How can we respond to a non-Muslim who says that the family we get born in is not in our control, and so had Allah wished him to be a Muslim he would have placed him in a Muslim household?
Bismillah
Thank you for your question. While it is true that there are some things out of our control, the choice to believe is within our control. Being born in a Muslim family or not is not the sole determining factor in the attainment of belief. If that was the case the early Arabs who were mainly born into polytheistic households would not have converted to Islam. Similarly, there would be no hypocrites or apostates from Muslim families, if the family you are born in is the sole determinant. Rather, God has given each individual the intellect and intuition to find the correct path, no matter what situation they start with. And everyone is rewarded according to their effort.
May you always be successful