Husband

A husband is a male in a marital relationship. The rights and obligations of a husband regarding his spouse and others, and his status in the community and in law, vary between cultures and have varied over time.

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Wife . Husband . Man . Polygamy . Jealousy

Why are men allowed to feel jealous over their wives, while a wife cannot feel jealous over her husband?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 settimane fa

I was hoping that one of sisters will answer this question but as did not see any reply I am answering briefly:

Jealousy of the wife over her husband can be against the rule of Allah Who allowed the man under certain conditions to have another wife. Jealousy against a rule from Allah is direct or indirect objection on Allah's rule, that is why it is bad.
Jealousy of man over his wife is against any relation between his wife and any other man, which is always a sinful act because she is a married woman and never allowed any act or word which can initiate a relation with another man. Husband's jealousy over his wife (without false allegations) is good to protect her and the whole family from a sinful act. You can then compare between a jealousy going against Allah;s rule and a Jealousy to protect the wife and the family from a sinful act.

'Wassalam.

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Man . Wife . Woman . Husband . Marriage

Is it allowed for a man to marry a second wife without the permission of the first one? If yes, can a woman and her husband agreed as a condition before marriage that the husband will not marry another woman? Will that be a valid condition?

If the woman puts a condition on the marriage contract that her husband should not have another wife during he is married to her, and the husband agrees on such condition, then it becomes binding on the husband to fulfill this condition which is part of the marriage contract.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Wife . Narrations . Gender . Polygamy . Akhlaq

In what specific matters does a husband need to maintain equality if he has more than one wife? What do the narrations say regarding a person who does not treat his two wives in the same manner?

Husband must maintain practical justice between his wives. Practical justice is in treating them and spending time with each of them equally like he spends time with his other wives. It also requires spending on each of them equally.
Wassalam.

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Husband . Sexual . Marriage

I have been married for a year and my husband admits that he does not have much interest in intercourse and that he does not feel any kind of sexual attraction towards me. What should I do in this situation?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 2 mesi fa

This happens sometimes.

It is your decision whether to stay in the marriage, or pursue separation.

Some factors to take into consideration are:
* whether or not you hope to bear children
* how important physical intimacy is to you (it is important to most people, but some people choose to remain in a marriage without physical intimacy)
* whether you fear you might fall into sin in this type of situation
* whether the marriage is working out in other ways (such as emotionally or practically - with emotional considerations such as, do you love each other, are you dedicated to each other, do you feel bonded with each other, do you feel like a family, do you have future plans for yourselves as a family that you are both working towards, etc.)

Often in these cases, where there is an absence of attraction from one side from the beginning, the underlying relationship in the marriage fails to develop and the relationship breaks down (whether that results in actual divorce, or just living like roommates - usually with a fair degree of tension - or just a marriage on paper).

This is unless there was a prior agreement to have a marriage with little or no physical intimacy and they have other reasons why they want to be together and the marraige works for them.

Maybe your husband might also have a sense of what should be done - it is ideal when it is joint decision.

Sorry to hear about your challenging situation and wishing you the best.

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Wife . Husband . Ghusl . Sexual

Is a wife allowed to have oral sex with her husband? If so, is it allowed for her husband to ejaculate in her mouth? And if that happens, does the wife also have to perform Ghusl?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 mesi fa

Bismihi ta'ala

Islam encourages healthy sexual relations between husband and wife, and to cater for each other's sexual needs and lusts, as long as they are within the shar'i and moral boundaries.

It is highly mustahab to address their sexual needs. For example, foreplay is highly recomended, where first it is recommended to engage in mudāʿabah, which means verbal foreplay, then mulāʿabah, physical foreplay, and then mujāmaʿah, which is having sex.
Oral sex is a part of mulāʿabah, and there is no problem with that as well. In regards to semen, in Shi'i fiqh, it is considered najis, and therefore, should the husband ejaculate in wife's mouth, she must not swallow any of it, and must wash her mouth.

Also, the wife does not need to perform ghusl in this instance.

Of course, there are certain sexual practices in today's Western society that are inhumane, immoral, degrading and humiliating, but happily accepted by some. As Muslims, we we must not imitate whatever is out there, or what is in pornography, etc.

As much as our religion encourages intimacy and sex within marriage, we also have a duty to dignify our spouse and never make her feel uncomfortable.

And Allah knows best.

