Friendship

Supporting your daughter through the loss of her friends can be challenging, but your presence and understanding can make a significant difference. Here are some ways you can help her cope and process her feelings:

1. **Create a Safe Space for Expression**: Encourage her to share her feelings about her friends and their deaths. Let her know that it's okay to feel sad, angry, confused, or even guilty. Listen actively without judgment, and validate her emotions.

2. **Encourage Open Conversations**: Discuss the circumstances surrounding her friends' deaths if she is comfortable. Help her understand that sometimes, life can be unpredictable and bitter. Be honest, but also sensitive to her emotional state.

3. **Share Your Own Feelings**: Let her know that you also feel sad about the loss. Sharing your own emotions can help her feel less isolated in her grief.

4. **Seek Professional Support**: If she is struggling significantly, consider suggesting that she speak with a therapist or counselor who specializes in grief. Professional support can provide her with coping strategies and a safe space to process her feelings.

5. **Encourage Healthy Coping Mechanisms**: Help her find ways to cope with her grief, such as journaling, creating art, or engaging in physical activities. Encourage her to express her feelings in ways that feel comfortable to her.

6. **Honor Their Memory**: Suggest ways to remember her friends, such as reciting Fatiha , arranging a Majlis, initiating a noble cause work, creating a memory book, planting a tree, or participating in a charity event in their honor. This can provide a sense of purpose and connection.

7. **Be Patient**: Grieving is a process that takes time. Be patient with her as she navigates her feelings, and check in regularly to see how she’s doing.

8. **Encourage Connection with Others**: Help her connect with other friends or family members who may also be grieving. Shared experiences can foster support and understanding.

9. **Educate About Grief**: Share resources about grief and loss, such as books or articles that discuss the grieving process. Understanding that her feelings are normal can be comforting.

10. **Promote Self-Care**: Encourage her to take care of herself physically and emotionally. This includes getting enough sleep, eating well, and engaging in activities that bring her joy.

11. **Be There for the Long Haul**: Grief doesn’t have a set timeline. Continue to check in with her and offer support as she navigates her feelings over time.

Remember, your role is to support her and provide a loving presence as she processes her grief. Your understanding and compassion can help her feel less alone during this difficult time.

We always take lessons from the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS) who faced the most difficult situations yet had practiced the best regency and patience. We as their followers need take practical steps on the same line of faith and obedience.

Wassalam.

Every Muslim who believes in Allah (SWT) will clearly understand from Quran the great importance of praying Salah. Allah (SWT) Says in Sura Al-Room: Estabkish Salah and don't be from the polytheists (Mushrikeen) (Verse 31). Those who don't perform Salah are like the Mushrikeen. The Prophetic Hadeeth says: The difference between us (Muslims) and non Muslims is Salah, anyone who leaves Salah becomes like them.

Salah is the main link between human being and his Creator Allah which must be performed as Allah (SWT) Has ordered as an obligatory worship to remember Allah (SWT) as He Said in Quran (And establish Salah to remember Me) (Sura Taha, verse 14). Those who ignore Salah are ignoring Allah's order and disrespecting Him like telling Him: We have no time to talk to you !!!

Salah is like the Oxygen for our hearts and souls and minds and we can never live a peaceful life with out Salah which is the compulsory link between us and our Clreator Allah (SWT).

There are many Quranic verse and hundreds of Hadeeths about Salah which can help guiding Muslims to the crucial importance of Salah.

Wassalam.

Supporting needy relatives is very important and it come before supporting other needy friends or strangers. The Hadeeth states: There is no charity (on people) when your own relative is in need. لا صدقة وذو رحم محتاج.

After being sure that your own relatives are not in need, you can help your needy friends and others.

Wassalam.

Yes, it will be a type of gambling when the loser has to pay the rental or booking expenses of the winner. This is a Haraam (unlawful) in Islam.

Wassalam.

Making a False statement by Qasam or oath or saying Wallah, is a major sin. It is called in the Hadeeth ( Al-Yameen al-Faajirah Al-Ghamoos) (The sinful oath which immerses the liar in the fire).

Seeking forgiveness needs: 1. Giving back the right of any one who was been wronged by this false statements and making him pardon you from his heart.

2. Repenting and feeling sad for what you committed.

3. Firm decision not to do it again.

 4. Seeking forgiveness from Allah (SWT) day and night.

Wassalam.

No friendship can be permissible between non Mahram men and women. Dealing with doctors or teachers or lawyers or government officers etc from other gender is permissible as far as it does not have emotional impact at all, which in fact not a friendship but just work only.

Friendship between non Mahram men and women is not permissible even if you have no emotional intention now. You can not guarantee the intention of the other person neither now nor in the future.

Wassalam.

This is a jurisprudence issue which is dealt with by leading jurisprudence scholars with detailed evidence from Quran and Hadeeth. Simple person who is not an expert can not understand such special jurisprudence matter. He should be advised to refer to the most learned scholars. You can brief him that we are allowed to deal with non Muslims in the same way that they deal with others and take it as justified.

Wassalam.

Islam does organize the family life and the relationship between husband and wife but there no right for the husband to stop his wife from meeting her family or usual friends who don't harm her faith and behaviour. Working of the wife depends on its nature, so if her work does not prevent her husband from his rights as a husband, then it is allowed for her to work, and vice Versa.

Wassalam.

We seek forgiveness for every believer in Allah, the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS). Muslims friends who were born in non Shia families and have high regards for Ahlul Bayt need our prayers to understand the real position of Ahlul Bayt in Islam as the divine leaders after the Prophet (SAWA).

Wassalam.