The emotion, Anger, also known as wrath, is an intense emotional state. It involves a strong uncomfortable and hostile response to a perceived provocation, hurt or threat.A person experiencing anger will often experience physical conditions, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and increased levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as an emotion which triggers part of the fight or flight brain response.
Such words of Talaq have no value nor any effect on your marriage bond. No doubt, it is wrong to say that but as it does not meet the conditions of Talaq, it has no value. Your marriage remains with out any change.
This is a big question - many people have challenges in their personalities or temperaments that are long-term projects to work on. However, here is something that you could consider and see if it has any helpful advice ("Imam Ali and Islamic Anger Management by Shaykh Mohamed Ali Ismail")
(I recall he did a workshop some years ago at an Islamic event on practical tips for anger management but I don't know if it is available online; you could try to find it)
Also if you haven't already, you could look through books such as this: https://www.al-islam.org/jami-al-saadat-collector-felicities-muhammad-mahdi-naraqi
Talaaq has many conditions to be valid. Among the conditions are that
the husband should not be in the state of anger. So the Talaaq which
you mentioned in the state of anger is invalid.
There is another condition in every Talaaq which is that of two pious witnesses hearing
the declaration of Talaaq. Without this condition, no Talaaq is valid.
So the person who was speaking to his wife on phone and told her the
word of ‘Talaaq’, between him and her the Talaaq is invalid because no
two pious men witnessed it.
This person and his wife are still married.
It is very wrong to pray for your own father's death even if he is a very bad person. The supplication against parents can have very bad effect on you.
You must treat him nicely and pray for his Hidayah ( guidance). and forgiveness.
Patience and tolerance. This is the way.
This unfortunate situation is existing in thousands of cases and it causes lot of sufferings but we should never loose the hope.
There are many wise ways to handle it including:
1. Avoiding any behavior or words which can instigate or trigger his anger.
2. Being cool when he is angry to gradually cool him down.
3. Never be angry reacting to his anger. Your anger will make his anger more.
4. Try to politely explain to him the situation as much is he can understand.
5. Do not involve others unless it becomes out of control, then only those who have effect on him.
For more info on the conditions of a valid divorce please visit:
The divorce is not valid because of the anger.
Moreover, according to some jurisprudence (Jafari) these 3 or 4 divorce should be in different times or sessions . In one session it is considered one divorce even if he says "I divorced you 3 times".