Backbiting

Backbiting, backstabbing, or tale-bearing is to slander someone in their absence — to bite them behind their back.

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Is it permissible to engage in discussion or gossiping about the wrongdoings and problems caused by our country's ministers, PM, and president?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

Denouncing wrong doings of responsible persons against the interest and rights of people is an Islamic duty in every Muslim. We need to be wise and careful not to cause harm to ourselves and other believers when we express our objections on the wrong doers. Amr BilMa’roof and Nahi ‘Anil Munkar is obligatory with its conditions.

Wassalam.

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Backbiting . Stress . Employment

Is it considered backbiting if I share with my family a work-related situation that caused me distress, stress, or where I felt wronged, while solely focusing on the circumstances? How do we differentiate between backbiting and venting in such situations?

You should avoid mentioning any bad act or bad habit of a believer. Speaking generally about your work is allowed but never mention any bad thing done by a believer.

Wassalam.

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Backbiting

Is it considered listening to backbiting to watch a YouTube video that speaks negatively about someone, even if there is no direct interaction and it is solely passive viewing?

Adding on the number of the listeners can be a sort of support for the backbiting which is wrong.

Wassalam.

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Sin . Backbiting

My mom backbites about my dad, his relatives, my siblings and their in laws. When I try to stop her she scolds me and says she won't survive unless she talks about it as she was hurt. How can I stop her from this sin?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 3 years ago

If you haven't already, and if you are comfortable doing so, you could try telling her that you feel hurt and uncomfortable when she says bad things about your dad or family. That might be more effective than telling her she is committing a sin.

Usually, it is considered irresponsible for a father or mother to say bad things about each other to the children (unless it is an urgent or important issue) because it is psychologically and emotionally harmful and makes the children feel a conflict of loyalty between them.

Sin . Backbiting

You should never support nor accept backbiting because it is a major sin, but on the same time you must keep the respect of your mother and avoid hurting her feelings. Keeping these two duties needs your wisdom. Stopping her from backbiting can come from making her realize that by backbiting those whom she's not like, she will loose her good deeds which will go to them, and might also get the burden of their bad deeds. You should be very polite in talking to your mother and never look like trying to teach her. You can tell her stories and narrations from the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS).

Wassalam.

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Backbiting . Employment

I often talk about unprofessional behavior of my boss and his lack of interest in his job to my colleague who is also an employee of my boss. Is that backbiting about my boss?

If you boss is a Mo'min, you must avoid criticising him unless he is doing obvious injustice on you and you will be then not allowed to talk about anything away from your suffering from his injustice. You should not mention any other thing about him which not part of your suffering.

Wassalam.

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Sin . Backbiting

I have heard that although Gheebat of a believer is not allowed, it is not a sin if you talk bad about a non-Muslim or non-Shia. Is this true?

Gheebat (Backbiting) of a believer is a major sin.
Regarding talking bad about non believers, we should not waste our valuable time in talking bad about others except the enemies of Allah who were been cursed by Allah and His Messenger.

Wassalam.

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Backbiting

As a volunteer in a Muslim association, I sometimes proofread articles written by other individuals. Is it correct for me to say about a specific work that it was of poor quality? Is it not backbiting?

If it is necessary for your work, it is not backbiting. Writing for publication is a public activity, and anything written and presented publicly can be discussed in an honest and sincere way.

It is better to say that it is poor quality in the beginning than to publish poor quality material and be an embarrassment to Islam and Muslims.

However it is good to be tactful and choose nice ways to phrase your criticisms since writing is a very sensitive subject. Perhaps some tips on how it could be improved might also be useful.

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Backbiting . Forgiveness

I have done a lot of Gheebat in my childhood when I was not Baaligh. Is it compulsory on me to go and ask the person who was backbitten to forgive me?

It is not obligatory on non Baligh child to seek forgiveness for acts committed by him during his childhood. It is good to seek forgiveness from them if you can. It is also good to pray to Allah to forgive you and them as well.

Wassalam.

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Forgiveness . Repentance (Tawbah) . God (Allah) . Gheebah . Backbiting

How do I repent from Ghibah? Do I need to ask forgiveness of the people I have backbitten even if they do not know about it, or just seek forgiveness from Allah?

You need to seek forgiveness and pardon from them. If you are unable to do that then seek forgiveness from Allah to forgive you and them and keep praying for them.

Wassalam.

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Backbiting . Adolescence . Forgiveness

I am a teenager and when I was young I did not know much about Gheebat. At times I have done backbiting of a person who is very much older than me in age. Is it required for me to go and ask him to forgive me?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 4 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Although you might have been young, but you must have known that talking ill about someone is a bad thing. If this person is still alive, and you do see him, greet him, and just say 'forgive me if I have wronged you', without going into details.

I am sure he wont comment on anything, and answer in a positive way, and your conscience will be clear, in shaa Allah.

With prayers for your success.

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Home . Husband . Backbiting

Is sharing home related problems with the husband considered Gheebat?

Rules of Gheebat are same but if the matter is related to your children or any one who is under your responsibility, you can discuss the matter to avoid them harm or risk.

Wassalam.

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