Seyed Ali Shobayri

Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the Islamic College of London. He also studied at the Hawza Ilmiyya of England and continues Hawza and Islamic studies with private teachers.

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Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

Trust is an important factor between spouses and without it, the relationship can become very damaged. Have you tried asking him why he doesn't trust you? If you haven't done anything for him to act this way then he could be overly paranoid based on his own insecurities.  Also he cannot unjustly control you such as preventing you from having believing female friends.

Try to be open with him and mention the damage this is doing. If you have already tried this or it doesn't work, try to get a trusted believer who can mediate or a trusted alim who is experienced in martial disputes to speak to you both or arrange a session. 

May Allah grant you success 

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 3 weeks ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

Wet dreams are not haram. One must do ghusl and purify themselves at some point after a wet dream and not doing so could be haram if their salah would become qada or if they needed to fast. 
 

May Allah grant you success 

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 3 weeks ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,  

In order to pray and perform other Islamic rituals one must perform ghusl. However, one can delay performing the ghusl and doesn't need to do it immediately provided that the next salah will not become qada. One may before hand purify their organ to prevent one's clothes or body becoming najis. 
 

May Allah grant you success 

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 3 weeks ago

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Asalamu Alaykom,

After doing istibra you can assume any drops are pure and your wudu remains valid. 

May Allah grant you success 

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answer updated 3 weeks ago

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Asalamu Alaykom, 

Only Allah swt is All Knowing and no creation can know the reality of His essence. The Prophet Mohammad (sawa) was however given divinely inspired knowledge and revelation from Allah swt. He was also given knowledge from the unseen, 

May Allah grant you success 

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Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

According to the narrations, masturbation is a sin and is compared to doing zina with oneself. 

We have an example of when Imam Ali (as) had to discipline someone for doing so: 

“Once a person was caught masturbating and was brought to Imam 'Ali. The Imam punished him by beating his hands until they turned red; then he made an arrangement for his marriage on government's expenses. 

(Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 267; vol. 18, pp. 574-5)”

Some non Muslim doctors and teachers may try to encourage such acts and say they are ‘healthy’ but such advice which contradicts the divine teachings is worthless. 

Masturbation is usually associated with haram acts such as pornography and can turn into an unhealthy addiction which affects one both physically and psychologically. 

A Muslim should try their upmost to have self control and dignity. Therefore, seeking marriage whether permanent or temporary is necessary to protect one’s private parts. 

A husband or wife may mutually stimulate each other’s private parts; for example, the wife masturbating the husband and vice-versa. If they are away from each other then they cannot use their own hands for such an action until being together. 

May Allah swt grant you success

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answer updated 3 months ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

Check in your Islamic laws book of your marja for details and conditions of when to perform this. It is like a normal  ghusl with a different intention. 
 

Wudu isn't needed after ghusl al janabah and you would automatically have wudu unless you break it during or after your ghusl. For other non-janabah ghusls wudu must be made after if you wish to pray. If your marja states ghusl al hayd gives wudu or ghusl al juma' then you may follow this.  
 

May Allah grant you success  

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answer updated 4 months ago

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Asalamu Alaykom, 

Being in a state of janabah or hayd doesn't make your hands najis. The only times you would spread najasa is when you touch blood or one of the najis substances with a wet hand or body part and then spread it. 
 

You can touch things with wet hands in either state and nothing would become najis. 
 

Only some ulema state that the sweat of someone who has committed zina is najis. 
 

May Allah grant you success 

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 4 months ago

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Asalamu Alaykom, 

If there are genuine problems with your in-laws then you can discuss this with your husband with the intention of finding a solution. He may be able to intermediate and speak to those in-laws to find a common ground or way to reconcile differences. By not discussing these issues it can become worse, so it is good you are thinking to do so. 
 

Just make sure that when you discuss these issues, it doesn't exceed the limits of the necessary matters. For example if one would starts insulting them then it could lead to ghiybah or mention unrelated matters 

May Allah grant you success 

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 4 months ago

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Asalamu Alaykom, 

What he is doing is a very big sin and he cannot miss salah on purpose. He may have someone to do the missed salahs after his death however he won't be free of the punishment which he will brings upon himself for each intentional missed Salah. 

Share him the following hadith: 

Imam Ali [as] said: Verily, some people worshipped Allah being desirous (Of His reward) – so this is the worship of traders; and some people worshipped Allah fearing (His punishment) – so it is the worship of slaves, and a group worshipped Allah in gratitude (to Him) so this is the worship of the free. (Nahju ‘I-balaghah)

try to remind him of the benefits of the salah and help him in a way to beat his laziness. Tell him to try and count the endless amount of blessings he has and how rationally one must thank the one who blesses him. How is salah a burden compared to the life and sustenance that Allah has given us?! 
 

May Allah grant you success 

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Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 4 months ago

Bismillah, 

Asalamu Alaykom, 

You were not sure if your hand was najis nor did you see any najis substance on it so you can consider that your hand remained pure.

May Allah grant you success