This requires a special understanding and cognition of the reality and continuous presence and grace of God in our lives and the nature of our connection with Him as well as our utter dependence on Him.
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I agree with the viewpoint that you said regarding Imam Ali (A) loving his wife greatly, and it seems that the Prophet (S) and his family had very open hearts, and also that love for their families was part of their spirituality and perfection. So I would not say that, in the tradition ascribed to them (A), there is an ideal of cutting of love for one's wife and children.
As I am sure you know, there some clear narrations on this topic attributed to the Prophet (S) such as "I was made to love three things - perfume, women, and prayer", and as related from Imam Kazim (A) "whenever a man's faith increases, his love of women increases." Of course this should not be a haraam love whereby one does illict acts in the name of love, but, rather, the capacity for love and connection with and appreciation of the opposite gender increases, perhaps as part of spiritual growth. It is not a sign of spiritual growth to be cold and standoffish with one's lawful spouse (unless there are serious marital or personal problems that cause that, unrelated to this subject).
Of course, there are many approaches to mysticism and gnosis, and sometimes people prescribe other approaches according to their understanding for their own reasons even if the are somewhat different from the above.
However, perhaps one can glean from the Qur'an and hadith that (a) although it is good to be open to one's spouse and children and love them, one should not grow overattached to them to the point where they place them above Allah, whatever that means to a person in practice, (b) one should not be attached to the worldly life, although one can take comfort in the knowledge that human relationships can outlast the worldly life, and (c) sometimes we are tested by these things, and we are also tested by what we love most. For some people, their greatest tests in life relate to their family or children. Inshallah you will be protected from this.
In my view - and this is just my view, it may irk others - in some Muslim spiritual circles there is a sort of cynicism when it comes to human love, and an emphasis that this world is just for tasting the delights of Allah or the hereafter, and we should not dwell on these things or expect to have them. I have often suspected that this may be rooted in some of the social restrictions and disappointments relating to worldly life that some people have had, especially in the older generations - for instance, feeling compelled to marry someone who one didn't really want to be with, or other such problems. And to some degree, a way to deal with this is to look to what is beyond this world spiritually and not focus on it. I am not saying this is the situation with everyone but perhaps it is a factor.
Muslim woman is not allowed to marry non Muslim man under any circumstance until and unless he becomes a Muslim.
We are allowed to pray to Allah for non Muslim to be guided and to see and follow the true religion of Islam.
Istekhara is seeking guidance from Allah (SWT) in any matter which is permissible in principle and we are unable to decide about it.
If you have already decided an action, there is no point in Istekhara after you have decided.
'Loving something does not mean that it is good for us. Millions of people suffered a lot from things which they loved sometime then discovered later that love was based on mirage not facts. Sensible persons do not rely on love only but on intellect and factual reasons. If you are not sure whether your love is based on facts or emotions, you can go for Istekhara to be guided.
Did your husband get into the marriage willingly or unwillingly? If he was pressured into the marriage and was not naturally inclined towards it, then this will have a major impact on whether he wants to show love and affection. Also, what was his upbringing? Was he raised in a household that does not show love or affection? Was he neglected emotionally as a child? Also, what are his family's ideas on marriage? Is it just a formality where everybody plays their role? Is your marriage based upon friendship? I.e. are both of you friends and allies? Do you have conversations with each other? Are you from different cultures and have different understandings about Islam? Have you spoken to him about how you notice that he does not demonstrate love or affection, and asked him why that is?
Thank you for your question. To love Allah is to prefer Him to all else in your life and to be attached to him more than your attachment to other things. Love is a connection that matters to you and as such the love of God can be compared to other types of love. Indeed, Allah compares His love to other types of love in the Qur'an (see 9:24 for example). We are naturally in love with God, but that is sometimes confused by our attachments to other types of love. To develop the love of God, some sacrifice is required. The ordinances of our religion help develop that love and among those ordinances is reflecting on the bounties that Allah has bestowed on us, both continually and at various points in our life. It is natural to love those who are good to us, then what about He who is the source of every good in our lives?
