Wife

A wife is a female partner in a continuing marital relationship.
The term continues to be applied to a woman who has separated from her partner, and ceases to be applied to such a woman only when her marriage has come to an end, following a legally recognized divorce or the death of her spouse. On the death of her partner, a wife is referred to as a widow, but not after she is divorced from her partner.

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Wife . Sexual . Childbirth . Marriage

I have remained refrained from intercourse with my wife for 7 months, as she had given birth to my child and after the pregnancy she was not ready for it. Can I go for intercourse with her or do I have to renew my Nikah?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 anni fa

No question of renewing your Nikah. Your Nikah remains valid no matter how long you don't have intercourse with your wife, even if you are separated for years.

'Nothing in Islam suggests that you should refrain from sexual intercourse with your wife during her pregnancy. Even after child birth, you are allowed sexual intercourse immediately after the post natal bleeding which is ten days or less. Unless your wife is not well.

Wassalam.

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Man . Wife . Woman . Husband . Marriage

Is it allowed for a man to marry a second wife without the permission of the first one? If yes, can a woman and her husband agreed as a condition before marriage that the husband will not marry another woman? Will that be a valid condition?

If the woman puts a condition on the marriage contract that her husband should not have another wife during he is married to her, and the husband agrees on such condition, then it becomes binding on the husband to fulfill this condition which is part of the marriage contract.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Wife . Narrations . Gender . Polygamy . Akhlaq

In what specific matters does a husband need to maintain equality if he has more than one wife? What do the narrations say regarding a person who does not treat his two wives in the same manner?

Husband must maintain practical justice between his wives. Practical justice is in treating them and spending time with each of them equally like he spends time with his other wives. It also requires spending on each of them equally.
Wassalam.

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Wife . Mother

My wife does not like me visiting and spending time with my mother. I currently ignore my wife and still visit my mother. Am I being unfair or is it unfair for her to complain that I spend too much time with my mother?

Visiting your mother and being very nice to her and to your father is your responsibility as a good human being beside your Islamic duty as Muslim. You need also to give your wife her rights and never ignore your responsibility towards her. Keeping the balance is always required between different responsibilities. As far as you don't do injustice to your wife's rights, you must always look after your parents in every possible way and spend with whatever they need from you.

Wassalam.

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Wife . Husband . Ghusl . Sexual

Is a wife allowed to have oral sex with her husband? If so, is it allowed for her husband to ejaculate in her mouth? And if that happens, does the wife also have to perform Ghusl?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 anni fa

Bismihi ta'ala

Islam encourages healthy sexual relations between husband and wife, and to cater for each other's sexual needs and lusts, as long as they are within the shar'i and moral boundaries.

It is highly mustahab to address their sexual needs. For example, foreplay is highly recomended, where first it is recommended to engage in mudāʿabah, which means verbal foreplay, then mulāʿabah, physical foreplay, and then mujāmaʿah, which is having sex.
Oral sex is a part of mulāʿabah, and there is no problem with that as well. In regards to semen, in Shi'i fiqh, it is considered najis, and therefore, should the husband ejaculate in wife's mouth, she must not swallow any of it, and must wash her mouth.

Also, the wife does not need to perform ghusl in this instance.

Of course, there are certain sexual practices in today's Western society that are inhumane, immoral, degrading and humiliating, but happily accepted by some. As Muslims, we we must not imitate whatever is out there, or what is in pornography, etc.

As much as our religion encourages intimacy and sex within marriage, we also have a duty to dignify our spouse and never make her feel uncomfortable.

And Allah knows best.

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Lie . Wife . Sin . Repentance (Tawbah)

Is it permissible to lie to my wife, when she asks about my past sins that I have repented for, in order to prevent her from getting hurt?

Bismihi ta'ala

It is wrong for your wife to pry into your past sins, and if it has nothing to do with your current life or has no involvement with your marriage, it is haram for you to disclose it to others. We are not allowed to expose our previous sins to others, or confess to anyone about the past, especially if we have repented.

