Parents

A parent is a caregiver of the offspring in their own species. In humans, a parent is the caretaker of a child (where "child" refers to offspring, not necessarily age). A biological parent is a person whose gamete resulted in a child, a male through the sperm, and a female through the ovum.

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Children . Animals . Parents

What should I do if children in my locality intentionally harm animals, even after I've tried talking to them and informing their parents, but no one seems to care?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

We can not force others to stop doing wrong. We should try our best to make them stop harming the animals, but we can not force them. After trying our best, we will not be responsible of what others do.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Education . Predestination . Marriage

My parents are forcing me to get married to someone I don't want to marry. They say they will no longer pay for my education if I don't get married. What should I do?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Your parents cannot force you to marry anyone. Islamically, it will not be a valid nikah marriage as well.

If they are threatening you with such things like not funding your education, then let it be, but you should not give in to marrying someone you do not wish to marry.

Speak to an elder in your family, or your local scholar, so they are able to address this with your parents, as long as you are safe. If you feel unsafe, then you must make measures to secure your safety.

This kind of behaviour from parents is completely unacceptable, oppressive, and anyone around you who knows of it must help you.

With prayers for your success.

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Parents . Consent . Marriage

Can a couple marry if the lady's parents do not consent but have no valid reason for rejection?

If the rejection of the girl is not based in a valid reason in Islam, and the girl needs the marriage to save herself from falling in to sin, she will be then allowed to get married to a suitable Momin man whom she trusts in his faith and morals.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Science . Medicine

If my parents want me to become a doctor, but I am passionate about computer science and their lack of support is causing me distress, should I still follow their wishes despite not wanting to pursue medicine?

Bismihi ta'ala

In lot of cases, parents have certain standards and expectations for their children, in which at times are different to the child, and I strongly believe parents should support their son/daughter in the field they are passionate in and interested in pursuing, and should encourage, as long as it is halal, honourable and ambitious.

If it is causing you distress, and you do not think you can pursue it, then be frank with them, and try to convince them of your area of interest. In shaa Allah they will understand you and support you.

The important thing is you always try to make yourself and your family proud, in being a high achiever.

With prayers for your success

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Parents . Wedding . Engagement . Istikhara

My parents got 4 Istekharas done that came out positive. I then got engaged and now, close to my wedding, my parents got Istekhara done again that has came out negative. What should I do?

Act upon the first Istekhara. No other Istekhara on the same matter unless there is a change in the matter.

Wassalam.

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Wife . Parents . Marriage . Silat al-Rahm

My wife dislikes my parents due to the problems they caused in our marriage and she is demanding from me to cut ties with my parents. Is it allowed in Islam?

Bismihi ta'ala

It is very unfortunate that your wife is holding onto a grudge, especially towards her parent-in-laws, which is not good and will affect her relationship with you as well. Whatever happened, and if they were right or wrong, both sides should think greater than that and focus on building good ties with each other.

Her demanding you to cut ties is also very unethical and haram as well, and you must not accomodate to that as well.
She must learn to forgive and forget, and respect elders, and forcing someone to cut ties with parents is gravely wrong and a major sin.

And Allah knows best.

Wife . Parents . Marriage . Silat al-Rahm

My wife dislikes my parents due to the problems they caused in our marriage and she is demanding from me to cut ties with my parents. Is it allowed in Islam?

It is absolutely forbidden in Islam to cut ties with your parents and this sin is one of the most dangerous major sins which has disastrous results in this life and hereafter. Never listen to any one who tell you to be away from your parents because this is what Shaitan wants you to do in order to be with Shaitan against Allah and against your parents. Whatever your parents did or still do which you don't like, you must be very nice to them even if they were unbelievers.

Wassalam.

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Parents

What can we do to compensate for past misbehaviour with our parents?

It compulsory to compensate such behaviour to be sure to avoid the bad results of it in this life and hereafter. Bad deeds must be countered by very good deeds as we read in Quran ( Surely, good deeds remove away the bad deeds)( Sura Hood;114).

1. If your parents are alive, you must serve them with out letting them ask you and fulfill their needs and wishes as much as you can to make them really feel that you are compensating your misbehaviour.

2. If they are not alive, you must do maximum good deeds and gift it to them like getting their religious debts performed e.g. missed prayers, fast, Khums, Hajj or any other debt they had. Above that to give Charity on their behalf or recite Quran or Du'a, Majlis, Ziyarat, Hajj and Umra.

3. Visiting them if they are alive or their graves as it is like visiting them and it makes them happy.

4. Praying for them every day and night especially during and after all your prayers.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Maghrib . Salah (Prayers)

My parents are making me take driving classes at night but I will miss Maghrib prayers. I have to go though because they have already paid. Am I sinful and can I make up my prayer later?

Bismihi ta'ala

Booking driving lesson or anything of this sort is not at all a valid excuse for missing out on your wajib prayers. Your parents should have arranged it in such a way where you can pray, and the duty of parents is to teach their children to always prioritise prayer.

Yes, if you will be late for prayers, and will still be able to pray within the time frame for prayer, that would be permissible, although its always best to pray on time. So, it would be ok for you to go to the driving class, as long as you have time to pray.

However, if you will not have enough time, then it will be impermissible and haram.

And Allah knows best.

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Parents . Obedience

Is it obligatory to obey the parents if they ask for something that they do not really need and that is beyond what is normal and necessary for them?

You must always treat your parents in the best possible way of treatment and look after them and serve them to make them always happy with you. If they ask something which out of your ability, try to explain to them, but never hurt their feelings.

‘Wassalam

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Parents . Father . Daughter . Marriage

If parents get separated and the father clearly says that he does not want to be a part of his daughter’s marriage, is his permission still required for the daughter to marry someone?

Such statement can be because of anger and he might repent later. He should be asked again when his daughter is about to get married. If he says then that he is not concerned, then his father ( her paternal grand father) should be asked. If he is not alive or not available, then she can decide her marriage by herself.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Medicine . Employment . Marriage

I am a 16 year old girl and I would love to work someday as a doctor. Is it wrong of me to wish for such a life, while my parents do support me in looking to study medicine but they seem like they would want me to get married right afterwards?

Nothing wrong in wishing to work as a doctor especially when thousands of our females need female doctors to treat them. Even if you get married after medical graduation, you can work as a doctor and there is no contradiction between marriage and working as far as you organise it with your husband.

Wassalam.

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