Marriage

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognised union between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between those spouses, as well as between them and any resulting biological or adopted children and affinity (in-laws and other family through marriage). The definition of marriage varies around the world not only between cultures and between religions, but also throughout the history of any given culture and religion, evolving to both expand and constrict in who and what is encompassed, but typically it is principally an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually sexual, are acknowledged or sanctioned. In some cultures, marriage is recommended or considered to be compulsory before pursuing any sexual activity.

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Sadaqa (Charity) . Sexual . Marriage . Pregnancy

What exactly is Qamar dar Aqrab and how is it determined? Is there a negative implication for the child if conception occurs during that time? Can it be averted by giving Sadaqa if one has marital relationship that night with intention of conception?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 3 giorni fa

Qamar dar Aqrab refers to the moon being in the zodiacal sign of Scorpio which happens 2-3 days per month (in that the moon circulates through all the zodiacal signs in one lunar month) and can be determined via astronomical software or eyeballs.

Historically, in a number of cultures, this has been considered an unfavourable time, which is probably why it appears in our heritage. There are some narrations on not marrying or starting a journey at this time, but they are not considered strong.

Some people choose to avoid scheduling marriages at this time, and that is fine. It is also fine not to pay attention to it at all. People vary in their belief in these things.

However, it is good not to get too caught up in these things, e.g. if someone gets married at this time, it doesn't mean that it will be a disaster. Sometimes if we feel that something has a bad "omen", it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because then we subconsciously do things to make it go badly, and that isn't healthy at all!

If something happens by accident (for instance, conception), there is no need to worry. Allah knows best what He creates and when, and He has his wisdom for it, especially when it comes to bringing life into this world, which is in His hands.

Of course, it doesn't hurt to give sadaqa a few times if you are concerned, but it isn't necessary. Don't overburden yourself with it by making it a requirement!

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Man . Woman . Divorce . Marriage

If a married man and a married woman start to like each other, is it permissible for them to divorce their current spouses and marry each other?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 settimana fa

Married man and married woman are not allowed to do any thing or speak any word which can initiate an intimate feeling between them. Divorce is the most disliked allowed act by Allah. Married woman must protect herself from anything which can lead her to Haraam. Married man must also be careful that anything or word with a married woman is very dangerous and can lead to hellfire.

Wassalam.

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Marriage . Catholic . Christianity

Is it permissible to attend the marriage of a friend in a Catholic Church according to Islamic teachings? Can you provide a source for this?

If the function is just a social function with out religious acts, then you can attend marriage function of non Muslim, but if the function is a religious function,then Muslim is not permitted to attend any non Islamic religious function.

Wassalam.

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Houris . Marriage . Paradise

Do Houris in Jannah marry us without knowing us, without having the right to choose their husband, and like programmed robots? Is it possible to not marry in Jannah and be alone, or is marriage mandatory for everyone?

Houris will fully know the persons with whom they will get married. They will be according to the best wishes of the person they will get married to. The marriage will provide the best of mental and physical happiness of the believer.

Paradise is full of whatever the believer wishes and nothing will be imposed on them. Allah Says in Quran (And (Paradise) has whatever they wish).

Wassalam.

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Islam . Marriage . Lust

Does Islam have any guidance on how long in a marriage Muslim couples should stay sexually active with each other?

Sexual activity between husband and wife should continue as long as they are healthy and able. If the wife is young, then her husband must sleep with her at least once every four months.

‘Even if they are aged, they should enjoy themselves as husband and wife in the way which they prefer. Wife is not allowed to refuse to be sexually with her husband as far as she is able. Husband is also required to sexually treat his wife as much as he can.

Wassalam.

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Marriage . Istikhara . Qur'an

In the context of a marriage decision, a 'Faal' from the Quran was positive, but an Istikhara done later later yielded a negative result. What should one do?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 mese fa

Bismihi ta'ala

In the context of marriage, istikharah should only occur if someone is two-minded about two different proposals at once, both being equal.

