verse 6.

Wassalam.