Zaid Alsalami

Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from ANU, Canberra. He has written and translated several Islamic texts and also prepared educational videos on Islamic rulings and practices.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 day ago

 Bismihi ta'ala

At first, we must understand the practice of istikharah, when/how/where and why it is done. If we do not correctly understand the purpose and usage of istikharah, we will face problems. 

Marriage itself and pursuing a case for marriage is not something that should be dependent on istikharah. If you take the correct avenues, with having family and elders involved, and investigating and asking about the life and behaviour of the prospect spouse, then you are going to reach a conclusion. 

If you have prioritised the correct requirements for a spouse, in being religious, and in having high akhlaq standards, then the investigation and consulting with others will give you your answer. There would be no need to resort to istikharah

Istikharah would only be applicable if after everything you are still two-minded, and you need to seek divine intervention. 

In any case, it is not haram to go against an istikharah. Of course, it's certainly better to not disregard the answer given to you by istikharah, or why else did you turn to do it in the first place. 

If you did an istikharah, and it turned out against what you deeply wanted, and you wish to pursue it, then pay some sadaqah, allow some time to pass, change the circumstances, and then decide whether you wish to pursue it, or do another istikharah.

Always bear in mind that just because istikharah came out good, does not mean your marriage will last. You still need to be all your effort in keeping a marriage, and maybe it is God's fate for you to go through whatever is destined for you. That's why the best thing is always to make sure your spouse selection is based on the solid criteria recommended by Islam. 

With prayers for your success. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 day ago

Bismihi ta'ala

We have covered the topic of waswasah and doubts in tahara a few times, and you are able to search in the Q&A on the topic of waswasah and taharah. 

The simple rule of thumb is because you are doubting, you consider it all to be tahir. Nothing more. 

Please watch this clip, which is a part of a lesson I gave on taharah and najasah. Hope it will be of benefit. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 day ago

Bismihi ta'ala

In Islam, severing ties with family and kin is haram and considered a major sin. As for a friend, there are many necessary requirements and conditions for a believer to take someone else as a friend. 

Friendship and Islamic brotherhood is extremely important, and we have many narrations that give us the guidelines of how selective we need to be with those who we associate with. We should be social, but never at the cost of exposing oneself to a morally polluted environment. 

As humans, we are easily influenced by our surroundings, as strong as we may be, and therefore we must always be cautious about who we mix with. Someone who is careless about what they say and uses foul language, or backbites, or lies, is certainly not the kind of person you should consider as a friend or associate with. 

Islamically, it is haram to be in the same gathering with someone who backbites, and you should stay away from such people. Of course, at first you should try to give advice and encourage them to be observant of what they say, but if that fails, then distance yourself. 

And Allah knows best. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 day ago

Bismihi ta'ala

There is no fiqhi problem with working on a Eid day. The income you earned for the day would also be halal.

However, it would be ideal that a Muslim devotes such days to worship, doing the mustahab things for Eid, and also spending it with family and kin. 

And Allah knows best.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 day ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, it is allowed to cut nails on a Tuesday. 

For further information about cutting of nails, please refer to this Q&A:

https://www.al-islam.org/ask/is-there-a-recommended-time-to-trim-our-nai...

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 day ago

Bismihi ta'ala

The specific time for the nafilah of fajr is entering of fajr time, which in this example would be from 6:10. So, you should pray nafilatul-subh at 6:10, and then pray salat al-subh after that.  

And Allah knows best. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 day ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, using water of that amount would be sufficient, and there is no need for drying off the water. 

And Allah knows best. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 6 days ago

Bismihi ta'ala

There is no Islamic ruling that forbids contact between an ex husband and wife. Yes, they become non-mahram to each other, but their parent-in-laws do stay mahram to them. This means that although he is divorced, his mother-in-law still stays mahram. And the same for the ex-wife as well. 

It would be the best thing for ex-partners to stay civil and have good conduct towards each other. It does not need to be hostile and a battle. The ex might be uncomfortable in the presence of their ex, that is understandable, but it is not forbidden or haram to have common interaction, like between any other non-mahram, along with observing the correct shar'i boundaries as well. 

However, if there are children from that relationship, it would be necessary to have a positive and healthy relationship, or at least neutral and not hostile in any way. If there is a certain event that would bring both together, or a family gathering, or something of that kind, then it is absolutely fine to be there. You have a choice of attending, or excusing yourself. Whether you wish to interact or not, that is completely up to you. 

It could be the case that there was violence in the relationship, for example, and therefore the ex-wife would not be comfortable at all in being in the same place as the ex-husband. 

