Anxiety is an emotion characterized by an unpleasant state of inner turmoil, often accompanied by nervous behaviour such as pacing back and forth, somatic complaints, and rumination. It is the subjectively unpleasant feelings of dread over anticipated events, such as the feeling of imminent death. Anxiety is a feeling of uneasiness and worry, usually generalized and unfocused as an overreaction to a situation that is only subjectively seen as menacing. It is often accompanied by muscular tension, restlessness, fatigue and problems in concentration.
Such person who caused pain to other person must do everything possible to seek pardon and forgiveness from the person who was hurt even if it happened unintentionally. Hurting heart of a Momin is more dangerous than breaking the Holy Ka'bah into pieces.
1, Try to avoid any act or talk which instigates her anxiety or annoys her. You are her husband and supposed to be the closest human being to her so you should try your best to make her feel happy as much as you can.
2. If she has close persons like her mother, sisters, friend etc who might be able to talk to her to leave the idea of divorce, it should good to request them to do that.
3. If she feels that she needs counseling, try to help arranging good and constructive counseling to make her leave the idea of divorce by explains to her the negative side of divorce.
4. Recite Quranic supplications like RABBANA HABLANA MIN AZWAAJINA WA THURRUYATINA QURRATA A'YUN.
5. Repeat seeking help from Allah by praying :YA GHAFOURU YA WADOUD as many times as you want.
Repeated doubts in worship acts like Wudu, Ghusl, Namaz etc should ignored.
It is always good to seek forgiveness even if you are not sure about the sin. The Prophet (SAWA) used to repeat Istighfaar despite the fact the he was the greatest Infallible. Istighfaar by itself has lot of benefits in our life here and hereafter.
Most of people misunderstand the fact of death and think it as terrible and fearful. The terrible death is only for the sinners who did insist on wrong till their death and never repented. Death for the believer is bounty and great relief from the sufferings of this worldly life. When we read Quran, we find that the moment of death of a believer is the start of new life of mercy, bounties and peace. (Refer to Sura Al-Waqi'ah). We also read in Quran that pious believer is been received by the angles on his death with peace and good news of entering Paradise: Those (Believers) whose souls are taken back by the angles, angles tell them: Peace be upon you, enter the Paradise for the good which you used to do. Sura 16, Verse 32.
Authentic Hadeeths stated that every believer will have the pleasure of seeing the Prophet (SAWA) and Ameerul Mo'mineen (AS) and other Infallible Imams (AS) on his death and they will give him best news of Paradise.
It is narrated in a Hadeeth that death is the happiest day for the believer.
Understanding these facts should make the believer not only free from fearing death but also longing for that happiness. We read in Ziyarat Ameen Allah ; O Allah make me longing for the happiness of meeting Your Mercy ( Death). مشتاقة إلى فرحة لقائك.
Death is ordained by Allah, The Most Merciful, on all the creatures and it is part of His Mercy. Enemies of Allah will face the results of their bad deeds, but believers and pious servants of Allah will meet The Great Mercy of Allah.
Side by side with your medical treatment, you can get great benefits from remembering Allah. Remembering Allah is the best remedy for peace of mind. Allah says in Quran ( Surely, by remembering Allah hearts get peace.)(Sura 13, verse 28). These are some examples:
1. Reciting Quran with voice which you can hear or at least listening to Quranic recitation.
2. Reciting and repeating Salawaat and Estighfaar.
3. Reciting Du'a (Supplications) like Du'a Komail, Du'a Abi Hamza, Du'a Sabaah, Du'a Makaarim Al-Akhlaq etc.
4. Reciting Ziyarat Ashura every day.
5. Performing Salat Al-Layl (Namaz e Shab).
Sura Al-Hamd and Sura al-Tawheed and Ayatul Kursi. It is always good to suplicate : ALLAHUMMA Salli Ala Muhammad Wa Aali Muhammad, Allahumma Ihdini Lima Tohibbu wa Tardha.
If the time remaining for the Prayer is very short that if you don't hurry up, you will or might miss performing the Prayer within its time, then you must hurry up to perform the Prayer within its time. If the sunrise is very near and you need to perform your Morning Prayer, you must do everything possible to perform it before sunrise. No doubt, you must perform all the obligatory acts and recitations of Salat, but don't spend time in recommended acts or recommended recitations which might make you miss performing the Prayer before sunrise.
Even reciting a Sura after Sura Al Hamd cab be dropped if there is no time for it before sunrise.
If there is an emergency like saving life or urgent help required, you can also hurry up. In fact we are allowed to terminate Salat to save life.
We should not hurry up in our Salat for any worldly matter. The Hadeeth says: No work can succeed before performing the obligatory Salat.
Speedy Salat for worldly reason is very bad and it is from the acts of hypocrites and sinners. The Prophet (SAWA) said when he saw a person who was praying speedy Salat: If this person dies with such Salat, will not die in my religion.
I am sure you as a Muslim know that worship and prayer is the greatest and most effective tool to battle anxiety and stress. As the holy Quran says, with the remembrance of God hearts will become tranquil. By someone seeing prayer as a burden or something that would hinder their mental stability, or even sleeping pattern, this shows they have not yet discovered what true faith and worship is.
The best time to gain focus in life, or rizq, or mental and spiritual stability is fajr time. Adopting a healthy and religious sleeping pattern will enable one to get good sleep, and also fuflil their basic religious requirements.
Of course, it will mean that one would have to change certain things in their daily routine, like avoiding things that keep them awake at night, avoiding caffeine, sleeping early, creating better atmosphere at home, and so on.
There are many ways of getting your good sleep, and also performing fajr prayer in its proper time. This means that the problem is not fajr time disrupting the sleep, but rather having a better routine and stronger reliance in the Almighty.
With prayers for your success.
No bad in the Paradise at all. Allah says in Quran about people in Paradise :ونزعنا ما في صدورهم من غِلّ (We shall remove from their chests all the hatred and make them real brothers). Sura 15, verse 47.
No one in Paradise thinks negatively nor has negative feelings whatsoever. No one will wish to do any wrong or even think to do any wrong as Allah has granted them the ability to see the right and wrong clearly so no one will ever want to do or think about doing wrong.
As far as you are concerned, following the madhhab of Ahlul Bayt (a.s.) is a part of your personality and identity, and your marriage should not obstruct your affiliation to your Shi'i identity. This should be made clear to your fiance.
In regards to your future children, you as their mother must try to nurture them in such a way where they are aware of their religion and abide to the laws of Islam. Which madhhab they choose is completely up to them, when they become mature and of age.
If you instill within them the love of religion and the urge to pursue truth and evidence, and allow them to research and read and decide themselves, you've done your obligation. The rest is for them to decide.
Your main focus must be on accompanying your husband to be in a noble spiritual way, and avoiding anything that would hurt or harm his understanding of Islam, or your understanding of Islam.
Be the parents that you should be, and that would be the best thing you can do.
With prayers for your success.
If it is an intoxicant, then it will be Haraam to consume it.
as salam alaikum
daily recitation of Qur'an is good for the spiritual and mental development of the child insh'Allah. The supplication of Imam al-Sajjad, peace be upon him, for his children that can be found in the al-Sahifah al-Sajjadiyyah (dua number 25) has some good words for the protection of children from difficulties.
The company with good-hearted people that avoid too much formalities but are able to give real love is also very important in the mentioned case. Be aware of people who do vain talks and spiteful comments but look for people and families who are sincerely committed to the Din of Islam and purity of heart.
With prayers for your success.