For marriage, you should do a background check on the person, research about them, look at compatibility, try to understand who they are, their family especially, and then consult with well-informed or experienced people.

How actually religious are they? How is their akhlaq and what are their moral standards? These are the two primary questions you must have an answer to as well.

It's only after this that you evaluate the situation, and see whether or not you are still confused and two-minded, in which case you can do istikharah.

Faal is different to istikharah. Faal is trying to find out what will happen, whereas istikhara is is about whether you should go ahead or not.

In any case, these stages should be pursued, and if you are convinced, and done all your required work, you do not need to resort to istikharah.

And Allah knows best

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Wife . Sexual . Childbirth . Marriage

I have remained refrained from intercourse with my wife for 7 months, as she had given birth to my child and after the pregnancy she was not ready for it. Can I go for intercourse with her or do I have to renew my Nikah?

No question of renewing your Nikah. Your Nikah remains valid no matter how long you don't have intercourse with your wife, even if you are separated for years.

'Nothing in Islam suggests that you should refrain from sexual intercourse with your wife during her pregnancy. Even after child birth, you are allowed sexual intercourse immediately after the post natal bleeding which is ten days or less. Unless your wife is not well.

Wassalam.

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Girl . Marriage

Can a girl marry without a Wali? If a Wali is being a hurdle in her marriage what should be done in this situation? Who can perform this task?

Bismihi ta'ala

A female must have consent of her shar'i guardian (her father / her paternal grandfather) for her to get married.

The exemption for this is if she is a divorcee, widow, (in other words not a virgin), or is completely independent in all her decisions (rashidah).

This is the shar'i ruling, and of course, we must look at the social factors for marriage, within our Islamic teachings, that marriage is not just an individual decision, but also crucial to involve those around you.

Yes, should the shar'i guardian refuse in every way to grant consent, the girl can refer to her Marja' taqleed or an Islamic judge to solve her issue.

And Allah knows best.

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Man . Wife . Woman . Husband . Marriage

Is it allowed for a man to marry a second wife without the permission of the first one? If yes, can a woman and her husband agreed as a condition before marriage that the husband will not marry another woman? Will that be a valid condition?

If the woman puts a condition on the marriage contract that her husband should not have another wife during he is married to her, and the husband agrees on such condition, then it becomes binding on the husband to fulfill this condition which is part of the marriage contract.

Wassalam.

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Islam . Girl . Marriage

Is it compulsory in Islam for a Muslim girl to get married?

Marriage is optional.

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Parents . Father . Daughter . Marriage

If parents get separated and the father clearly says that he does not want to be a part of his daughter’s marriage, is his permission still required for the daughter to marry someone?

Such statement can be because of anger and he might repent later. He should be asked again when his daughter is about to get married. If he says then that he is not concerned, then his father ( her paternal grand father) should be asked. If he is not alive or not available, then she can decide her marriage by herself.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Sexual . Marriage

I have been married for a year and my husband admits that he does not have much interest in intercourse and that he does not feel any kind of sexual attraction towards me. What should I do in this situation?

This happens sometimes.

It is your decision whether to stay in the marriage, or pursue separation.

Some factors to take into consideration are:
* whether or not you hope to bear children
* how important physical intimacy is to you (it is important to most people, but some people choose to remain in a marriage without physical intimacy)
* whether you fear you might fall into sin in this type of situation
* whether the marriage is working out in other ways (such as emotionally or practically - with emotional considerations such as, do you love each other, are you dedicated to each other, do you feel bonded with each other, do you feel like a family, do you have future plans for yourselves as a family that you are both working towards, etc.)

Often in these cases, where there is an absence of attraction from one side from the beginning, the underlying relationship in the marriage fails to develop and the relationship breaks down (whether that results in actual divorce, or just living like roommates - usually with a fair degree of tension - or just a marriage on paper).

This is unless there was a prior agreement to have a marriage with little or no physical intimacy and they have other reasons why they want to be together and the marraige works for them.

Maybe your husband might also have a sense of what should be done - it is ideal when it is joint decision.

Sorry to hear about your challenging situation and wishing you the best.