In any case, to answer your specific question, yes, it is allowed for her to accept the invitation, bearing in mind everything else I have mentioned. 

And Allah knows best. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 6 days ago

Bismihi ta'ala

This question has already been answered. See:

https://www.al-islam.org/ask/if-i-was-granted-a-khulah-and-my-husband-wa...

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 week ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Istinjā` is washing yourself after relieving yourself in the toilet. This is of course very important for the purpose of tahārah, wanting to pray, etc. 

However, there is something else that is important to do, but is not obligatory, and that is istibrā`. Istibrā` is clearing the urinary outlet after urinating. For a male, you do this by what we call the nine squeezes.

The advantage of istibrā` is if you do it, with any discharge you might feel after the istibrā`  and the istinjā` , you consider it to be tahir. However, if you do not do the istibrā`, and you experience a discharge, not knowing what it is, you deem it as najis, and you must wash yourself again.  

I have added a link to a recorded lesson on this, with detailed explanation.  

And Allah knows best. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 week ago

Bismihi ta'ala

That is very good that you come from a religious family, and as a religious person you know what your obligations are. 

In our Shi'i fiqh, it is permissible to marry anyone from other Islamic sects, as long as you are free to keep your Shi'i identity and uphold your Shi'i practices. You do not necessarily need to convert him to becoming a Shi'i, as this is something that comes from within. 

It is his choice, if he is interested in learning about Ahlul Bayt (a.s.), and following the Imams (a.s.), or not, as long as he does not harbour hatred to the Ahlul Bayt (a.s.). 

Something that you must keep in mind is his surroundings, and those influencing him. In some cases, the husband/wife might be neutral, or compliant, but then get negatively influenced by an extremist, or a Wahhabi, or a takfiri, and then this starts to have an impact on the marriage. 

In early stages of life, he/she might not be that religious, but then after a while, they start to pick up on things, and condemn you for praying on soil, or mourning Imam Husain (a.s.), or wanting to go to Ziyarah, and so on. 

This does happen, and so it is very important that both sides clarify everything and make sure there will be no sort of mistreatment based on sect. 

Another thing that you must think of is because you are "in love", it might cloud your judgment as to whether you are making the right decision. 

It is absolutely necessary that you consult with your parents, and also discuss things with your elders and family members, to make sure you have their consent, and also the decision you are making is the right decision. This should always be the case, whether the prospect spouse be Sunni, or Shi'i, or anything else. 

So, if he has the positive requirements of a husband, and he meets all the conditions, along with your family's approval, then discuss that's a very good thing. 

You can discuss topics related to Ahlul Bayt (a.s.), but it has to be his decision from within himself if he has the interest and wishes to learn more, or not. That must be his choice, and not something imposed on him. 

With prayers for your success. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 week ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, video games are halal to play, and so is any other halal entertainment, as long as it does not entail anything that is haram. 

Things that could make it haram is watching indecent scenes, learning bad habits, like swear words, abandoning your obligations, like prayer. 

Just a few things to keep in mind when it comes to games:

1. Unfortunately, a lot of games have very graphic content, whether it be nudity or extreme violence. You have to be aware of this, and make the right choices. If its too graphic, with excessive sexual content, or too much violence, then do not expose yourself to this. It's not worth it. Keep your soul pure and innocent. 

2. In Islam, vulgar and offensive language and usage of swear words is haram and a sin. It carries many negative consequences, and we must avoid engaging in such conduct. Sadly, many youngsters are exposed to this, in TV programs and in games, so much that we have become desensitized to them. Try to minimize this damage, and do not allow yourself to pick up on such a habit. 

3. Time management. Manage your time, and do not become too consumed into the game. Being in front of a screen for a long time is not good at all. Balance your life, and learn to do that on your own. Bit of entertainment, bit of work, bit of study, bit of family, bit of a outdoor, bit of house chores, and so on. Take breaks, especially for salat time, and just make sure you don't lose track of time. 

4. If you are under age, approval from parents is very important. Tell your parents what you are playing, what its rated, how much time you are going to spend playing, and so on. If you know your parents do not allow you to play a certain game, or play online, or play too much, comply and respect that. Learn to do as you are told, even if you don't like it. 

5. Stay away from online gaming as much as you can, especially if you are young. If you want to play online, make sure there is correct supervision, and you know what you are doing. 

6. Do not spend too much money on these things. You don't need to have the latest game, and buy it for highest price just because it is new and just came out. Wait a while, and the price will drop, then buy it. Trade games, and limit your budget. Think about something more generous to do. If you have a console you do not want, give it to a poor person, and give them games as well. Thinking of charity and children who are not as privileged is also a very important thing to do. 

With prayers for your success.