A dream is a succession of images, ideas, emotions, and sensations that usually occur involuntarily in the mind during certain stages of sleep. The content and purpose of dreams are not fully understood, although they have been a topic of scientific, philosophical and religious interest throughout recorded history. Dream interpretation is the attempt at drawing meaning from dreams and searching for an underlying message.
Wet dreams are not haram. One must do ghusl and purify themselves at some point after a wet dream and not doing so could be haram if their salah would become qada or if they needed to fast.
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Controlling bad desires is always possible through strong will power and strengthening the intellectual qualities and remembering the results of the good deeds and bad deeds. Those who use their senses and intellect, see the results before it happens as life has millions of similar examples of people who followed their desires and landed in disastrous results and pious people who controlled their desires and got high degrees of success.
Dreams are not intentional acts, so , there is no punishment for just dreaming.
Not all dreams are meaningful as sometimes dreams reflect your thoughts or matters or worries etc. Dreams seen during wrong time of sleeping ( e,g. between Fajr and sunrise and between Asr and Maghrib etc) have no value.
Seeing your relatives in the dream does not mean that they miss you nor want you with them, rather reminding you to do more good deeds for them. Deceased relatives expect from us to help them as the Hadeeth says: Have mercy on your deceased beloved ones by giving charity on their behalf إرحموا موتاكم بالصدقة
Thank you for your question. What you see in dreams in somewhat intricate. You may be projecting your own mind or you may connect to the imaginal realm. Either way the meaning of a dream is connected to all the various aspects within the dream and so it is not possible to say for certain.
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Well, people dream all sorts of things, some of them have meaning and some of them don't. If she is praying for this and you know she is praying for this, it makes sense that you might dream about it. Possibly your subconscious is thinking about it even if your conscious mind isn't.
If her brother has expressed an interest in marrying you, and it is a reasonable possibility for you to marry him, you could consider it. It is a blessing to have an opportunity to marry someone compatible whom you might have some trust in. It could be nice to marry a friend's brother (although keep in mind it can also change the nature of your friendship, especially if there are marriage problems). Of course there is no guarantee that the marriage would be happy but it is worth considering if you think he might be a compatible spouse. However you should make your decision based on the real life circumstances around you, not just the dreams.
If he hasn't expressed an interest in getting married then there is no reason to give it thought - he may or may not be ready to get married right now.
Anyway, you are lucky to have a friend who likes you so much that she wants you to be family. :)
Insofar as you aren't obsessing over your dreams and you are not doing anything unwise or harmful because of a dream, it doesn't hurt to go with your gut feeling, especially if the dream is saying something useful or beneficial (such as advice or a warning). Oftentimes we have a sense of what has meaning and what doesn't. Time uncovers the truth about many things.
Even "true dreams" are understood through the imagination because the brain understands things symbolically.
Also it is good to keep in mind that even if there are some things in dreams that are correct, sometimes they don't happen when we expect. For instance a person might have a dream that something will happen in November, they will wait and it won't happen, then it will happen the next year in November. And also it is good to remember that fate and destiny are all in Allah's hands, and we can never be sure what is fixed and absolutely fated to happen and what isn't. So it is not good to put all our expectations in dreams; at the same times, sometimes we are given information that is helpful for us especially during times of change or challenging times.
Thank you for your question. This is a complex issue and one that cannot be explained in detail in a written response. However, one of the benchmarks of a real dream is when a person sees one of the Infallibles (as) in their dream.
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It might be because of a forgotten sinful act which needs seeking forgiveness (Istighfaar) or it can be because Najis bed or Najis sheet etc. It can be also because of late meal which causes bad dreams.
It is mentioned in many Hadeeths that i is recommended to go to toilet before going to bed.
A lot of things are said about what is and is not possible regarding dreams about Ahl al-Bayt (A), however, as far as I know, most of them have no basis.
It is possible for the Shaytan to appear as something he is not; in fact, the main feature of Shaytan is deception.
However, even if you were dreaming about something other than Ahl al-Bayt, there are a lot of things between Ahl al-Bayt and Shaytan that you could have been dreaming about. (Including your own subconscious!)
If, in your dream, the being told you to do something evil or which you know is wrong, it is good to ignore it. It doesn't really matter where it came from. It could have been Shaytan or something else.
If it told you to do something good, it is good to accept it.
If it told you something else, you can also look into it and see if it is a beneficial or destructive thing.
