Anger

The emotion, Anger, also known as wrath, is an intense emotional state. It involves a strong uncomfortable and hostile response to a perceived provocation, hurt or threat.A person experiencing anger will often experience physical conditions, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and increased levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as an emotion which triggers part of the fight or flight brain response.

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 4 weeks ago

Sorry to hear about your situation.

Allah is not angry with you. You sound like you are sincere and have a good heart, and these are the things that are important. Sometimes these thoughts pop up by themselves, or sometimes they are from shayateen. The best thing to do is just let the thoughts come and go on their own and remember that Allah does not blame us for things that are outside our control. Sometimes when we try not to think something, we end up thinking about it more. Also just do the salat as best as you can. You could also see if praying in a different location (like mosque, workplace, park, friend's house, etc) helps.

If you have some specific reason why you are upset with Allah (for instance, some people are upset when they lose a job, divorce, etc., as they blame Allah), this is something that is good to work through personally and spend some time sitting with Allah and doing dua or contemplating about to make peace about. 

We have lots of ups and downs in our religious life, inshallah you will get through this too. 

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 3 months ago

No - some people remember their dreams better than others or are more open to these things. Also you can't be sure that other people's dreams are actual communication, although sometimes you get an idea one way or the other.

Inshallah she would not have reasons to be angry to you after she has passed on - many things we are angry about in life become unimportant once we are not dealing with the material and social realities of this world. Allah also says in the Qur'an that He will remove bad feelings from people's hearts in jannah.

However if you are concerned that she is angry at you, you could pray that she forgives you.

Sorry to hear about your loss. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 7 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

In Shi'i jurisprudence, divorce has multiple conditions and requirements. 

1. You must specify what type of divorce it is. 

2. She must not be in her menstrual cycle, and you cannot divorce her if you have been intimate with her, which means you must way until she finishes her next cycle. 

3. The divorce must be conducted in front of at least 2 highly-pious men. 

4. The divorce formulate must be recited in correct Arabic, in the correct form.

5. Only 1 divorce can be given, which means a three-fold divorce in one setting is invalid. 

If are angry, suppress your anger and do not allow your anger to overwhelm you. Divorce is not to be done out of anger, and it is not an easy thing to do. When you are angry, observe the Islamic etiquette of what to do, and stay calm. 

If you have not met these conditions, then you are not divorced.

And Allah knows best. 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

Not valid at all.

'Talaq has many conditions to be valid one of them is not be in anger and must be witnessed by two pious men and many other conditions.

'Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

Allah (SWT) is pleased with noble deeds done by His sincere servants, and is unhappy with sinful acts and wrong doers.

We should never think that Allah (SWT) has feelings like our feelings. Our feelings are based on benefit or loss and our thinking while Allah (SWT) is above any benefit or loss. The pleasure of Allah means His blessings on the sincere good doers. His anger is the result of bad deeds. Allah is The Absolute Needless and there is no question of any benefit nor loss or materialistic feelings.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

1. Recite Estighfaar for her e.g. Ya Allah, forgive her. Keep on seeking forgiveness for her as many times as you can.

2. Give Sadaqa and charity on her behalf.

3. Recite Quran and Du'a and Ziyarat on her behalf.

'Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

Such words of Talaq have no value nor any effect on your marriage bond. No doubt, it is wrong to say that but as it does not meet the conditions of Talaq, it has no value. Your marriage remains with out any change.

Wassalam.

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Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 2 years ago

This is a big question - many people have challenges in their personalities or temperaments that are long-term projects to work on. However, here is something that you could consider and see if it has any helpful advice ("Imam Ali and Islamic Anger Management by Shaykh Mohamed Ali Ismail")

(I recall he did a workshop some years ago at an Islamic event on practical tips for anger management but I don't know if it is available online; you could try to find it)

Also if you haven't already, you could look through books such as this: https://www.al-islam.org/jami-al-saadat-collector-felicities-muhammad-mahdi-naraqi
 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

Talaaq has many conditions to be valid. Among the conditions are that
the husband should not be in the state of anger. So the Talaaq which
you mentioned in the state of anger is invalid.

There is another condition in every Talaaq which is that of two pious witnesses hearing
the declaration of Talaaq. Without this condition, no Talaaq is valid.
So the person who was speaking to his wife on phone and told her the
word of ‘Talaaq’, between him and her the Talaaq is invalid because no
two pious men witnessed it.

This person and his wife are still married.

Wassalaam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

It is very wrong to pray for your own father's death even if he is a very bad person. The supplication against parents  can have very bad effect on you.

You must treat him nicely and pray for his Hidayah ( guidance). and forgiveness.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

Patience and tolerance. This is the way.

This unfortunate situation is existing in thousands of cases and it causes lot of sufferings but we should never loose the hope.

There are many wise ways to handle it including:

1. Avoiding any behavior  or words which can instigate or trigger his anger.

2. Being cool when he is angry to gradually cool him down. 

3. Never be angry reacting to his anger. Your anger will make his anger more.

4. Try to politely explain to him the situation as much is he can understand.

5. Do not involve others unless it becomes out of control, then only those who have effect on him.

​​​​​​​Wassalam.

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Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb, Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb has a BA in Law from Guilan University, Iran and has also undertaken Hawzah studies in Qom. He is a Cultural Affairs director of Ethics Group of Al-Mustafa Open... Answered 3 years ago

Salaam
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