She should refrain from asking you about it, and you do not need to lie. You just refuse to give any information about it.

With prayers for your success

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Marriage . Wife

Does staying 4 years apart nullify marriage? I never intended to but my wife refused to come back and now argues our marriage is invalid because we lived apart for too long. Is this really the case?

Bismihi ta'ala

No, being separated for numerous years does not nullify the marriage, so in your case you are still considered husband and wife, until the Islamic divorce is conducted.

And Allah knows best.

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Wife . Parents . Divorce

Is it allowed for the wife's parents to ask for divorce without any Islamic reason? What can I do to convince them otherwise?

Wife's parents have no right to ask for divorce of their daughter with out real Islamic reason. You and your wife should co-operate to convince them not to break your family or you can seek help from respected persons known to them to speak to them,

Main thing is to sort things between you and your wife between you and her with out interference from any one else.

Wassalam,

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Man . Divorce . Wife

Is it permissible for a man to divorce his wife based on the reason that he has no intention of loving her and keeping her happy?

Divorce is the most disliked permissible act in Islam. It should be avoided as much as possible that is why Islam has kept many conditions for a valid Talaq which are not so easy.

Divorce should not be declared by the husband with out a proven fault or confirmed failure from the wife where she is unable or not willing to repair.

Divorce should not be a weapon against innocent wife, otherwise it can be an act of injustice against her.

Wassalam.

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Mother . Wife . Love . Domestic violence

My mother is verbally abusive to my wife. My wife is a good mother and wife and I love her. But my mother absolutely hates her. What is my duty to both of them?

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 3 anni fa

It is unacceptable for a mother-in-law to be verbally abusive to her daughter-in-law. Verbal abuse, jealousy and hatred to that extent can be part of a personality disorder. I can recommend researching in detail the characteristics of the malignant, narcissistic woman and mother. In insulting someone you love, she is also abusing you. Mothers with a narcissistic personality disorder (as opposed to just being self-centred) are competitive in terms of who their child loves most.

How your children see you behave with your mother and wife will affect their own marriages down the line. Can you ask your mother not to verbally abuse your wife? If you feel you can't, that is revealing something about how your mother has trained you to relate to her, i.e. to remain passive and take the abuse; to not have enough self-worth to even politely ask her not to be verbally abusive.

Your duty is to love and protect your wife. You are the head of your household. You also have to protect the well being of your children. If they see their mother being abused their well being will be affected too.

According to Ayatollah Dastghayb-Shirazi, you are entitled to minimise or even cut ties with family members whose bad behaviour you can't reform, or whose bad behaviour gets worse by your presence, or whose bad behaviour you indirectly condone by co-operating with them. Being good to your parents does not mean condoning behaviour that could destroy your family.

https://www.al-islam.org/greater-sins-volume-1-sayyid-abdul-husayn-dastg...

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Man . Wife . Family . Marriage

Can a man marry again secretly without telling his first wife or family?

Bismihi ta'ala

If a man was to conduct a secret marriage with another Muslim woman without telling his wife, that nikah he did is considered valid, although it is not advisable in any way, for the many ramifications it will have.

A spousal relationship is based on trust, transparency, commitment and loyalty.

With prayers for your success.

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Wife . Marriage . Western Society . Polygamy

Is it ok to secretly marry a second wife if the laws of the country, like in many countries in the West, does not allow marrying more than one wife at a time?

We are not dealing here with legal matters nor giving any legal advice. We are dealing with Islamic matters and reflecting the rulings of the leading scholars ( Maraaji' of Taqleed). Muslim should not break the law of the country where he lives unless it contradicts with his faith and religion.
Main matter in second marriage is fulfilling the Islamic conditions of practical justice between wives. If this condition is not fulfilled, second marriage will be not permissible in Islam.

If your question is a legal question, you should ask your legal adviser.

Wassalam.

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