If it just stood there and didn't do anything, then it doesn't really matter - all you can say is, you don't know.
So, I don't think you should worry too much about Shaytan being in your dreams. While it is good to be conscious of Shaytan's existence, it is not good to get too paranoid about it (indeed, that could also be a trick of Shaytan!). I think Shaytan is probably busy in other places and maybe doesn't have too much time for dreams unless there is some very specific reason why you think this is the case.
(This is assuming you actually had a dream about this and are not just asking in general)
Well, if it is a sexual habit (since that is how this is tagged), your body has hormones, and it is dealing with your hormones in its own way. As Shaykh Esmail said, it will likely calm down. Reciting Qur'an and du'a before sleeping may also help calm things down. Adjusting what you eat may also have an effect.
Also, as Shaykh Esmail said, we aren't held accountable for what appears in our dreams (although maybe it might be embarrassing). At the risk of sounding overly traditional, the main solution given in our texts is to get married and find a different outlet, of course that is often easier said than done, but if you aren't married, that is the advice that is given.
If it is some other kind of habit, you can ignore the above!
Mashallah, you have built an awareness of yourself, found the courage to recognize a bad habit and have begun to take serious steps to eradicate it. Your actions are commendable, indeed, for they show your commitment to the Obedience and Pleasure of Allah (swt).
These efforts, no matter how discouraging or frustratingly slow they may seem, will surely count on the scale of deeds on the Day of Judgement for Allah swt promises in the Holy Quran “So, whoever has done an atom's weight of good shall behold it” (Sura Zilzal 99:7)
The dreams you refer to are actually an encouraging sign and, in fact, an indication that your abstinence is having an effect on your system. The field of psychology sees dreams as often a reflection of our hidden or repressed thoughts, struggles, fears and anxieties. These dreams are proof that your self-restraint has been prolonged enough to result in withdrawal symptoms. These phenomenon are not only expected in addiction recovery, but are also a warning sign that this is not the time to give up; rather it is a time to brace yourself with added vigour, strength and conviction. Victory is very near, inshallah.
When the human body has become accustomed to receiving gratification in a specific way, it is only expected that changing and unlearning these patterns will result in a fair amount of internal turmoil, anguish, struggle and, unfortunately, relapse.
At such times, Shaitan, the eternal Accursed opportunist, looks for the weakening of the soul, the cracks in the armour, so to speak, and encourages one to give in just one more time. But giving in just once is never a good idea and can take one to a deeper place of obsession.
In the field of the study of addictive behaviours, such relapses are referred to as binges; just one more cigarette, just one glass of alcohol, just one more piece of cake, just one more immoral act actually leads to a thousand more, often in one sitting.
Undoubtedly, it is not easy to give up any type of addiction whether it means abstaining from a forbidden act, withdrawing from a friend who is toxic, giving up carbohydrates and heavily reducing food intake, avoiding backbiting, breaking off an immoral relationship, quitting gambling or deciding to stop substance abuse such as smoking, alcohol or drugs. Even giving up a seemingly benign habit such as nail-biting or thumb-sucking can often take years to truly stop.
Perhaps this is why so many who struggle with addictions will often plead to others to never allow themselves to start a bad habit in the first place.
The human body and mind is susceptible and prone to addiction and this is why Islam encourages self-discipline and restraint from an early age, and alerts us to the vulnerability of the nafs ul amara (the lowest, base part of the human soul) which the accursed Shaitan cunningly befriends and entices.
Nevertheless, eradicating an addiction is completely possible and the success stories are all around us. In fact, even life-long chain-smokers have been able to give up smoking overnight; the phenomenon is called “going cold-turkey”.
Unfortunately, most of such drastic changes have been known to happen when the individual has been given a terminal diagnosis and is told they do not have too long to live. At that stage, one could argue, giving up the addiction is futile. And yet the one facing death, in sheer desperation, will do it anyway.
Thus, those such as you, who realize the seriousness of the matter early and work proactively to quit a serious addiction before it is too late and those who actually are successful at beating the addiction are the ones who truly deserve accolades.
Their steadfastness and resilience, their ability to remain true to their own promise to their nafs is a testament to the strength of the human spirit of being able to put mind over matter. To understand how addiction works it is important to read as much as possible on the subject.
For more information, refer to the following articles on the cycles of withdrawal and tolerance, guilt and justification in addictive behaviours:
Understanding relapse as a normal process of addiction recovery: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-relapse-22106
The key to giving up an addiction is a combination of firm and serious resolve combined with active efforts to uphold the new lifestyle, distracting oneself and to engage in acts of worship to strengthen the process.