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Husband . Salah (Prayers)

My husband does the prayers but delays his prayers for insignificant things like watching TV. And he does not like me reminding him saying that he would pray even if I don't ask him. What can I do to convince him about doing prayers without delay?

As he performs his obligatory Prayers in any case even if you don't remind him, and feels annoyed when you remind him about not to delay it, you should avoid annoying him. You may gently mention to him what the Prophet and Ahlul Bayt (AS) said about the great reward of praying on time, but avoid making him feel insulted.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Mother . Son . Marriage

My husband would like his mother to live with us as she is single and lives alone and he is the eldest son. Can he impose that decision or do I have the right to refuse if I fear that her living with us will cause problems in our marriage?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 4 mesi fa

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

It isn't wajib for one's parents to live with them. Yes, one can live with the in-laws however in many cases it has caused issues in marriages. It is your right upon your husband to have a comfortable home and your own privacy. Yes, he can perhaps get his mother to move closer if he wants to have a good relationship with her but it wouldn't be recommend for her to move in if this would cause you discomfort. This should be voiced to your husband that it isn't obliged for you to accept this if it may cause issues.

May Allah grant you success

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Husband . Stepfather . Mahram . Daughter

My husband’s father passed away but his mom remarried when my husband was just a toddler. Would his stepfather be Mahram to my future daughters?

Your husband's step father is non Mahram to you and to your future daughters as well, simply because he is not the biological father of your husband.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Slavery . Sexual

My husband wants to do my slavery. He wants me to whip him and torture him. And he is doing this willingly. Is it allowed in Islam for my husband to seek this treatment?

This is unusual for a person to ask to be whipped or tortured. I think he should see a doctor.

You should not whip nor torture your husband at all but help him to be treated properly to be a mentally healthy man.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Divorce . Sunni-Shi'a

Should a woman get divorced from her Sunni husband when she comes to know after her marriage that the Shia sect is the right one to follow?

Divorce is not the way in such cases but to try to explain to him the facts which you discovered about the Real Islam, so that he may realize as well. If he refuses the evidence and insists on that, you can continue with him as far as he does not obstacle or disturb your religious freedom or practice.

I advise you to keep on explaining and giving him useful information which can help him to know what he does not.

Wassalam.

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Husband

Is it permissible for your husband to force you to do something, which you don't want to do, and starts avoiding you completely till you don't agree to do it?

It is not permissible for the husband to ask his wife to do any Haraam act like serving alcohol or coming out with out full Hijab or cutting ties with her family etc. It will be Haraam on the wife to obey her husband in any sinful act he wants her to do.
If the husband asks his wife to do something related to his matrimonial right as a husband on her as his wife, it will be obligatory on her to fulfill his need as far as she is not in her menstruation or post natal period and does not have a health problem which prevents her to do that.

The way to fulfill his needs from his wife should not be unusual which can not be tolerated by her.

Wassalam.

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Magic . Husband

I had asked help from a black magic person to make my husband faithful because he had cheated on me. I now regret it and want to get rid of what I have done to myself and my husband. What should I do?

If there are physical items involved (talismans, or that sort of thing) in your home, you can destroy them.

However, in general, unlike with Amazon, there are no returns in the department of the unseen - it is easier to do than to undo.

If whatever the person did had some effect, and wasn't just fakery, sometimes you can just wait it out as these things can wear down over time.

If you or he are suffering ill effects (for instance, he is not thinking clearly, it has backfired and caused conflict because he is now hyper-dependent, or you have a haunted house now), you could go to someone who is honest, trustworthy, and capable who does ruqya or who can advise you on how to do it on yourselves to help remove the ill effects.

However, that might be awkward to explain to your husband and cause more problems - most people are enraged if they find out someone attempted to do magic on them.

If it is just regret, but you don't have any reason to think there is anything actually harming either of you, it may be better to leave the situation as it is and to focus on building a positive home life and also looking after both of your material and spiritual well-being (religion, health, etc).

In general, regular recitation of Qur'an, regular salat, and playing Qur'an in the background in the home can help to calm down unwanted bad effects and bolster people against the effects of black magic. Of course, praying to Allah for assistance is good.

Sometimes in life we make decisions we regret.

Also sorry to hear about the cheating.

Infidelity and sorcery are signs that a marriage is not at its healthiest. If there are some other underlying difficulties in the marriage, unrelated to those two issues, maybe you could look into some kind of marriage therapy or counseling.