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My mother and I currently reside in a European country with access to Halal food. However, my father wishes us to move to a less favorable country for the sake of family unity. Considering that my mother can provide better for me, what should I decide?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 anni fa

You should avoid hurting or disrespecting any of your parents. Even you have no way but to chose one option of your parents different options, you must keep their respect and nice to both of them in every possible way.

‘Wassalam.

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Parents . Cousin . Milk . Sister . Family . Mother

Is it permissible for my parents to be considered as my maternal cousin's own parents, given that she is my milk sister and is living with us as a family member due to her mother's passing?

Milk daughter is not allowed to marry with her milk father nor her milk brother, but she does not have a share in inheritance like a real daughter unless by a will and within the limit of the one third. As she is living with your family due to her mothers passing away, you and all your family members should give her all moral support and look after her in every possible way.
Wassalam.

151944

Mother . Knowledge . Islam . Sawm (Fasting)

I have missed fasts due to school and my mother's influence, who sometimes lacks knowledge about Islam and sometimes doesn't act according to it encouraging me not to fast. What should I do in such situations?

You must keep Qadha Fast for every fast which you missed. If you deliberately broke or missed a fast, then you need to feed sixty poor believers for every missed day.

Wassalam.

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Mother . Father . Money . Gold . Loan

Is it permissible for my mother to take funds from my father, using money he has earned illegally, who wants to return the value of some gold he had borrowed earlier from her?

Using Unlawful money is not allowed at all. It must be returned to the real owners.

Wassalam.

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Responsibility . Mother . Brother . Children

Is it my responsibility to live near my mother, even though she and my brother dislike my religion and pressure me to abandon it, despite the fact that I have two children and it would require moving to a non-Islamic country?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 2 anni fa

It sounds like there are a lot of factors to take into consideration (including what country you want to raise your children in and their educational opportunities in each place).

I can understand not wanting yourself or your children to be around negativity towards your religion, especially if they are living in a country where Muslims are the minority, and it is already difficult to be a practising Muslim/raise children as practising Muslims. From that angle, since you would not be receiving religious support from your family, it is good to consider whether there is a supportive, healthy, and welcoming Muslim community there to offer support for yourself and your children, especially in teaching children about Islam in a positive and appealing manner.

Probably there are pros and cons to staying where you are, or moving. There may be some hidden blessings to moving there but also some challenges. So it is good to consider all aspects (financial, religious, educational, social, emotional, etc) and make the best decision.

Possibly this may be situational, for instance, if your mother is at an old age and if you are concerned that she will pass away while you are not present and you would regret that, that might be a factor.

There is probably no rush to make a decision and sometimes when we give something time, Allah decides for us by changing the circumstances of our life to go one direction or the other. When unsure, it is good to pray for guidance, as it often comes clearly.

In any case, silat al-rahm can be done regardless of where you live and does not require living nearby especially these days when travel and communications are much easier.

Responsibility . Mother . Brother . Children

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 anni fa

Bismihi ta'ala

It is your wajib duty to obey your mother, as long as she is not encouraging or forcing you to commit sin. She wanting you to live near her could mean she is still caring for you and loves you. It is just a matter of accommodating to her, compromising where you can, controlling your emotions, and also creating boundaries.

With all the sacrifices you make for your mother, Allah ta'ala will certainly compensate in the best of ways.

And Allah knows best.

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Peace . Mother . Son . Happiness

What steps can I take to protect my mental well-being and find peace when my mother's disapproval and negativity have consistently made me feel unworthy and like a bad son, despite my persistent efforts to gain her approval and happiness?

You must tolerate and tolerate and keep on tolerating everything from you mother or father even if you feel that it is injustice done to you or others. You way we can annoy the feelings of our parents even if they are very bad persons like Kafirs as we read in Quran how we must deal nicely with Kafir parents (If your parents strive with you to worship with Me others, that of which you have no knowledge, then Do not obey them, but behave nicely with them in this world. ( Sura Luqman, verse 15).

Tolerate ill treatment from your mother or father for the sake of Allah and keep on seeking help from Allah to be a good son. Also pray to Allah to soften your mother's heart towards you and forgive her shortcomings.Quranic supplication says ( RABBANA EGGFIR LI WA LIWAAKIDAYYA WA LIL MO'MINEEN YAWMA YAQOOMUL HISAAB)(Sura Ebraheem, verse 41).

Wassalam.

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Mother . Inheritance . Father . Miscarriage

Can a mother whose child has been miscarried receive inheritance from the father?

Wife's right in inheritance from her husband is definite whether she miscarried or not.

'Her share is one quarter of his wealth if he has no children from her or other wife, or one eighth if he has any child from her or any other wife.

Wassalam.

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Milk . Mother . Prophet Muhammad

Is there any account of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) being fed milk by a woman who was not his biological mother?

Yes, it is related that the Prophet (S) was put under the care of Halimah bint Harith al-Sa'diyyah, who fed him and looked after him in his early years, and that this was a common custom of the Arabs at the time.

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Mother . Islam . Grandparents . Sayyid

If my grandfather was a Sayed and my mother is an Alweeya, what would be my title in Islam?

If your father is a Sayyed, you will be a Sayyed as well. Your mother alone with out your father will not make you a Sayyed.

Wassalam.

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Mother . Anger . Forgiveness

What can I do to prevent Allah (SWT) from punishing me for my mother's anger when I remain silent instead of responding to her shaming and ridiculing behavior, which leads her to hold a grudge for days and makes it difficult for me to apologize to her?

First of all, you should never think that you should deal with your mother or father like dealing with others. Parents are above all others and you should always deal with them as your masters after Allah and Ahlul Bayt, and never think them equal to you or similar.. When your parent get angry at you, you must apologize immediately in the way which makes them pleased with you. Never think apologizing to your parents an insult but it is in fact an honor. The Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS) guided the believers to Beal with their parents like a slave dealing with his masters. Such humbleness with parents grants you a status in this life and Hereafter. If you read the supplication for the parents in the Sahiba Sajjadia,bayou will see how we need to deal with our parents mistakes by complete submission and tolerance.

‘You must try your best to make your parents happy with you as they are your origin and the cause of your creation in this life.

‘Forget you ego in front of your parents and deal with them as an obedient servant as far as they don’t order you to do wrong.

Wassalam.

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Mother . Khums

My mother never paid Khums properly though she often paid to charities, without enquiring about Ijazas, and helped needy Syed families. How do I help her calculate how much she should pay?

Her yearly savings should be calculated then 20% of every year;s saving must be given as Khums.

Wassalam.

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