May you always be successful
Allah, The Most Merciful, Most Compassionate, created us to shower on us His Mercy and bounties. He is showering on us countless bounties and protecting us from countless harms. His Sympathy on us is more than ten times of the sympathy of the mother on her child acceding to Hadeeth.
He wants us to appreciate and thank Him for His bounties so that He grants us more bounties. لئن شكرتم لأزيدنكم
We are required to admit and confess our sins and seek forgiveness so that He foregives us.
Thank you for your question. As long as the marriage contract was pronounced correctly with all of its conditions and the divorce was also performed correctly the marriage is valid even if this was not the most ethical path.
May you always be successful.
Thank you for your question. The heart is a battleground for two types of love. Love of God and love of the world. In order to remove the love of the world from the heart, the heart has to be filled with the love of God and this is the main purpose of self-purification and refinement and is the crux of spirituality in Islam. In one narration Imam al-Sadiq (as) says: "Is religion other than love."
It is achieved through battling the ego, with knowledge, faith and action. Through knowing the self and not succumbing to the desires of the lower self. By remaining patient in trials and tribulations and increasing one's hope and closeness to God. By realizing all of the ideals of Islam, its ethics and its practices.
May you always be successful
1. The name of Ameerul Mo'mineen Ali (AS) was mentioned in the Athaan during the time of the Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) as you can find it is Sunni books like Assalaafah Fi Akhbar al-Khilafah by al-Maraaghi, page 24. After the announcement of Ghadeer when the Prophet asked all companions to give allegiance to Ali, the first Athaan given by Bilâl was with Ashhadu Anna Ali Ameerul Mo'mineen.
Some opponents of Ali objected on that and complained to the Prophet saying : the sin of black woman (Bilâl) has added on Athaan. The Prophet rejected their complain and asked them : Then what did we announce ?
Clearly, the witness the Ali is Ameerul Mo'mineen is the soul of Ghadeer announcement and the spirit of Islam being the divine successor of the Prophet (SAWA).
2. This status of Ali is mentioned in many Sunni books like Musnad Ahmad Ibn Hanbal, volume of Fadha'il Ali Ibn Abi Talib, page 342 who narrated Hadeeth of Jaabir ibn Abdullah al-Ansaari, from the Prophet Muhammad (SAWA): I saw on the gate of Paradise a writing : LAA ELAAHA ILLALLAH, MUHAMMAD IS RASOOLULLAH, ALI IS BROTHER OF RASOOLULLAH.
3. A man came to the Prophet (SAWA) and said: I saw and heard Salman (al-Farisi) mentioning is Athaan after the witness of Risalah, a witness of Wilayah to Ali. The Prophet replied him: What you heard (from Salman) is good.
( عنوان الصحيفة Onwan al-Saheefah, page 81.
4. We have authentic Hadeeth from the Prophet (SAWA) : When you mention me with Prophet hood, mention Ali as Ameerul Mo'mineen.
5. Mentioning the name of Ali (AS) in Athaan is not matter of love because we love Fatimah and all the Infallible Imams, but we do not mention their name in Athaan, but it is a matter of following the orders of the Prophet to all Muslims to follow Ali.
6. All our great scholars say that mentioning Ali as Ameerul Mo'mineen in Athaan and Eqamah is recommended. We do have few Ulama who said that it is obligatory as a sign of faith but our present Maraaji' of Taqleed say it is Mustahab (recommended).
7. Those who claim mentioning the name of Ali in Athaan is Bid'ah are very far from the authentic evidence or they might be influenced by the books of others who are away from Ahlul Bayt (AS).
as salam alaikum
many believers that mentions Ali's name during the adhan, do it out of love and later scholars usually says that it is mustahab. However it was not part of the original Adhan and if it is said thinking that it was part of the original Adhan it is almost unanimously considered as an act of innovation (bid'ah).
With prayers for your success.
You may say this if you are both mahram to each other. Being Halal to each other is established by reading the nikah or a mutah formula with the correct conditions. After this, sharing affectionate words is permitted.
May Allah grant you success