What comes across as bad luck can be for a variety of reasons. Sometimes it can be a sign that we are not meant to do certain things, for instance, if we try to get a certain type of job repeatedly and are unable to do so. Sometimes it just happens for no apparent reason.
If you are concerned there may be a metaphysical reason for your bad luck (evil eye, cursework, etc), you could contact a reliable and trustworthy scholar with practical experience in these matters who could further advise you on that. If someone is suffering from bad luck for no apparent reason (e.g. they have freak accidents repeatedly although they are careful), it is worth looking into that sort of thing.
Some overall suggestions to bring blessings into your life (you may or may not be doing these things, I am just putting them out there in general):
* Reciting the Qur'an or playing it in the background, especially parts of the Qur'an recommended for things such as attracting sustenance, like Surat al-Waqi'ah
* Prayers for the deceased, including relatives and the mu'mineen
* Maintaining good ties with family (if it is appropriate to your situation)
* Hosting guests
* Holding religious gatherings such as majalis in your home (if it is possible)
* Praying the 5 daily prayers regularly with focus
* Keeping a clean and calm environment around you (as much as possible)
* Avoiding haraam acts or places where haraam acts are committed
* Keeping things like the 99 names of Allah or Qur'anic ayat on the walls (assuming you have a place to stay)
* Some narrations suggest keeping small animals, like birds, around also.
I hope your long stretch of bad luck ends soon!
Imam Al-Mahdi (AS) knows from beginning that he is the last successor of the Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) and the Infallible Imam and Hujjah on all. His life is always a normal life like the life of the Prophet and other infallible Imams.
Allah, The Glorious created us and all all forms of life on this planet to shower on all of us His great Mercy and countless bounties which can never reach us without Him creating us.
Desire itself can never be justified unless it is approved by pure religion which is the message of The Creator, Allah, to make our life on the right path. Unguided desires can lead to disastrous results. The examples of such unguided and wrong desires are so many. There are people who have desire for animals etc. This means that desire itself can never be justified unless it is approved by true religion.
Such desires need to be controlled by the intellect which guided by the word of Allah (SWT). The person should always remember Allah and seek His help in tackling evil desires.
Repeating Estighfaar and Salawaat is very useful.
Inshallah, although it is possible that your hopes and dreams might change there, since much of what we hope for in the material world relates to our physical circumstances, physical bodies, social circumstances, and so forth. You may also discover that there are new things that you would like to live that you would not have dreamt of here!
By looking at the history of Islam, and how close Imam Ali (a.s.) was to the holy Prophet (s.a.w.), and their frequent travelling, along with the victory of conquering Meccah al-Mukarramah, this leaves no doubt that Imam Ali (a.s.) performed Hajj, and visited the holy Ka'bah, which was his birthplace.
We can see the many instances of how Imam Ali (a.s.) describes Hajj, in Nahj al-Balaghah, and in other sources as well.
Furthermore, we know about the authentic mutawatir hadith of Hajjatul-Wida', where on their way back from the last Hajj, our beloved Prophet (s.a.w.) announced the succession and wilayah of Imam Ali (a.s.).
With prayers for your success.
If the 40 years of fasting that they missed was with a valid excuse, then all they need to do is pay a 'fidya' for each day. A fidyah is 3/4 of a kilo of food, given to poor.
If they did not have an excuse, then they must:
1. Repent to Allah ta'ala.
2. Pay kaffarah for each day. Kaffarah is feeding of 60 poor people (most common option).
3. Write in their will that they have this amount of qadha' fasting to be done once they die, either by their next of kin, or they pay someone who will fast as qadha` on their behalf.
Furthermore, from this holy month of Ramadhan, because they cannot fast, they can pay the fidyah.
And Allah knows best.
We don't have any evidence to reject the possibility of life on other planets. We Muslims believe in the scientific evidence and encourage scientific research in every possible way and field. We also don't believe in imaginations and unsupported claims.
Just because you prayed to ask that someone not being involved in your life or around you anymore does not mean they will have to disappear, or that it will mean something or be a sign for something.
You must try to live your life, and not allow yourself to be concerned or emotionally investing yourself in another individual who might/might not even be interested in you.
It is for you to do dua that Allah ta'ala grants you a noble, righteous and loyal spouse, whoever that may be, and leave the rest for the Almighty.
With prayers for your success.
The believers are purified by hardships and tests to remove their errors and raise their degrees in Paradise. The Hadeeth says: More tests come with more faith كلما زيد في ايمانه زيد في بلائه
More hardships and tests make the believer more remembering Allah and seeking His help and avoid the believer the feeling of pride or arrogance.
There are many Hadeeths that the the believer who struggles in this life for noble cause, will be more rewarded in the hereafter. We read in Quran: Those who face the hardships with patience (Sabr) for the sake of Allah will have countless reward (Sura 39, verse 10).
We also have Hadeeths that the status of Sabr ( patience) from Faith is like the status of the head from the body.
A good sermon to read regarding this is the 1st sermon of Nahjul Balagha
Firstly a Muslim female shouldn't have male non-mahram friends. So this is already out of the question. Yes, interaction with the opposite gender at the workplace for example is permitted.
In regard to discussing private sexual matters with her female friends, this should be avoided. Unfortunately some women fall into this and divulge intimate details of their spouses.
If the woman genuinely needs advice related to sexual matters, she can speak or ask in a general sense without making it specific to herself.
May Allah grant you success