Doing this will inshallah discourage compulsive thoughts and recurrent dreams and lessen the withdrawal symptoms until one is completely free of the addiction, inshallah.
Start with regular and timely offering of the daily salaah as this helps to build an armour against Shaitaan, the accursed.
Imam Jaffer Sadiq (a.s) advises, “Shaitaan fears man as long as he offers his salaat five times in its prime time. When the person wastes these salaat, Shaitaan gets bold and involves that person in greater sins.”
In addition to this, the offering of Salaat ul Layl is extremely beneficial in upholding this armour and keeping oneself in a continual state of worship. Night time can also become a time of loneliness when idle and obsessive thoughts can lead to a relapse; thus keeping oneself distracted in worship at night is a good strategy.
Salatul Layl not only evokes blessings and forgiveness from Allah (swt) but it also helps to create self-awareness about the destructive nature of sins and to keep oneself cleansed as one works towards a new sin-free lifestyle.
For a step-by-step guide on how to recite salatyl layl: http://www.duas.org/tahajjud.htm
Additionally, there are some beautiful duas that are highly recommended after Salatul Layl which truly enhance the experience of worshipping in the loneliness of the night as the Beloved listens to our plea in Dua Hazeen:
I whisper unto You O One Who is present in every place so that You may hear my call for surely my sin is excessive and my shame is less
اُنَاجِیْکَ یَا مَوْجُوْدًا فِیْ کُلِّ مَکَانٍ لَعَلَّکَ تَسْمَعُ نِدَآئِیْ فَقَدْ عَظُمَ جُرْمِیْ وَ قَلَّ حَیَآئِیْ
I call for help and I call for help, O Allah from desires which have overpowered me and from the enemy which has pounced on me and from the world which attracts me and from the soul that leads towards evil except that on which my Lord has mercy (12:53)
مَولاَیَ یَا مَوْلاَیَ حَتّٰی مَتٰی وَ اِلٰي مَتٰي اَقُوْلُ لَکَ الْعُتْبٰی مَرَّۃً بَعْدَ اُخْرٰی ثُمَّ لاَ تَجِدُ عِنْدِیْ صِدْقًا وَ لاَ وَفَآءً فَیَاغَوْثَاہُ ثُمَّ وَاغَوْثَاہُ بِکَ
Dua Hazeen: https://www.duas.org/Misc/dua_e_hazeen.htm
Recitation of Dua Komail on Thursdays is an important part of this process towards reducing withdrawal symptoms when recovering from an addiction.
It is crucial to accompany acts of worship with reading material that can enhance one’s understanding of how sins can destroy our faith. Allama Dastghaib Shiraz’s book, “Greater Sins” (3 volumes) is an especially informative look at the destructive nature of sins on the human soul.
The book includes a 2 part section on tawba which is also very inspiring: https://www.al-islam.org/greater-sins-volume-1-ayatullah-sayyid-abdul-hu...
Complement such reading of books and articles with video and audio lectures on “astagfar” to not only firm your resolve to not sin again but to also give you reassurance that Allah swt is Al-Ghafir (the forgiver) al-Ghafur (most forgiving) Al Ghaffar (oft forgiving).
Engage in a healthy and very active lifestyle to distract yourself from the addictive behaviour in question.
Join a sports team, exercise regularly, keep a busy social schedule, volunteer and visit your Islamic centre regularly.
Continue on this commendable and most necessary task of giving up the forbidden act that you are struggling with.
And never underestimate the power of Allah swt in blessing and making what seems an impossible task, completely possible.
Allah swt not only praises those that strive for His forgiveness but promises that He swt will, in fact, turn their evil deeds into good ones.
“Except him who repents and believes and does a good deed; so these are they of whom Allah changes the evil deeds to good ones; and Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. And whoever repents and does good, he surely turns to Allah a (goodly) turning.” (Surah Furqān 25:70-71)
Dreams are not within our power to control and Allah swt does not hold us accountable for them. Feeling guilty is not helpful but engaging in these helpful strategies and acts of worship will inshallah lessen the occurrence of these dreams.
May Allah swt give you the strength, courage, conviction and resilience of faith and imaan, to free yourself of this addiction.
With continued efforts and the blessings of Allah swt, inshallah, the disturbing dreams and recurrent thoughts will soon become completely rare and non-existent. Ilaahi ameen