as salam alaikum
a wife should obey her husband provided that he would guide her towards the best and according to obedience to Allah. There is no obedience to any creature that implies disobedience to the Creator.
Man has been given a major role in certain aspects of life, naturally and religiously. On the other side, to the woman belongs a leading role in other issues, naturally and religiously. Other roles, may be performed by both. A religious family should aim at achieving happiness in this world and the Hereafter. Members should help each other and sacrifice themselves for the sake of Allah.
Generally speaking, consultation should always be taken in consideration if possible, keeping in mind that the main focus is to please Allah and not to hurt each other.
With prayers for your success.
You should always respect your parents and avoid making them feel insulted. No doubt, every man is free to decide where to study and where to work, but never cause insult or pain to your parents. Either you convince your father in a very polite way and get his real satisfaction, or obey his order. It might be difficult sometimes, especially when you think that your benefit is away from the choice of your parents, but be sure that Allah (SW) will grant you more success if you obey your parents.
Remember the promise to the Pious : (And whosoever fears Allah, Allah will get him a way from every difficulty and will grant him from unexpected source) Sura 65, Verse 2 and 3.
ومن يتق الله يجعل له مخرجا ويرزقه من حيث لا يحتسب ومن يتوكل على الله فهو حسبه
It is compulsory to do good to our parents and to deal with them in
the best possible way and to obey them when they order in any matter
which is in accordance with the rules of Allah (SWT) and not
A virgin girl requires the permission or the approval of the father or
her paternal grandfather for marriage.
Schooling, education, business etc. does not require the permission of
the parents but we should always keep in mind the maintaining of their
respect and happiness.