Lust

Lust is a psychological force producing intense wanting or longing for an object, or circumstance fulfilling the emotion. Lust can take any form such as the lust for sexuality, love, money or power. It can take such mundane forms as the lust for food as distinct from the need for food.

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Islam . Marriage . Lust

Does Islam have any guidance on how long in a marriage Muslim couples should stay sexually active with each other?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 weeks ago

Sexual activity between husband and wife should continue as long as they are healthy and able. If the wife is young, then her husband must sleep with her at least once every four months.

‘Even if they are aged, they should enjoy themselves as husband and wife in the way which they prefer. Wife is not allowed to refuse to be sexually with her husband as far as she is able. Husband is also required to sexually treat his wife as much as he can.

Wassalam.

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Face . Lust . Western Society

In the West, it seems unavoidable for a Muslim man to look at the face of a non-Muslim woman. How should one behave if looking at the face of such a woman causes lust or attraction?

Looking at the face of a female which causes lust or attraction is definitely not permissible in Islam. Muslim man must avoid any looking which causes lust or attraction. Lowering gaze is obligatory on Muslims as we read in Quran (Sura 24, Verses 30 and 31.

Wassalam.

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Lust . Fear . Sin . Mahram . Marriage

Am I allowed to talk more casually or even joke sometimes with non Mahrams, but without the intention of lust and fear of falling into sin and without being in a relationship with them?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 10 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

This is a very important question, and relevant to all of us, as we all somehow socially interact with others. In today's society, the boundaries of non-mahram interaction are also weaker than before, which makes it even more challenging for us Muslims.

Please watch this presentation I gave in the holy month on this very topic, with detail explanation. It starts from the 1:38 hour mark:

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Woman . Hijab . Mahram . Lust . Social Media . Sin

When a woman who is observing a modest Hijab uploads her video on social platform reciting an elegy or any religious speech, and a non-Mahram man looks at her with lust, will it be the woman who will be held sinful and accountable?

If she has fulfilled her duty in Hijab, she will not then responsible but the man who looks at her with lust will be responsible of his evil thoughts. Men must avoid looking with lust to females especially who have done their full Hijab.

Wassalam.

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Ghusl . Semen . Lust

Do I have to perform Ghusl if semen comes out while urinating without any lust?

That fluid which comes out after urinating is not semen but Wathi وذي. Wathi is not Najis. No Ghusl is required for such fluid coming out.

Semen does not come out but gushing and with lust.

Wassalam.

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Gender . Lust

How and why is it considered respectful in Islam not to shake hands with the opposite gender, especially in formal settings when it seems to be a reasonable social expectation with no aspect of lust involved?

Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answered 2 years ago

as salam alaikum

from a psychological perspective, even the mere presence of a person of the opposite gender have a particular influence that mold behavioral tendencies and attitudes that not necessarily relate to lust. That is also why many Islamic places, and traditional societies in general, always had a specific code to limit promiscuity and social contact between genders.

There is no problem in dealing with the opposite gender in the prescribed shar'i way and in case of necessity as long as all Islamic etiquettes are observed but one should try as much as possible to move forward what Allah has commanded in all circumstances.

With prayer for your success.

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Lust . Gender Segregation

Is glancing at any non-Hijabi girl without lust allowed in Islam?

Glancing at other gender usually has a reason. If it involves lust, it will be definitely Haraam ( forbidden).

If glancing is for other reason which is completely away from desire, it should be avoided as much as possible.

Wassalam.

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Music . Movies . Lust

Are we allowed to watch Bollywood or other movies skipping the sexually explicit scenes and skipping haram music?

Nour Tessie Jørgensen, Nour Tessie Jørgensen has an MA in Islamic studies from the University of Copenhagen, Denmark and a degree in Philosophy of Ethics at Al Mustafa International University in Qum, Iran. She works as... Answered 4 years ago

It is forbidden if it influences the viewer and causes moral corruption or arousal. Furthermore on a mandatory precaution watching such movies is to avoided entirely if it contains sexually indecent scenes, accordring to Sayyid Sistani.

If the movie is immoral, which means that it contains obscene scenes that trengthen one's satanic whims, weaken one's will, faith and precipitate for vile consequences and perpetration of sinful acts it is totally impermissible, accordring to Sayyid Khamenei.

You must do an individual evaluation of the specific movies (when skipping the indecent scenes and haram music) to consider whether the rest of the content is decent.

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Intention (Niyah) . Lust

Is it okay to look at men without the intention of lust, so that you don't actually want to have any feelings or bad thoughts, and yet there are such feelings?

Zeinab Donati, Zeinab Donati has been studying books about various Islamic subjects for more than 19 years. She is deeply interested in history and politics as well as social issues in particular those pertaining... Answered 4 years ago

Assalamu aleykum,

Looking at people of opposite gender is not a problem per se, although it should be avoided because it can cause lust thoughts, as you have described and experienced.

God commands the believing men and women to lower from their gazes in the Qur’an:

“Say to the believing men to lower their gazes and guard their chastity…”(An-Nur, 24: 30)

“And tell the believing women to lower their eyes, and guard their modesty, ….”(An-Nur, 24: 31)

So we should always keep in mind that is it as requirement to avoid looking at opposite sex people and to try to lower our gaze as much as possible.

To understand more about the meaning of lower one’s gaze, please refer to

1. Meaning of Casting Down

1. What “casting down the glances” mean?

It means that a person should not look at the member of the opposite sex except for those parts that may be uncovered.

So, for instance, a man is allowed to look at the face and hands of a non-mahram lady who is not related to him provided it is not done in with a lustful intention. (“Mahram” means person in whose presence hijab is not required. See the list at end of this section.)

https://www.al-islam.org/hijab-muslim-womens-dress-islamic-or-cultural-s...

Also, you may want to refer to the book A Code of Ethics for Muslim Men and Women in particular the rulings related to looking at others:

https://www.al-islam.org/code-ethics-muslim-men-and-women-sayyid-masud-m...