Divorce, also known as dissolution of marriage, is the process of terminating a marriage or marital union. Divorce usually entails the canceling or reorganizing of the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage, thus dissolving the bonds of matrimony between a married couple under the rule of law of the particular country or state. Divorce laws vary considerably around the world, but in most countries divorce requires the sanction of a court or other authority in a legal process, which may involve issues of distribution of property, child custody, alimony (spousal support), child visitation / access, parenting time, child support, and division of debt.
1, Try to avoid any act or talk which instigates her anxiety or annoys her. You are her husband and supposed to be the closest human being to her so you should try your best to make her feel happy as much as you can.
2. If she has close persons like her mother, sisters, friend etc who might be able to talk to her to leave the idea of divorce, it should good to request them to do that.
3. If she feels that she needs counseling, try to help arranging good and constructive counseling to make her leave the idea of divorce by explains to her the negative side of divorce.
4. Recite Quranic supplications like RABBANA HABLANA MIN AZWAAJINA WA THURRUYATINA QURRATA A'YUN.
5. Repeat seeking help from Allah by praying :YA GHAFOURU YA WADOUD as many times as you want.
This topic has been addressed before, but very briefly, triple divorce means a husband uttering the divorce word ṭāliq three times, and the wife be irrevocably divorced.
The issue here is that in Islam, if a husband divorces a wife once, he can get back with her, and if it's a revocable (raj'i) divorce, he can do so during her 'iddah period. They can also get back together and remarry if divorce happens a second time, or after the 'iddah period.
However, on a third time, the husband cannot marry her again until she marries another man, and they consummates that marriage. Should the previous husband want her, she would then have to divorce this husband, observe 'iddah, and then remarry the previous husband.
This can be done only 3 times,which means on the ninth time, they can never marry again.
In some cultures, there are men who are employed to marry the divorced woman, consumate the marriage, and then divorce her so she can go back to her previous husband. They are called a muhallil (one who makes lawful".
In Shi'ah fiqh, this is all invalid and completely rejected.
In some Sunni circles, a triple divorce is invalid, and some are trying to reform this law.
In Shi'ah fiqh, there is no such thing as a triple divorce, and it will only be a single divorce, and that will only occur if all the conditions are met, and they are:
1. Wife is to have gone through a menstrual cycle, and not have been intimate with husband since ending of cycle. This means that husband must wait until wife has a menstrual cycle, finishes from it, and then he can divorce. Husband cannot divorce wife if she is in purity and he has been intimate with her.
2. It is done in front of a minimum of two just, righteous, pious, God-revering men.
3. The formula of the wording be done in formal Arabic, with correct pronunciation.
4. This is done willingly, by choice, and not forced or without intention.
Should these conditions be observed, the divorce with occur, but only once.
And Allah knows best.
Imam Ali (AS) has removed the deviations which were created by the previous three rulers of Saqeefah as he clearly declared that they have deliberately changed the Sunnah of the Prophet (SAWA). He removed the discrimination between Arabs againt non Arab Muslims and between Quraish tribe against other tribes etc.
Imam Ali (AS) suffered a lot from the hypocrites and Quraish tribe who were against him and against his reforms. They took the name of Umar as a slogan against Imam Ali (AS). They asked him in the month of Ramadan to appoint for them a person to lead Taraweeh. He clearly said that it is a Bid'ah away from the Sunnah of the Prophet. They insisted and gathered in the Masjid of Kufa. He sent his son Imam Al-Hasan (AS) to stop them from Taraweeh, but they shouted loudly ( WA SUNNATA UMARAAH)(Where is the Sunnah of Umar?). It reached to a critical point of civil disorder among Muslim society. Imam Ali (AS) had no choice but to leave them to do what they want to save the Muslims from turmoil. You can find details in Sunni books like Sharh Al-Nahj by Ibn Abi Al-Hadeed , V. 12, P. 283 and Tareekh Al-Tabari V.4, From page 281 onward.
Shia books like Wasaa'il Al-Shia , V.5 P. 193 has also mentioned some details of this matter.
A non-virgin woman who is divorced doesn't need a wali's permission to marry again but may do so out of respect.
May Allah grant you success
Wife's parents have no right to ask for divorce of their daughter with out real Islamic reason. You and your wife should co-operate to convince them not to break your family or you can seek help from respected persons known to them to speak to them,
Main thing is to sort things between you and your wife between you and her with out interference from any one else.
Divorce is the most disliked permissible act in Islam. It should be avoided as much as possible that is why Islam has kept many conditions for a valid Talaq which are not so easy.
Divorce should not be declared by the husband with out a proven fault or confirmed failure from the wife where she is unable or not willing to repair.
Divorce should not be a weapon against innocent wife, otherwise it can be an act of injustice against her.
Divorce is not the way in such cases but to try to explain to him the facts which you discovered about the Real Islam, so that he may realize as well. If he refuses the evidence and insists on that, you can continue with him as far as he does not obstacle or disturb your religious freedom or practice.
I advise you to keep on explaining and giving him useful information which can help him to know what he does not.
If your husband pursues extra-marital affairs, either in the halal way (mut'ah or seeking a second wife), then you have the choice of either staying with him, or getting divorced from him.
Of course, such issues must be directly addressed, and his and your family be involved as well.
Your husband might be going through a phase, and needs a wakeup call for him to return back and focus on his marriage. If so, forgive him, and try to strengthen the relationship.
However, if after intervention he still pursues the new relationship, then you decide what you wish to do. To divorce him, or continue to live with him. Just know that you are not obliged to live under such circumstances.
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If the marriage between your father and her was consummated, she became your step mother and a Mahram for life even if she is divorced later on from your father.
If that really was the case, and you are a Shi'i Muslim, then the divorce is invalid and has no effect.
There are numerous conditions for an Islamic divorce to occur, and from what you have said, none of them have been met. Therefore, she is still your wife.
You do need to deal with your alcoholism. As a Muslim, you know of its severity and how spiritually, morally and socially damaging drinking is.
With prayers for your success.
In Shi'i jurisprudence, divorce has multiple conditions and requirements.
1. You must specify what type of divorce it is.
2. She must not be in her menstrual cycle, and you cannot divorce her if you have been intimate with her, which means you must way until she finishes her next cycle.
3. The divorce must be conducted in front of at least 2 highly-pious men.
4. The divorce formulate must be recited in correct Arabic, in the correct form.
5. Only 1 divorce can be given, which means a three-fold divorce in one setting is invalid.
If are angry, suppress your anger and do not allow your anger to overwhelm you. Divorce is not to be done out of anger, and it is not an easy thing to do. When you are angry, observe the Islamic etiquette of what to do, and stay calm.
If you have not met these conditions, then you are not divorced.
And Allah knows best.
In regard to your husband, have you noticed that there is any particular reason why he has become non practicing? Is there any way you could possibly influence him or take him to someone that can?
Divorce should be a last resort and as long as he says that he is still Muslim, your marriage would be valid. Also there is no sin upon you for the sins of your spouse. If however you exhaust all avenues and you find that such a marriage is lowering your faith as well, then you need to reevaluate whether this will be best for you in the long term.
At the same time remember, one’s faith can go up and down so try to remain patient as this could be a test. Try to help you husband regain his faith and make constant dua for him.
May Allah grant you success